45 soon do be divorced introvert

[Anonymous]

No really, OP does sound like a troll. The post reads ... weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I am going through divorce right now. DW 38 is leaving me for someone else. We have 2 kids 12 and 9. I am not taking this well. To add insult to injury she appears kind of excited and liberated as a result of this. She is not showing any sadness. We have been married for 11 years and been together 16 years. She was only my second girlfriend when we started dating and the only woman I have been with sexually.

I am taking this hard because I am an introvert I don’t have any friend. I have a good friend but he lives hours away. So I am pretty much alone. In the only child too so can’t even talk to it to a brother or sister. The only time I am not sad is when I am with my kids.

Now I am thinking about the future. I can’t change my personality at 45 but I can try to be more outgoing. Being so shy around woman how do I even go about meeting someone new? Where do I go? Honestly I am more scared about the future than loosing my wife. Yes loosing her sucks but she doesn’t love me anymore so eventually I will forget about her. But what comes next given my shyness, being 45 and divorced with 42 kid will probably take many potential women out of the picture.

At 45 I am still attractive. I work out a lot and I have a beautiful and muscular physique (although I haven’t been to the gym in months now due this flunk I am in….) I am also very kind but someone will just have to go past my shyness to see that I am not as boring as I look. I am just not a social butterfly.

So guys any tips any advice to help me cope with this….And her leaving me for another man has shattered my ego as a a man

You seem like a slimeball or a troll, not a self-proclaimed victim introvert.

Oh look, the misandrist found the thread!

DP but you really think this guy is for real? I would go with troll based on the following gems.

Yes loosing her sucks but she doesn’t love me anymore so eventually I will forget about her.
I work out a lot and I have a beautiful and muscular physique 
I am not as boring as I look.
I am just not a social butterfly.
her leaving me for another man has shattered my ego as a a man

+1 totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Get some hobbies. Women love gardening; join the local master gardners. Become a part time handy man, meet lots of women. Become a bar tender. Sell something at the weekend farmers market. Learn an instument. Tutor ESL. Ballroom dancing, never enough men to go around. Get a weekend job at Home Depot, help ladies find things. Dog rescue organizations, lots of ladies there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I am going through divorce right now. DW 38 is leaving me for someone else. We have 2 kids 12 and 9. I am not taking this well. To add insult to injury she appears kind of excited and liberated as a result of this. She is not showing any sadness. We have been married for 11 years and been together 16 years. She was only my second girlfriend when we started dating and the only woman I have been with sexually.

I am taking this hard because I am an introvert I don’t have any friend. I have a good friend but he lives hours away. So I am pretty much alone. In the only child too so can’t even talk to it to a brother or sister. The only time I am not sad is when I am with my kids.

Now I am thinking about the future. I can’t change my personality at 45 but I can try to be more outgoing. Being so shy around woman how do I even go about meeting someone new? Where do I go? Honestly I am more scared about the future than loosing my wife. Yes loosing her sucks but she doesn’t love me anymore so eventually I will forget about her. But what comes next given my shyness, being 45 and divorced with 42 kid will probably take many potential women out of the picture.

At 45 I am still attractive. I work out a lot and I have a beautiful and muscular physique (although I haven’t been to the gym in months now due this flunk I am in….) I am also very kind but someone will just have to go past my shyness to see that I am not as boring as I look. I am just not a social butterfly.

So guys any tips any advice to help me cope with this….And her leaving me for another man has shattered my ego as a a man

You seem like a slimeball or a troll, not a self-proclaimed victim introvert.

Oh look, the misandrist found the thread!

DP but you really think this guy is for real? I would go with troll based on the following gems.

Yes loosing her sucks but she doesn’t love me anymore so eventually I will forget about her.
I work out a lot and I have a beautiful and muscular physique 
I am not as boring as I look.
I am just not a social butterfly.
her leaving me for another man has shattered my ego as a a man

This is a pretty boring troll topic: help an introverted divorcee date? I thought they just weren’t native English speakers, or maybe is on spectrum or something. As a troll this is pretty small stakes.

[Anonymous]

In case this isn’t a troll…

You really have nothing to worry about. Just make sure you have 50/50 custody. Your kids’ activities will keep you very busy for the next several years. And you will end up meeting lots of people. Some of them will be divorced moms in similar situations. You will likely get along with one of them.

