Inviting friend on vacation -- is this obnoxious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

They are signed up to go in the back country with a guide. It’s something they have planned for a long time since you have to be 16 or older.

Unless the friend regularly hangs out with your other son and his friend, then I wouldn’t invite him on this trip. Host him for other fun stuff closer to home this year.

[Anonymous]

Definitely do not invite him on this particular trip

[Anonymous]

You are just a user, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are just a user, OP!

How do you figure that?

[Anonymous]

2days seems like a lot of time. One afternoon I would do it but not two days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

They are signed up to go in the back country with a guide. It’s something they have planned for a long time since you have to be 16 or older.

Unless the friend regularly hangs out with your other son and his friend, then I wouldn’t invite him on this trip. Host him for other fun stuff closer to home this year.

He hangs out with my other kid a fair amount, the other younger kid doesn’t live that close so I wouldn’t say they hang out regularly, but when that kid is in town they get along.

[Anonymous]

OP this is not hard and is not worthy of all this hand wringing.

Invite the kid if your son wants to, being very clear about the plans. He can still ski and have a great time. Let him decide what he wants to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disagree with previous posters. I think it’s fine, as long as you are upfront about plans from the beginning. Presumably this is just a few hours each day?

+1
I don't vacation with people with the expectation to be with them all they time. I think it's fine, but it's a conversation for your son to have with him BEFORE you speak to his parents. If my kid were in the receiving end of this, I'd get him a private lesson those days and invite the 8th grader to join. They would have a blast exploring the mountain with a private instructor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

Wow! I only reached that stage as an adult to wait for people at the bottom of a run. All through my childhood and early 20s I skied hard all day. Waiting was not an option; eating was an annoyance that had to occur..... and I lived in ski country. I can't imagine a teen with 1 ski trip per year not wanting to utilize all available ski time for skiing.

[Anonymous]

Any kid I would be comfortable inviting on a trip, I would be comfortable explaining this too. So if you are not comfortable doing that or don’t think he’d understand, then I wouldn’t invite him.

[Anonymous]

How do you know he doesn’t ski as well as your son?

I think it’s ok to let him know that your son is doing something with his father one day. Skiing is not that difficult. I’m sure he’d be fine to do his own thing or hang with the brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know he doesn’t ski as well as your son?

I think it’s ok to let him know that your son is doing something with his father one day. Skiing is not that difficult. I’m sure he’d be fine to do his own thing or hang with the brother.

Because we have taken him to local hills before on day trips.

[Anonymous]

If the friend was better would you want them skiing together is it like a father -son special thing and you are using the friend’s skill level as an excuse?

[Anonymous]

Invite for something in the summer

[Anonymous]

I think it is pretty obnoxious but if your ds wants to invite him then he can tell him the situation and his friend can say yes or no.