Inviting friend on vacation -- is this obnoxious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds too complicated.

Kids at different skill levels on a ski trip is just flat out stupid—especially if you’re inviting the weaker skier. Then when you factor in that this is the day after Christmas and it’s break is barely a week and it’s just terrible.

Yeah, different level skiers where you ditch the friend for 2 days sounds like a bad trip to invite friend on.

[Anonymous]

I’d actually ask your son how to handle it- as a 10th grader, he is plenty old enough

Odds are the parents won’t want their kid to be away over Christmas break anyway…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would invite him on a different vacation

This will be our only vacation this year.

You could at least do a long weekend away and invite the kid somewhere. Skiing with different levels and not being available for 2 days just seems awkward.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a lot of fun. Being upfront is good but not that big a deal if he's a good skier, he'll enjoy skiing with the younger son. Skiing without your BFF is better than not skiing at all. Don't doubt yourself, just ask with the caveat but it doesn't need to be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a lot of fun. Being upfront is good but not that big a deal if he's a good skier, he'll enjoy skiing with the younger son. Skiing without your BFF is better than not skiing at all. Don't doubt yourself, just ask with the caveat but it doesn't need to be a big deal.

Yes I would ask your son. My kid would love to be invited to ski out west even if it meant he would not ski with friend for 2 days- but will still ski with a younger sibling he likes. If your son thinks friend would be ok, then I’d go with that. These are 10th graders not 10 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Terrible, don't invite.

[Anonymous]

Two full days seems like a lot and probably not the right trip to invite this kid on. Your son should decide if he’d rather ski with dad or invite his friend.

Two half days though, assuming friend really is happy to hang out with little brother or take a break from skiing, I think would be fine, especially with advance warning. DS could talk to the friend about it and see how he feels. My older DS has a couple close friends who get along really well with his little brother (same ages as your kids) and I think would be totally happy in this scenario or wouldn’t mind heading back to the condo to chill out while DS got a couple more challenging runs in.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that your son wants to ski the harder slopes with his dad but then don't invite the friend. I think the skill issue is distracting from the real issue, which is how to host a guest. Would you let your kid invite a friend for a week at the beach if he would be spending two days with other relatives and leaving the friend with his siblings? My kids know that if they invite a friend to go skiing, then they stick with the friend even if that means the blues and greens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's understandable that your son wants to ski the harder slopes with his dad but then don't invite the friend. I think the skill issue is distracting from the real issue, which is how to host a guest. Would you let your kid invite a friend for a week at the beach if he would be spending two days with other relatives and leaving the friend with his siblings? My kids know that if they invite a friend to go skiing, then they stick with the friend even if that means the blues and greens.

On any trip with a friend, having a break away from each other to regroup can be a good thing.

[Anonymous]

I would assume that the 10th grader guest would rather just ski alone than be stuck babysitting the younger brother.

[Anonymous]

Don’t invite him. It puts everyone in an awkward situation. The kid might not want to hang out with the younger kids for two days but also doesn’t want to be rude and turn down the vacation. I think it’s rude to have two days where your son is off with his dad.

You don’t have to ever reciprocate with a vacation. It’s too complicated.

[Anonymous]

I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

They are signed up to go in the back country with a guide. It’s something they have planned for a long time since you have to be 16 or older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

They are signed up to go in the back country with a guide. It’s something they have planned for a long time since you have to be 16 or older.

I would not invite the friend. It's not even like they'd ski separately bit have lunch together. Your son has a trip with his dad planned. Host the kid another time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly trying to imagine the situation that would require two days away and unless it's a trip into back country, including an early morning skin up ski down situation, I just can't.

So, this other family might also be confused and wonder if it's a weird flex on your part. So, definitely skip the invite.

I'm an excellent skiier and have spent plenty of my life chilling at the bottom of a run waiting for friends to catch up or taking a different run and meeting at the lift. There's a reason you are making something easy hard and I wouldn't subject this other family to whatever it is.

They are signed up to go in the back country with a guide. It’s something they have planned for a long time since you have to be 16 or older.

I would not invite the friend. It's not even like they'd ski separately bit have lunch together. Your son has a trip with his dad planned. Host the kid another time.

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