What does "sex positivity" mean on online dating profiles?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Men don’t use this phrase.

+1. It’s a woman who is lets her freak flag fully fly with no shame and expects a man dealing with her to accept that without reservation. Or, if on the odd chance it is a man, he’s using the term solely to get laid easily by the aforementioned gal.

[Anonymous]

Slut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Men don’t use this phrase.

+1. It’s a woman who is lets her freak flag fully fly with no shame and expects a man dealing with her to accept that without reservation. Or, if on the odd chance it is a man, he’s using the term solely to get laid easily by the aforementioned gal.[/quote

I sometimes wish I had married one of those women, but I found 90% of them to be terribly physically unattractive.

[Anonymous]

High body count

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Men don’t use this phrase.

+1. It’s a woman who is lets her freak flag fully fly with no shame and expects a man dealing with her to accept that without reservation. Or, if on the odd chance it is a man, he’s using the term solely to get laid easily by the aforementioned gal.

I sometimes wish I had married one of those women, but I found 90% of them to be terribly physically unattractive.

How’s that working out for you?

[Anonymous]

Hahaha, it's the new more socially appropriate way to say DTF. People think it sounds classier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Nobody gets to demand sex from another person … it sounds incredibly entitled coming from a man.

And you are person that this guy is weeding out. You are a red flag.
The idea that you don't understand that people have different needs and wants versus rape is a huge red flag.

“Sex positivity” = will have sex with me per the frequency & type of sex I “need” and “want.” Conceptualizing sexuality as unilaterally getting your “needs” met is … extremely unsexy.

Sex positive male here and my biggest turn off is a woman who can’t or will not communicate needs and desires to me. Or prevents us from figuring out together what brings her the most pleasures.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Men don’t use this phrase.

+1. It’s a woman who is lets her freak flag fully fly with no shame and expects a man dealing with her to accept that without reservation. Or, if on the odd chance it is a man, he’s using the term solely to get laid easily by the aforementioned gal.

I sometimes wish I had married one of those women, but I found 90% of them to be terribly physically unattractive.

How’s that working out for you?

Decent sex life, relatively stable, happy, though not perfect family life. House in the burbs, kid headed to a good state school. No permanent STD's.

[Anonymous]

This is what it means if a guy says he’s sex positive: https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/what-it-means-when-a-woman-says-she-is-sex-positive-according-to-brian-from-hinge

I immediately block any man with that in his profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Nobody gets to demand sex from another person … it sounds incredibly entitled coming from a man.

Wow… all the guy said was that he wouldn’t entertain a non sexual relationship, and to you this equates to demanding sex? That’s a you issue, not a him issue.

Nobody is on OLD because they are looking for a nonsexual relationship. If a man demands a woman be “sex positive” it means he is demanding that sex be according to HIS agenda. Which could not be a bigger turn-off to me (and I like sex). I guess I’ve been around long enough to realize that there are two types of men: those authentically interested in women enjoying sex with them; and those who just want to f.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what it means if a guy says he’s sex positive: https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/what-it-means-when-a-woman-says-she-is-sex-positive-according-to-brian-from-hinge

I immediately block any man with that in his profile.

I thought this was pretty funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Men don’t use this phrase.

+1. It’s a woman who is lets her freak flag fully fly with no shame and expects a man dealing with her to accept that without reservation. Or, if on the odd chance it is a man, he’s using the term solely to get laid easily by the aforementioned gal.

Yes, there is a big difference between a man saying he wants a “sex positive” woman, and a woman labeling herself “sex positive.” A woman who calls herself that likely wants to screen out judgmental men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Men don’t use this phrase.

+1. It’s a woman who is lets her freak flag fully fly with no shame and expects a man dealing with her to accept that without reservation. Or, if on the odd chance it is a man, he’s using the term solely to get laid easily by the aforementioned gal.

I sometimes wish I had married one of those women, but I found 90% of them to be terribly physically unattractive.

How’s that working out for you?

Decent sex life, relatively stable, happy, though not perfect family life. House in the burbs, kid headed to a good state school. No permanent STD's.

I don’t think any of those things are predicated on having a terribly attractive wife.
You could have had this and a great sex life with a freaky girl .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what it means if a guy says he’s sex positive: https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/what-it-means-when-a-woman-says-she-is-sex-positive-according-to-brian-from-hinge

I immediately block any man with that in his profile.

lol!!! indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect this is a man trying to weed out women who view sex as an optional thing that is nice when the stars aligned. As a man who views sex as an ESSENTIAL regular part of a relationship, I fully understand wanting to weed those women out.

Nobody gets to demand sex from another person … it sounds incredibly entitled coming from a man.

Wow… all the guy said was that he wouldn’t entertain a non sexual relationship, and to you this equates to demanding sex? That’s a you issue, not a him issue.

Nobody is on OLD because they are looking for a nonsexual relationship. If a man demands a woman be “sex positive” it means he is demanding that sex be according to HIS agenda. Which could not be a bigger turn-off to me (and I like sex). I guess I’ve been around long enough to realize that there are two types of men: those authentically interested in women enjoying sex with them; and those who just want to f.

I have honestly never met or heard of a man who isn’t genuinely interested in mutually enjoyable sex with his partner.
You must root them out, pp.