Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Anonymous
| My mom has a close friend whose kids both decided not to have children. I remember their mom being sad, but then immediately pivoting to all the things they COULD do now. Mainly: travel that was not child appropriate. Luxury adult only resorts. Holidays with friends instead of toddlers. I loved the way she reframed her life to fit in joyous things since it would remain all adults. Also, it meant they could really feel free to spend all their money. No propping up a generation down the line. And since they were well off, she got right to it. |
Anonymous
| Not in your control. Focus on your choices and decisions. |
Anonymous
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My kids are 3 , 5, and 7. My father is 75. He just spent a week with us. He read countless books to the 3 yr old, ate two meals a day with the kids, went to the playground daily, went to watch gymnastics, ballet, and swim classes, helped set up for the 7 yr old's party, put kids to bed, walked kids to school, etc. He'll be back for another week in October and is coming here for Thanksgiving, then the 3 yr old's birthday in January.
My mother, at 40, slept most of the day or watched tv. Age is not the only determining factor of how active someone is. |
Anonymous
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Aging also means decreased energy, limited mobility, facing serious disease, losing brain agility, dementia, Alzheimers, death etc.
You can take grandkids for a swim at 60 but at 80, its just not safe for you to drive them or supervise at pool. |
Anonymous
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My parents are in their mid 70s. Next week they are going to spend 8-5 Monday-Friday taking care of my 4 year old and 1 year old nephews while my brother and SIL have to work (my nephews' daycare/preschool is on 'fall break' all week). The week after that, my parents are flying to visit me and my family and I'm sure they'll be walking my 2 kids to/from school, attending their activities/sports games, reading to them, playing with them, etc.
Take care of yourself and do your best to stay healthy and it's possible you can be an active/involved grandparent even if you become a grandparent at an older age. Obviously you're more likely to encounter health issues as you age but there are lots of people in their 70s still living an active lifestyle. |
Anonymous
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My mom and dad, in their early 70s, took care of my baby and 2 year old all day for 8 months. My dad rode a bike with the 2 year old on back, my mom spent hours on the floor playing with both, my dad played chase. Now in their mid 70s, with a 3 and 5 year old, it tires them out a bit more, but they both play really active games with them and have them for sleepovers regularly.
You can't control when or whether your kids have kids, but you can put yourself in the best position to be the grandparent you want to be by getting as active as you can. Focus on yoga and strength training. |
Anonymous
DH and I are also unlikely to be grandparents, SS 29’s wife has undiagnosed mental illness although she is a RN. Often, she can barely handle caring for herself. He is a young lawyer and works 80 hours a week. They attempted a puppy, with the idea that it would get her out of the house multiple times a day, but that didn’t work so they rehomed it. DD 30 has seen many family marriages fail and the aftermath scar the kids. She isn’t interested in single parenting either. Late teen DD is mildly disabled and is interested in a family, but committed foremost to her physical and mental wellbeing. Late teen DS is hinting at being asexual. He’s attempted romantic relationships with both genders, but told us extreme shyness and anxiety get in his way. I think he would partner up only if someone very dominant pursued him. And that still wouldn’t guarantee having kids. So 4 kids and low probability of grandkids. We have accepted it and just hope that our kids lead happy and meaningful adult lives. We know that having children isn’t a requirement for joy and fulfillment. |
Anonymous
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Oh well …. It’s kinda beyond your control.
What if your kids don’t even get married or even decide not to even have kids. It’s their choice, not yours. Enjoy your life. |
Anonymous
70 is still young. |
Anonymous
Nobody likes people who gloat. Are you like this in real life? Stop it |
Anonymous
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Not planning on being a grandmother. Would like to be one, but I don't see it happening.
But one of my grandmothers became a grandmother only after her early death. So things could be worse. Nothing in life is guaranteed. I'd be thrilled if I thought I'd become a grandma even later in life, so if you think you definitely will get that experience, be patient and stay in good shape and health and then enjoy it. |
Anonymous
| Just shut up and make sure you’re not a burden. |
Anonymous
LOL |
Anonymous
I’m not gloating. I am merely saying that posters claiming it’s not a big deal or it doesn’t matter or who cares are just wrong. It’s cool being a young grandparent. It just is. It doesn’t mean it’s the only thing that’s cool, but it definitely is one of the cool things. |
Anonymous
This thread is not about you. Narcissist. |