Call from a guy I knew 17 years ago

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Why can't you just take this at face value? He remembers you fondly, was probably feeling lonely or nostalgic, had your number (I rarely clean out saved numbers on my phone-- why bother?), and reached out. I'm in my 50s and still remember many of my old hookups, especially if they were also friends.
What happens from here is up to you: ignore, respond briefly, catch up, flirt a little, flirt a lot. All are viable options.

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OP you're a sad sack.

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Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Out of respect to your DH, would only respond with him present (or if not present, as *though* he were, as though he’ll read it later).

Put yourself in his shoes.

So, maybe a little response but rated G for all audiences. Lol. And especially your DH as an audience. If a woman he was involved with for a year, from years ago, texted.. what would you want him to do?

Definitely G rated.

Just different I actually can't remember most peoples names from so long ago. And periodically update my phone/contacts and delete people. Ex. We left a congregation and two years later after many relationships weren't continued I just deleted those people from that chapter. I'm more shocked others don't. Or that he would be thinking of me so long after especially how we ended things

I might be odd but I have every contact ever since 2007. Deleted exes for sure.

But I have a random awesome lady who consulted for my former employer. Would never ever reach out. I have a lot of people like that I barely. I don’t care to delete them and only notice it about 2x per year.

Same here. I just opened my Contacts and one of the first names (an "A" name) is a woman that I saw repeatedly for a mutual friend's wedding functions, like the shower, the bachelorette party, and then the wedding. I'd never met her before or sense. That's been 13 years ago.

It would probably be interesting to go through the whole list and see who is in there.

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Booty Call

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Why are you afraid of him op?

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're a sad sack.

Lol mad your troll comments got deleted?

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I had an old boyfriend get in touch with me years later, his daughter was moving to the area for grad school and he knew I lived in the DMV and wanted to ask about apartments near the school.

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Anonymous wrote:Just move on. He wants to reconnect for whatever reason. You’re happily married. Ignore.

+1 I mean, maybe it's flattering, but leave it at that.

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12-step program? Maybe he considers you someone he needs to make amends with

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Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just take this at face value? He remembers you fondly, was probably feeling lonely or nostalgic, had your number (I rarely clean out saved numbers on my phone-- why bother?), and reached out. I'm in my 50s and still remember many of my old hookups, especially if they were also friends.
What happens from here is up to you: ignore, respond briefly, catch up, flirt a little, flirt a lot. All are viable options.

This. If you're interested, reach out. if not, don't. The end.

I've kept the name of every contact I've ever had since I first started keeping digital contacts (including old boyfriends). I don't see any negative. This would drive other people crazy (who want a more organized digital life) but it doesn't bother me at all. I can't think of a single time I've scrolled through them but I have them. I also never delete emails. I have every one I've sent or received (except for promotional ones) since 2004 when gmail started. they just keep rolling on and on and on.

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Anonymous wrote:12-step program? Maybe he considers you someone he needs to make amends with

It's probably something like this, I am so curious! Text him back and let us know!!

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Anonymous wrote:Booty Call

Right, pretty simple, and if you really aren't interested you delete and forget about it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're a sad sack.

Lol mad your troll comments got deleted?

Wasn’t me. Really.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s weird your husband immediately asked who you were texting.

Haha not so weird. It was 11pm and we were in bed together. I wasn't listening to whatever he was talking about. I think it's more weird he was like don't respond.

What would you consider a normal response?

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Anonymous wrote:He texted again saying weren't we friends years ago. He was just thinking about me last night and wanted to reach out. Kept it short. Actually seems way more innocent than what I originally thought

Out of respect to your DH, would only respond with him present (or if not present, as *though* he were, as though he’ll read it later).

Put yourself in his shoes.

So, maybe a little response but rated G for all audiences. Lol. And especially your DH as an audience. If a woman he was involved with for a year, from years ago, texted.. what would you want him to do?

Definitely G rated.

Just different I actually can't remember most peoples names from so long ago. And periodically update my phone/contacts and delete people. Ex. We left a congregation and two years later after many relationships weren't continued I just deleted those people from that chapter. I'm more shocked others don't. Or that he would be thinking of me so long after especially how we ended things

I might be odd but I have every contact ever since 2007. Deleted exes for sure.

But I have a random awesome lady who consulted for my former employer. Would never ever reach out. I have a lot of people like that I barely. I don’t care to delete them and only notice it about 2x per year.

Same here. I just opened my Contacts and one of the first names (an "A" name) is a woman that I saw repeatedly for a mutual friend's wedding functions, like the shower, the bachelorette party, and then the wedding. I'd never met her before or sense. That's been 13 years ago.

It would probably be interesting to go through the whole list and see who is in there.

Ha. I just deleted a contact that was a room parent in my now 17 years old's preschool class. Only took 13 years of getting sick of seeing her (very common) name pop up everytime I typed an email.