Teen girl telling boyfriend no sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girl 16 wants to tell her boyfriend (also 16) she’s not up for sex (of any kind) while she’s in high school. She’s worried she’s going to lose him and she’s not sure how to approach it.

I want to offer her helpful advice, but I’m not sure what to say.

Tell her lots of us regret sleeping with our HS boyfriends.

+1000000

Boys are a distraction and sex at 16 can cause lots of drama/emotional pain. She’s smart to put it off.

[Anonymous]

Break up with him before he breaks up with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

how many boyfriends did you have during this time?

I didn't have sex in high school either, because I was a kid and there was no reason to. I'm a fully functioning adult.

[Anonymous]

I’ve known too many teenage girls who found themselves pregnant, and the boy who swore he loved her and would never leave her suddenly vanished.

At 16, don’t risk it. The consequences are too great for a few moments of pleasure.

Be firm and break up now if he doesn’t agree with a non sexual relationship. It will hurt, but a lot less than potentially being a teen mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve known too many teenage girls who found themselves pregnant, and the boy who swore he loved her and would never leave her suddenly vanished.

At 16, don’t risk it. The consequences are too great for a few moments of pleasure.

Be firm and break up now if he doesn’t agree with a non sexual relationship. It will hurt, but a lot less than potentially being a teen mom.

wow where did you grow up? i never knew anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

how many boyfriends did you have during this time?

I didn't have sex in high school either, because I was a kid and there was no reason to. I'm a fully functioning adult.

so i take it - you didn't have a boyfriend, either? but this girl does somehow. why?

maybe - if you are not ready for sex, you are not ready to have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

how many boyfriends did you have during this time?

I didn't have sex in high school either, because I was a kid and there was no reason to. I'm a fully functioning adult.

so i take it - you didn't have a boyfriend, either? but this girl does somehow. why?

maybe - if you are not ready for sex, you are not ready to have a boyfriend?

NP. Nope, that bolded is incorrect. I happily "dated" a boy from the end of 6th grade to the end of 8th. We barely made out. But it was a big deal that we sat at the same lunch table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

how many boyfriends did you have during this time?

I didn't have sex in high school either, because I was a kid and there was no reason to. I'm a fully functioning adult.

so i take it - you didn't have a boyfriend, either? but this girl does somehow. why?

maybe - if you are not ready for sex, you are not ready to have a boyfriend?

NP. Nope, that bolded is incorrect. I happily "dated" a boy from the end of 6th grade to the end of 8th. We barely made out. But it was a big deal that we sat at the same lunch table.

"dated". you put the quotes yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve known too many teenage girls who found themselves pregnant, and the boy who swore he loved her and would never leave her suddenly vanished.

At 16, don’t risk it. The consequences are too great for a few moments of pleasure.

Be firm and break up now if he doesn’t agree with a non sexual relationship. It will hurt, but a lot less than potentially being a teen mom.

wow where did you grow up? i never knew anyone.

DP here. I grew up in CA in the 90’s. Several teen pregnancies in my small high school (and probably several more abortions that I didn’t know about).
However it’s a large leap to say the girl is risking being a teen mom - there are many ways to prevent that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

how many boyfriends did you have during this time?

I didn't have sex in high school either, because I was a kid and there was no reason to. I'm a fully functioning adult.

so i take it - you didn't have a boyfriend, either? but this girl does somehow. why?

maybe - if you are not ready for sex, you are not ready to have a boyfriend?

NP. Nope, that bolded is incorrect. I happily "dated" a boy from the end of 6th grade to the end of 8th. We barely made out. But it was a big deal that we sat at the same lunch table.

why is it important to you to call a boy you sat with at the lunch table in middle school (your own description of your relationship) your boyfriend? just curious.

[Anonymous]

Most important is that she makes the decision for herself. TBH, most HS guys aren’t worth selling out your principles over or doing what is best for you.

[Anonymous]

For all of the "teen pregnancy" posters, I read "of any kind" meaning nothing. No kissing, touching, etc. That’s a big difference from not wanting to go all the way.

[Anonymous]

I graduated high school a technical virgin, but did other things.

[Anonymous]

No piv or no nothing? It’s not a boyfriend is nothing.