Husband wants to spend the entire new years weekend with his mom and dad

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

You go and then ask for a trip for just the two of you for Valentine's Day, etc. NBD. Stop looking for a fight.

Um, no. NYE for a child-free couple should be champagne, caviar and sex, not dominoes with old people.

You are making a lot of assumptions about the plans for both days. OP is looking for a fight - not a good way to start off the year.

OP is looking to relax after already seeing family for the holidays. It doesn’t matter if her plans are champagne or a face mask and bed by 10, it’s HER time and she doesn’t want to spend it with them. Get over it, Gladys!

Maybe DH is BORED and wants to be around other people...

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Is it really that much of an imposition on your precious time to spend the weekend with the family of the man you supposedly love?

Some of you are just looking for reasons to be miserable.

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So NYE is a family holiday in my family (immigrants from eastern europe) and we go over there and spend the night of the 31st including staying overnight. Before kids, we came over at 5, helped prep and took a nap. Festivities started at 10 with food and games and music. Ball drop and champagne and more games (white elephant and charades) people went home around 3. Now we go with our kids and its tamer but adults still stay up until 12 and toast. My oldest is 10 and stays up with us. Its a lovely family tradition that my american husband embraced and he has a lot of fun. We have nice romantic nights and weekends other times.

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Why not spend Saturday and Sunday morning at the in-laws and then have a romantic New Year's Eve with DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And wants us to sleep over there!

Wtf? New Years is NOT a family holiday!! And I definitely do not want to sleep over there.

Let him and kids stay, you go rest or party.

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Anonymous wrote:So NYE is a family holiday in my family (immigrants from eastern europe) and we go over there and spend the night of the 31st including staying overnight. Before kids, we came over at 5, helped prep and took a nap. Festivities started at 10 with food and games and music. Ball drop and champagne and more games (white elephant and charades) people went home around 3. Now we go with our kids and its tamer but adults still stay up until 12 and toast. My oldest is 10 and stays up with us. Its a lovely family tradition that my american husband embraced and he has a lot of fun. We have nice romantic nights and weekends other times.

OK? What’s your point? Why should OP care about what you and your family like to do?

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Anonymous wrote:More context is needed. How far away are ILs? Do you have small kids? Did you see them at Christmas? Why does DH want to go for the long weekend?

No kids. In our thirties. In laws are 20 mins away. He promised his parents at Christmas that we will be spending the New Years weekend with them, in front of me, without prior consultation with me. I didn’t say anything and thought we could discuss in private afterwards. When I did say no, he is flipping out about how he doesn’t want to break their hearts.

He made the decision so to save face, he needs to say that DW needed downtime so she is staying home. They'll probably tell him to stay home as well.

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You can spend it with your parents. That should make everyone happy.

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Op here. We were invited to a gift exchange and dinner at my sister’s house this evening. I knocked at his office door and asked if he is ready to go. He said he is not going to make it even since I am not going to his parents house and slammed the door in my face.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. We were invited to a gift exchange and dinner at my sister’s house this evening. I knocked at his office door and asked if he is ready to go. He said he is not going to make it even since I am not going to his parents house and slammed the door in my face.

Well, sounds like even Steven.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. We were invited to a gift exchange and dinner at my sister’s house this evening. I knocked at his office door and asked if he is ready to go. He said he is not going to make it even since I am not going to his parents house and slammed the door in my face.

Well, sounds like even Steven.

Sound even more unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We were invited to a gift exchange and dinner at my sister’s house this evening. I knocked at his office door and asked if he is ready to go. He said he is not going to make it even since I am not going to his parents house and slammed the door in my face.

Ooh, new info.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t reward bad behavior. I would stay home. Husband can go have a sleepover with mommy and daddy. Do not engage in the fight. Leave the room when he brings it up.

OP here. He says that he and his mom discussed this in front of me at Christmas and it’s on me because I did not say anything! Well, yes HE said we will come stay over next weekend without talking to me!! I don’t want to create a scene in front of his family so I ignored it. And when I brought it up today, since he told me to pack my overnight bags, he flipped out and locked himself in his office. He says I keep him from his parents and he will make a decision to go do what he wants.

Erm his parents live 20 mins away! I have never said he can’t spend time with them!

What I don’t get is why did you wait four days to talk about it. I mean if this wasn’t going to work for you, you shouldn’t have strung everyone along.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. We were invited to a gift exchange and dinner at my sister’s house this evening. I knocked at his office door and asked if he is ready to go. He said he is not going to make it even since I am not going to his parents house and slammed the door in my face.

Ooh, new info.

With a door slam. In the face!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We were invited to a gift exchange and dinner at my sister’s house this evening. I knocked at his office door and asked if he is ready to go. He said he is not going to make it even since I am not going to his parents house and slammed the door in my face.

A true match made in heaven.