Call from a guy I knew 17 years ago
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I got a call last night around 11pm, I let it go to VM but searched the # in my texts to make sure it wasn't someone I know. Then googled the # and it came up associated to this guy I used to hang out with 17-18 years ago.
We were "friends" for about a year, and then fooled around some and then the friendship fell off because of some dumb kids shit. His friend was into me and lied and said we slept together and we didn't his friend was mad because I declined his advances. Anyway - we haven't seen each other in over a decade, close to two. The last time we chatted was mid 20s. He messaged me on a dating app and was all fancy seeing you here....it never went anywhere. Why in the world would he still have my # in his phone???? I'm assuming he called the wrong # or was trying someone with the same name. He texted hey after I didn't pick up. And I said who is this ( knowing I already googled) and then he said his name and asked if he had the right #. I didn't respond. DH was asking who I was texting and told him he said not to respond. What the heck. I don't actually think he was trying to reach me. Surprised he still has my #. We don't even follow each other on social media. Tbh the only reason I remember him is he was the first guy I hung out semi seriously in college and he was a few years older with a cool apartment in a new city and he was in a band. All the stuff that makes a young 20s girl feel cool. |
Anonymous
| Maybe he wants to tell you about an STD. |
Anonymous
| It’s weird your husband immediately asked who you were texting. |
Anonymous
Maybe? Not concerned it was kid stuff, hooked up as in heavy petting and making out. We never actually had sex. |
Anonymous
From 17 years ago??? Come on |
Anonymous
Haha not so weird. It was 11pm and we were in bed together. I wasn't listening to whatever he was talking about. I think it's more weird he was like don't respond. |
Anonymous
| I'm just so curious. I want to text him back and he like do you even remember me? And laugh about the perceived mix up |
Anonymous
| Was he in your college group? The call itself came in at around 11? |
Anonymous
and this makes you around 35 now? |
Anonymous
He wasn't. We met at a bar I was not supposed to be at. The call came at 11 and then the texts 20 ish min later |
Anonymous
37 |
Anonymous
| Just move on. He wants to reconnect for whatever reason. You’re happily married. Ignore. |
Anonymous
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Sometimes random male acquaintances from the past send me flirty texts. It happened more in my 30s than now. These are people I never had any romantic interactions with, never flirted with, and really only knew in passing.
It's whatever. People are lonely these days and dating is hard, and I don't fault anyone for trying to make a connection. But I'm married. When it's someone I may need to interact with professionally, I just say something like, "we are cool but I don't like the flirty messages so please stop." They are always respectful. If I don't ever anticipate interacting with them again I either say "no thank you" or I block them. |
Anonymous
Ok, line of questions was to rule out him having information about a mutual friend. My guess is a current jealous partner is looking through his phone. If it were him trying to stir something up, he would have texted first I think. I would ignore. |
Anonymous
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I just have a hard time believing he actually still knows who I am. If I responded to his do I have the right # text with my name I feel like he would say who?
I don't even think we'd recognize each other passing on the street. He just has a memorable name- from his band. I do not. |