Husband wants to spend the entire new years weekend with his mom and dad

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t reward bad behavior. I would stay home. Husband can go have a sleepover with mommy and daddy. Do not engage in the fight. Leave the room when he brings it up.

OP here. He says that he and his mom discussed this in front of me at Christmas and it’s on me because I did not say anything! Well, yes HE said we will come stay over next weekend without talking to me!! I don’t want to create a scene in front of his family so I ignored it. And when I brought it up today, since he told me to pack my overnight bags, he flipped out and locked himself in his office. He says I keep him from his parents and he will make a decision to go do what he wants.

Erm his parents live 20 mins away! I have never said he can’t spend time with them!

This is so not believable. Sorry.

Hit the report button. Jeff will check if it’s a troll.

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Spend one night and spend part of the days otherwise there while he remains the whole weekend.

[Anonymous]

Hard no here. DH and I discuss all plans. It is always, let me check with the other.

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

So why didn't they already have other plans?

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

So why didn't they already have other plans?

You don’t need to “have plans” to pick up some champagne and caviar and get down, love. If any of that is too taxing, sounds like dominoes with septuagenarians is more your speed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

YES high pressure holidays with sky high expectations are a surefire way to happiness

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Anonymous wrote:Mommy and daddy live 20 min away and he still wants to spend the entire holiday weekend with them? Those apron strings must be really strong.

+1 What DINK couple wants to spend NYE with their parents? Unless it’s a family party and all his siblings, cousins, etc. are going to be there it just seems so odd.

I'm a 50 year old DINK and would totally spend NYE with my parents.

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Of course you would because you’re freaking 50 years old. You and OP are in totally different generations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

YES high pressure holidays with sky high expectations are a surefire way to happiness

Picking up a bottle of champagne and some caviar and having some fun with your spouse is some big deal? Some huge effort? That’s sad to hear. For some of us, that’s a Thursday night.

[Anonymous]

Spending NYE/weekend with nearby in-laws as a young, childless, married couple is downright bizarre. I'm sure there have been other instances where he has put his parents first, no? This can't be a one off.

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Not checking with you before answering, wanting so much mommy daddy time, and locking himself in the office? Red flags. Do not procreate with this man. Get out and find an adult to be with. You have been warned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

You are making a lot of assumptions about the plans for both days. OP is looking for a fight - not a good way to start off the year.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a child, OP. Never have children, for our sake.

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

You are making a lot of assumptions about the plans for both days. OP is looking for a fight - not a good way to start off the year.

OP is looking to relax after already seeing family for the holidays. It doesn’t matter if her plans are champagne or a face mask and bed by 10, it’s HER time and she doesn’t want to spend it with them. Get over it, Gladys!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a child, OP. Never have children, for our sake.

Um hanging out with old people isn’t fun on NYE. Sorry you are sensitive about being 50.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a child, OP. Never have children, for our sake.

Um hanging out with old people isn’t fun on NYE. Sorry you are sensitive about being 50.

I truly hope you are a teenage troll.