Call from a guy I knew 17 years ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Out of respect to your DH, would only respond with him present (or if not present, as *though* he were, as though he’ll read it later).

Put yourself in his shoes.

So, maybe a little response but rated G for all audiences. Lol. And especially your DH as an audience. If a woman he was involved with for a year, from years ago, texted.. what would you want him to do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

You can’t stop yourself from replying, can you?

I actually didn't reply after asking who this was last night. He texted again asking if it was me , and if we were friends years ago, blah blah blah. My response was oh yes, hope you're well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Out of respect to your DH, would only respond with him present (or if not present, as *though* he were, as though he’ll read it later).

Put yourself in his shoes.

So, maybe a little response but rated G for all audiences. Lol. And especially your DH as an audience. If a woman he was involved with for a year, from years ago, texted.. what would you want him to do?

Definitely G rated.

Just different I actually can't remember most peoples names from so long ago. And periodically update my phone/contacts and delete people. Ex. We left a congregation and two years later after many relationships weren't continued I just deleted those people from that chapter. I'm more shocked others don't. Or that he would be thinking of me so long after especially how we ended things

[Anonymous]

I can understand being curious. Who wouldn't be? Doesn't mean your obsessing or into drama. Just don't turn it into drama after an initial response.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Out of respect to your DH, would only respond with him present (or if not present, as *though* he were, as though he’ll read it later).

Put yourself in his shoes.

So, maybe a little response but rated G for all audiences. Lol. And especially your DH as an audience. If a woman he was involved with for a year, from years ago, texted.. what would you want him to do?

Definitely G rated.

Just different I actually can't remember most peoples names from so long ago. And periodically update my phone/contacts and delete people. Ex. We left a congregation and two years later after many relationships weren't continued I just deleted those people from that chapter. I'm more shocked others don't. Or that he would be thinking of me so long after especially how we ended things

I might be odd but I have every contact ever since 2007. Deleted exes for sure.

But I have a random awesome lady who consulted for my former employer. Would never ever reach out. I have a lot of people like that I barely. I don’t care to delete them and only notice it about 2x per year.

[Anonymous]

I keep pretty much every number that's entered into my phone.

But I often in the old days would just do a first name.

It's possible he only has your first name and thought it was a different Larla.

Just sayin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People remember people they were friends with 18 years ago.

Especially if we made out? How many hookups did you have OP??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep pretty much every number that's entered into my phone.

But I often in the old days would just do a first name.

It's possible he only has your first name and thought it was a different Larla.

Just sayin.

Exactly cleaning my address book just doesn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He was drunk dialing. There are numerous songs about it. I’d block, but it seems like you are giddy from the attention.

Not giddy as much as curious. Again I don't actually think he remembers who I am. Doubt a drunk dial

You've already spent too much time on this. Move on. You're not single

Seriously!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People remember people they were friends with 18 years ago.

Especially if we made out? How many hookups did you have OP??

Waited until marriage for sex but I truly do not remember the name of every guy I made out with.

[Anonymous]

I feel like you are still fangirling. It's not that deep. Your excited feeling of being flattered is likely what made your DH respond that way. It's weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Out of respect to your DH, would only respond with him present (or if not present, as *though* he were, as though he’ll read it later).

Put yourself in his shoes.

So, maybe a little response but rated G for all audiences. Lol. And especially your DH as an audience. If a woman he was involved with for a year, from years ago, texted.. what would you want him to do?

Definitely G rated.

Just different I actually can't remember most peoples names from so long ago. And periodically update my phone/contacts and delete people. Ex. We left a congregation and two years later after many relationships weren't continued I just deleted those people from that chapter. I'm more shocked others don't. Or that he would be thinking of me so long after especially how we ended things

I might be odd but I have every contact ever since 2007. Deleted exes for sure.

But I have a random awesome lady who consulted for my former employer. Would never ever reach out. I have a lot of people like that I barely. I don’t care to delete them and only notice it about 2x per year.

That's amazing.okay I'm definitely the odd one then for deleting contacts and messages so often haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Don't reply to him again. You can't tell if it's innocent based on a short exchange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like you are still fangirling. It's not that deep. Your excited feeling of being flattered is likely what made your DH respond that way. It's weird.

I'm waiting for the follow up where we learn he recruited her into an MLM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I actually do think I want to respond but I'm having trouble figuring out a response.

Obviously I tell him my name. But I feel like he will be all I don't know you and while I don't care at the end of the day haha I also want to convey I only know his # bc I googled it and his name came up. I don't have his #/name saved. But I can't say that without looking like a big ole weirdo

What on earth? Why do you want to respond if you don't care? Why do you care if he knows that you know his number, since he knows yours? And most importantly, why do you assume that he doesn't know who he was texting, since he both called and texted and identified himself by name and asked if it was your number?

You sound deeply overinvested. Is this guy the one that got away or something? Because the level of spin-up, added to what appears to be lying to your DH about who is blowing up your phone, is really over the top for a random call from someone you haven't seen in a decade-plus.