Divorce trend

[Anonymous]

Two of the three divorces in our orbit are directly because of COVID. Getting through it with kids broke these marriages - for sure there was trouble before but it was the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. Divorce 3 is due to one spouse’s deteriorating physical and mental health. All of these couple are dual income couples with the women having higher education.

[Anonymous]

Your women friends don't have money to divorce. Your husband's male friends have the money.

I'm divorced. I am a woman. I could afford it. Many women can't. Yes, it is that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two of the three divorces in our orbit are directly because of COVID. Getting through it with kids broke these marriages - for sure there was trouble before but it was the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. Divorce 3 is due to one spouse’s deteriorating physical and mental health. All of these couple are dual income couples with the women having higher education.

People also use Covid as a catch all. I found out spouse was cheating just before lockdown. People accept the stress of Covid as the cause. Nobody knows the real cause except us and we didn’t want gossip getting back to the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your women friends don't have money to divorce. Your husband's male friends have the money.

I'm divorced. I am a woman. I could afford it. Many women can't. Yes, it is that simple.

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your women friends don't have money to divorce. Your husband's male friends have the money.

I'm divorced. I am a woman. I could afford it. Many women can't. Yes, it is that simple.

Yep. The very wealthy and very poor divorce more because there will be no change in their COL.

My female friends who divorced (all early 40s) just could not deal with their husbands anymore. Many of my H’s friends just got married, so it's too soon to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your women friends don't have money to divorce. Your husband's male friends have the money.

I'm divorced. I am a woman. I could afford it. Many women can't. Yes, it is that simple.

Yep. The very wealthy and very poor divorce more because there will be no change in their COL.

My female friends who divorced (all early 40s) just could not deal with their husbands anymore. Many of my H’s friends just got married, so it's too soon to say.

I think the very poor often don't get married in the first place. But same result.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does it say when 3 of my husband’s closest friends have gotten divorced, and none has of my closest friends have divorced? I’m just curious. Is it that the friends we have chosen to be close with are a certain type? Or is it maybe their professions? My husband’s friends are all in medicine.

Also is it just me or are all our neighbors in the midst of a divorce? Did covid just break everyone?

Same goes for our circle, many of my physician friends got divorced while its rare in my DH's techie circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have so many female friends who either stay at home or work part time who are miserable in their marriages but don’t see a way out. One is waiting for an inheritance to pull the trigger. The rest seem to be suffering through due to lack of opportunities without completely decimating their lifestyles.

Yeah. Those of us with full-time careers don’t have time to sit around and find fault with everything. The affairs I know of were all SAHMs.

Statistically, divorce numbers are much higher in professional women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have so many female friends who either stay at home or work part time who are miserable in their marriages but don’t see a way out. One is waiting for an inheritance to pull the trigger. The rest seem to be suffering through due to lack of opportunities without completely decimating their lifestyles.

Yeah. Those of us with full-time careers don’t have time to sit around and find fault with everything. The affairs I know of were all SAHMs.

Statistically, divorce numbers are much higher in professional women.

So are extra marital affairs.

[Anonymous]

The big picture is or used to be 50/50!
IDK

[Anonymous]

Covid put couples together 24/7 for a year. If the marriage was on shaky ground before it then Covid brought it down. We have a very good marriage and Covid was not a positive at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it say when 3 of my husband’s closest friends have gotten divorced, and none has of my closest friends have divorced? I’m just curious. Is it that the friends we have chosen to be close with are a certain type? Or is it maybe their professions? My husband’s friends are all in medicine.

Also is it just me or are all our neighbors in the midst of a divorce? Did covid just break everyone?

It says that your friends are so image conscious they can't bear the humiliation of A FAILED MARRIAGE despite being miserably unhappy
or that your husband's friends are selfish and flaked out once domestic life got to be too much of a grind
or that you pick friends that depend on their husbands financially and can't afford divorce
or that your husband picks friends who are all addicts and their wives finally left them
or that the divorce rate is higher in long hour careers
or that once one of your husbands friends divorced the others finally felt unstuck and able to do the same and the same would happen just as quickly in your friends as soon as one of you breaks that ice

It seems like you want to find some moral superiority in your friends - so sure you picked the more loyal, hard working, values oriented friends who put in the hard work for a successful marriage and your husband picked the childish, selfish, flakes who never matured after college

Ha ha. Well said.

Personally, I don't judge. Monogamy is tough and I'm not sure humanity is cut out for it.

[Anonymous]

It’s the “trade up” types. The ones who are constantly upgrading their car, their kitchen, their vacations, their homes. They are never happy and continually searching for contentment from the outside. Eventually they will try and see if a new spouse does the trick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband’s friends are all in medicine.

I talked with a friend when he was looking at residence and one of the places he looked at had an 100% divorce rate for residents by year 5. Meaning some married residents got divorced twice in the span of their residence. I'd say about 50% of my friends that went to med school got divorced. That is different than almost every other group I know.

Wow! But now that I think about it, both the doctors I know well are on their second marriage, and my MIL who is a doctor is also twice divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your women friends don't have money to divorce. Your husband's male friends have the money.

I'm divorced. I am a woman. I could afford it. Many women can't. Yes, it is that simple.

Also, there is often more stress with two careers and more comparison and keeping scores