4th grade girl struggling at new school

[Anonymous]

Hi all,
Not sure if anyone will see this but we did end up switching her back to her old school and she is so much happier. We kept in touch with her old friends so she just fit right back in immediately. Even the boys were happy to have her back. The old school has made a ton of improvements this year and I can already tell. The administration was fantastic--unlike the other school which was a bit hostile to us pulling her out and only the head of school showed us empathy (she was great though). Academically, turns out for 4th grade the immersion school is actually more rigorous than the more prestigious exclusive school and she is happy to be back in the immersion environment. Tuition-wise it's a mess but I would pay 10x as much all over again to get her out of that situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you switch schools OP? I actually hear this a lot from parents at small private schools. They think its going to be nurturing or something and it just isn't.

Well, I am having a way worse time at public school with mean girls. 100 times worse. Switching to private. We were at private two years ago and did not have these issues.

It’s the age not the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi all,
Not sure if anyone will see this but we did end up switching her back to her old school and she is so much happier. We kept in touch with her old friends so she just fit right back in immediately. Even the boys were happy to have her back. The old school has made a ton of improvements this year and I can already tell. The administration was fantastic--unlike the other school which was a bit hostile to us pulling her out and only the head of school showed us empathy (she was great though). Academically, turns out for 4th grade the immersion school is actually more rigorous than the more prestigious exclusive school and she is happy to be back in the immersion environment. Tuition-wise it's a mess but I would pay 10x as much all over again to get her out of that situation.

Glad to hear it OP.

We are stuck paying tuition at the old private bc we switched DD to private, but I know if we left her at old private she would have languished. It's hard--glad you are taking care of yours!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi all,
Not sure if anyone will see this but we did end up switching her back to her old school and she is so much happier. We kept in touch with her old friends so she just fit right back in immediately. Even the boys were happy to have her back. The old school has made a ton of improvements this year and I can already tell. The administration was fantastic--unlike the other school which was a bit hostile to us pulling her out and only the head of school showed us empathy (she was great though). Academically, turns out for 4th grade the immersion school is actually more rigorous than the more prestigious exclusive school and she is happy to be back in the immersion environment. Tuition-wise it's a mess but I would pay 10x as much all over again to get her out of that situation.

That’s great news, OP. I think too many overvalue the academic component and undervalue the social emotional/happiness component. I wish my parents would have done for me what you have done for your DD—good looking out for her well being.

[Anonymous]

OP you did great!!!! So happy that your daughter was able to go back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you switch schools OP? I actually hear this a lot from parents at small private schools. They think its going to be nurturing or something and it just isn't.

Well, I am having a way worse time at public school with mean girls. 100 times worse. Switching to private. We were at private two years ago and did not have these issues.

Opposite problem here. Nice girls in public and really mean snobby ones in private.