If you need therapy to even talk to people at your kids sporting events, etc, then do that.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if op is a troll, but I can see why the wife is leaving, it took him what 4 years to propose at a time of life when it should haven taken about a year 2 max. My husband met and were married 2 years later almost to the day. No reason op had to wait. He’s also an introvert and I haven’t met one yet who isn’t mentally ill, they’ve just found fancy words to describe it. My guess is op doesn’t want to do anything ever and justifies it by “I’m an introvert”
Well, op, look on the bright side, you no longer have to go out, no longer need to have sex, you can be as weird as you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I don’t know if op is a troll, but I can see why the wife is leaving, it took him what 4 years to propose at a time of life when it should haven taken about a year 2 max. My husband met and were married 2 years later almost to the day. No reason op had to wait. He’s also an introvert and I haven’t met one yet who isn’t mentally ill, they’ve just found fancy words to describe it. My guess is op doesn’t want to do anything ever and justifies it by “I’m an introvert”
Well, op, look on the bright side, you no longer have to go out, no longer need to have sex, you can be as weird as you want.

Glad your hubby put that ring on your fingers after 2 years. For some people it takes longer. Everyone is different. And calling an introvert mentally ill is strange. You on the other hand comes out as one of those "either you do xyz now or i am out..." yikes

[Anonymous]

OP just keep busy. things get better. However whatever you do don't reach for the JW bottle. Go out and play.

Right now your wife is on the top of the world. She is probably mocking you when she is with her AP saying things like your are loser always home don't have friends etc...

You can change that. One day at a time. Once she sees that you are even marginally improved that feeling that you are changing will drive her crazy trust me. She will start wondering what you are up whether you are perhaps even seeing other women. See want it all: The affair partner and the cuck at home.

Get your mojo back. You can do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No really, OP does sound like a troll. The post reads ... weird.

It reads like a teen girl wrote it for a YA novel attempt. Troll city.

Can’t imagine anyone saying that in a date and not looking psychotic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I am going through divorce right now. DW 38 is leaving me for someone else. We have 2 kids 12 and 9. I am not taking this well. To add insult to injury she appears kind of excited and liberated as a result of this. She is not showing any sadness. We have been married for 11 years and been together 16 years. She was only my second girlfriend when we started dating and the only woman I have been with sexually.

I am taking this hard because I am an introvert I don’t have any friend. I have a good friend but he lives hours away. So I am pretty much alone. In the only child too so can’t even talk to it to a brother or sister. The only time I am not sad is when I am with my kids.

Now I am thinking about the future. I can’t change my personality at 45 but I can try to be more outgoing. Being so shy around woman how do I even go about meeting someone new? Where do I go? Honestly I am more scared about the future than loosing my wife. Yes loosing her sucks but she doesn’t love me anymore so eventually I will forget about her. But what comes next given my shyness, being 45 and divorced with 42 kid will probably take many potential women out of the picture.

At 45 I am still attractive. I work out a lot and I have a beautiful and muscular physique (although I haven’t been to the gym in months now due this flunk I am in….) I am also very kind but someone will just have to go past my shyness to see that I am not as boring as I look. I am just not a social butterfly.

So guys any tips any advice to help me cope with this….And her leaving me for another man has shattered my ego as a a man

You seem like a slimeball or a troll, not a self-proclaimed victim introvert.

Oh look, the misandrist found the thread!

DP but you really think this guy is for real? I would go with troll based on the following gems.

Yes loosing her sucks but she doesn’t love me anymore so eventually I will forget about her.
I work out a lot and I have a beautiful and muscular physique 
I am not as boring as I look.
I am just not a social butterfly.
her leaving me for another man has shattered my ego as a a man

Lol

Someone didn’t run the right troll parameters on chatGPT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I don’t know if op is a troll, but I can see why the wife is leaving, it took him what 4 years to propose at a time of life when it should haven taken about a year 2 max. My husband met and were married 2 years later almost to the day. No reason op had to wait. He’s also an introvert and I haven’t met one yet who isn’t mentally ill, they’ve just found fancy words to describe it. My guess is op doesn’t want to do anything ever and justifies it by “I’m an introvert”
Well, op, look on the bright side, you no longer have to go out, no longer need to have sex, you can be as weird as you want.

Most males “shocked by their sudden divorce” were in denial for years of what was ruining their marriage and relationship(s). And continue to be.

Good luck all.

[Anonymous]

I will say this over and over again. Men are incapable of reading women's feelings. Some actually can, but many just can't. And if a woman is not emotionally satisfied she is out. Whether that is fair or not is an entire topic on its own. But it is important for men who opt to get married to remember that she will file for divorce if she is not emotionally happy.

[Anonymous]

So how does it make you FEEL?
The food messes all around, the lack of speaking or communicating, the iPhone and screen addiction, the ignoring of the kids, the constant “oh I have to work then,” the broken appliances and opened packaging (ie garbage) everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So how does it make you FEEL?
The food messes all around, the lack of speaking or communicating, the iPhone and screen addiction, the ignoring of the kids, the constant “oh I have to work then,” the broken appliances and opened packaging (ie garbage) everywhere.

Did you reply to the wrong thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on the title, I thought Melania was leaving Donald.

Thanks for the laugh