DW acting as if nothing is happening during divorce mediation
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Anonymous
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I would get a lock for the bedroom door so she can't just come in there and discuss with her an expectation that your rooms are private spaces and you will both knock before going in your respective rooms.
No 50 minute conversations unless related to the kids or divorce logistics or some other practical and necessary subject. I think you have to answer her call because you don't know if its something kid-related but once you determine it isn't tell her you're busy and need to get back to work or whatever. If she's in your room tell her you need to go so you can work on some divorce-related logistical item. |
Anonymous
| You need boundaries OP. On the phone with her for 50 min yesterday? |
Anonymous
| Are you actually undergoing a formal in-home separation? |
Anonymous
The woman hating incel makes an appearance… |
Anonymous
| OP I recently divorced and dealt with a similar issue with DH. He was the one who asked for divorce and was also acting totally normal. We had a contested divorce without fights at home. However, post-divorce he turned into an extremely jealous person to the point where I am thinking of getting a restraining order.....I am seeing red flags all over in your case. |
Anonymous
| What I am worried about most are the kids once you guys break the news to them. They will be confused because you guys are still acting like a normal couple, yet you are on your way to divorcing. |
Anonymous
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Personality disorder.....A 50 mins phone call about non-divorce and/or kids related topics in the middle of divorce that's very uncommon.
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Anonymous
| Others would know better than I would but I would not only move out but insist that all future communications go through some sort of text-based app designed to save correspondence in case this gets ugly. |
Anonymous
We r not talking about being polite and kind. What we are talking about is that op’s wife wants a divorce on one hand and on the other she is acting like she wants to remain married. Thats psycho behavior. And there’s nothing polite and kind about belittling your spouse having an inflated sense of self worth |
Anonymous
* and having inflated sense of self worth |
Anonymous
Wife sounds unhinged |
Anonymous
I'm curious about this too. You say you suggested counseling, but what came before that? I think alot of her behavior could be explained by what happened in the prelude to her asking for divorce. For example, if there were issues that you declined to work on for years until she got fed up and asked for divorce and then she got mad at you for them wanting counseling Maybe she wants you to fight a little harder |
Anonymous
| I think her behavior is weird but that your reaction for now is wise. Once mediation is done and you guys have separated houses and finalized everything, you can detach more. |
Anonymous
| Smack her in the face with reality and move out. You will feel better and she will eventually get over it. |
Anonymous
| OP good for you for no being depressed. 9/10 posts related to divorce on this forum are about people crying, begging and whatnot about their divorce as if divorce is the end of the world. |