Should I tell the bride she’s not married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here
I dont live in the US.

When we Google people where I live (Europe) adress comes up and so does if they’re married or not. Googled for directions.

So there you go for everyone calling me a creep. Are you embarrassed now?

So then everybody including her can see that search result. Which means you don't need to tell her.

BTW, this is not at all how it works in the US. My marriage records won't be released until my 25th anniversary and even then probably not online (paper by request). As you're posting on a US website to a US audience, wanted to give you some context.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Unless bride and groom are minors or clinically incompetent, they should be able to understand and handle basic legalities. This is none of your business, why are you even snooping around?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here
I dont live in the US.

When we Google people where I live (Europe) adress comes up and so does if they’re married or not. Googled for directions.

So there you go for everyone calling me a creep. Are you embarrassed now?

Not even slightly embarrassed. Also not sure I believe your European BS.

[Anonymous]

Umm so if you “know legally it counts if the wedded couple didn’t know,” then they are, by your logic, legally married, until you tell them they’re not. See the problem here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually saw a story the other day about couples who have weddings but don’t register marriage paperwork with legal authorities, intentionally.

There are certain legal advantages to remaining unmarried, but having the wedding ceremony feeds the familial and cultural expectations.

Yes, I suspect this was the case with a wedding I attended. The bride is very religious, so I think the religious aspect of the wedding was important to her. But I had the feeling that it wasn't meant to be a legal ceremony.

[Anonymous]

F yes op.

[Anonymous]

Agreed to the above. MYOB. My Grandmother told (her grandkids) after her second husband’s death that they had only ever had a religious ceremony and kept all finances separate because she didn’t want his grown children to steal her inheritance from her first husband’s death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed to the above. MYOB. My Grandmother told (her grandkids) after her second husband’s death that they had only ever had a religious ceremony and kept all finances separate because she didn’t want his grown children to steal her inheritance from her first husband’s death.

So, she was aware of it?

[Anonymous]

As an fyi, in most US states, if you have a public ceremony and are married by an officiant, you’re considered legally married, even if a marriage license was never filed. I know this from personally experience (and have the divorce papers to prove it).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an fyi, in most US states, if you have a public ceremony and are married by an officiant, you’re considered legally married, even if a marriage license was never filed. I know this from personally experience (and have the divorce papers to prove it).

Would you please provide the legal citations to support this assertion? It sounds absurd to me.

In fact, in many US jurisdictions an officiant who performs a marriage ceremony without a marriage license present is committing a misdemeanor crime, so I think you are full of it.

But I’m willing to give you the opportunity to provide evidence to support your assertion that any couple who engages in a ceremony and has an officiant declare them married is in fact legally married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually saw a story the other day about couples who have weddings but don’t register marriage paperwork with legal authorities, intentionally.

There are certain legal advantages to remaining unmarried, but having the wedding ceremony feeds the familial and cultural expectations.

Yes, I suspect this was the case with a wedding I attended. The bride is very religious, so I think the religious aspect of the wedding was important to her. But I had the feeling that it wasn't meant to be a legal ceremony.

Ok...so if you suspect this was their intention, why would you need to tell them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an fyi, in most US states, if you have a public ceremony and are married by an officiant, you’re considered legally married, even if a marriage license was never filed. I know this from personally experience (and have the divorce papers to prove it).

Would you please provide the legal citations to support this assertion? It sounds absurd to me.

In fact, in many US jurisdictions an officiant who performs a marriage ceremony without a marriage license present is committing a misdemeanor crime, so I think you are full of it.

But I’m willing to give you the opportunity to provide evidence to support your assertion that any couple who engages in a ceremony and has an officiant declare them married is in fact legally married.

Who are you to ask me to provide you with anything? I wish I were making this up. It’s a fact. It happened to me. I was dumb and obnoxious like you and didn’t believe it was possible for me to be married because no license was filed with the state. I’d even asked my bff who thinks she’s a hot shot lawyer because she went to Cornell and works in BigLaw. She assured me, very confidently, that I wasn’t married. But just after I got engaged again, I double checked with a real family lawyer in the state. And then got a second opinion. Thank god I did, because otherwise I would have been guilty of polygamy.

Maybe you don’t know everything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an fyi, in most US states, if you have a public ceremony and are married by an officiant, you’re considered legally married, even if a marriage license was never filed. I know this from personally experience (and have the divorce papers to prove it).

Would you please provide the legal citations to support this assertion? It sounds absurd to me.

In fact, in many US jurisdictions an officiant who performs a marriage ceremony without a marriage license present is committing a misdemeanor crime, so I think you are full of it.

But I’m willing to give you the opportunity to provide evidence to support your assertion that any couple who engages in a ceremony and has an officiant declare them married is in fact legally married.

Who are you to ask me to provide you with anything? I wish I were making this up. It’s a fact. It happened to me. I was dumb and obnoxious like you and didn’t believe it was possible for me to be married because no license was filed with the state. I’d even asked my bff who thinks she’s a hot shot lawyer because she went to Cornell and works in BigLaw. She assured me, very confidently, that I wasn’t married. But just after I got engaged again, I double checked with a real family lawyer in the state. And then got a second opinion. Thank god I did, because otherwise I would have been guilty of polygamy.

Maybe you don’t know everything?

Maybe you’re more than a little defensive and should calm down? NP.