Inviting friend on vacation -- is this obnoxious?

[Anonymous]

A friend of my older son's (10th grade) invited him on a lovely vacation this summer. They had a lot of fun.

We are heading out West for skiing this Christmas, and would like to reciprocate by inviting the kid to come with us.

But, the kid does not ski as well as my son, and there are a few things at the resort that my son is really looking forward to doing with his Dad, that wouldn't be safe for this kid yet.

Kid gets along well with my younger son (8th grade) and the friend he is inviting, and is closer to them in skill.

Would it be terrible to say "We'd love to have you, but these two days (out of a week's vacation) DS won't be available during the day, so you'd need to hang with the younger kids, or if you prefer you could take a lesson with kids your own age.

[Anonymous]

Yes kind of obnoxious but good to be upfront about it.

[Anonymous]

Don’t invite, that’s just rude.

[Anonymous]

That’s so rude. Don’t invite

[Anonymous]

Disagree with previous posters. I think it’s fine, as long as you are upfront about plans from the beginning. Presumably this is just a few hours each day?

[Anonymous]

I would invite him on a different vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would invite him on a different vacation

This will be our only vacation this year.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t want my kid going with another family for Xmas. Wouldn’t the other kid go away with his own family?

I personally would not want to be responsible for another kid who isn’t a good skier but that is just me.

[Anonymous]

It seems weird. I understand saying. Zach and his dad are going to hit the back bowls after lunch Friday, its probably better if you ski with Jack. But knowing in advance that you'll need two full days solo with dad ... just skip the invite.

[Anonymous]

No. It's Christmas and your son will be unavailable for two days? Do something else with the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want my kid going with another family for Xmas. Wouldn’t the other kid go away with his own family?

I personally would not want to be responsible for another kid who isn’t a good skier but that is just me.

We'd go on the 26th, but during Christmas break. I don't know if they are planning to go away themselves. I assume that if I ask, and the dates don't work, that they'll say no.

He's a good skier. My younger kid is a good skier. My older kid is just better.

[Anonymous]

Rude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want my kid going with another family for Xmas. Wouldn’t the other kid go away with his own family?

I personally would not want to be responsible for another kid who isn’t a good skier but that is just me.

We'd go on the 26th, but during Christmas break. I don't know if they are planning to go away themselves. I assume that if I ask, and the dates don't work, that they'll say no.

He's a good skier. My younger kid is a good skier. My older kid is just better.

I guess you can ask. We go away every winter break so I just assume everyone else does as well.

I think a long weekend is a better ask.

[Anonymous]

This sounds too complicated.

Kids at different skill levels on a ski trip is just flat out stupid—especially if you’re inviting the weaker skier. Then when you factor in that this is the day after Christmas and it’s break is barely a week and it’s just terrible.

[Anonymous]

It is a little rude and awkward. I would either have your kid skip these 2 days or not invite his friend.