Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Anonymous
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My MIL had kids very young. Because of that she has near zero connections to her 9 grandchildren.
She only lived 13 miles from me but useless for babysitting or coming over. And my wife had kids and 36, 38 and 42. But her mom had her at 21. She finally retired 65 but husband got sick was caregiver and then at 71 a widow with plenty of time. She is 82 and healthy. If she had kids 15 years later she could have enjoyed grandkids in her 70s. My wife’s sister had her kids young. The grandkids are all their 30s. I never knew my grandparents. One dead before born and other three in Europe saw once or twice. Not a big deal |
Anonymous
| My mom had my sister at 40 and my grandmother had my mother at 40! My grandmother lived to 90 so worked out |
Anonymous
| My parents became grandparents in their mid-60s and were active and helpful and engaged with their grandchild until they died at 89 and 90. They went to their gym until the final year of their lives when they started having health problems. |
Anonymous
| As a singe mom by choice, I became a mom at 41. My parents were 70. Upon their invitation I moved in with them; not so much for the financial ease but because i wanted my daughter to have a relationship with her grandparents. i never really knew mine. My daughter and her grandparents are bonded like I not seen in other families. |
Anonymous
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I am 63 and have a young adult DD with a long-term boyfriend. He wants to wait another five years for kids. Who knows what will happen, but I tell her the younger I am when she has kids the more energy I’ll have to provide childcare.
I’d really love to retire and have a grandchild to help (and play) with when they’re ready. My parents both died when I was in my 30s just before I had DD and I’m single, so DD never had grandparents in her life, although her great aunt and uncle somewhat filled that that role. |
Anonymous
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White people are checking out. They’ve done everything the world has to offer and they have found it wanting. It’s part of the rapture ..meeting the lord before the tribulation period that appears to be starting. |
Anonymous
Here ya go: Black people have been checked out for years. No morals or values. 72% of kids born to single moms. You like posts like that? |
Anonymous
That's another child, though, not really a grandkid. A grandkid is one you can give back to the parents at the end of the day and go back to your quiet, clean house. |
Anonymous
+1. I mean I would do the above to support my child, of course, but I would much rather be an older grandparent if it meant my kids waited until they felt fully ready and able to have a baby. |
Anonymous
| My grandparents were very nice and kind people, not too old and lived near us but never had any emotional connection with us nor took part in raising us. We had pleasant relationships. |
Anonymous
| My parents were of different religions and for some reason that mattered to their parents, so we had very limited contact with our grandparents. |
Anonymous
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I understand why you’re sad, but just one data point for you.
My parents were 70 and 75 when my first child was born. They are now 73 and 79. I am sick, and they have been playing with my two kids (3.5 and just turned 2) for the last hour and are about to give them a bath while I rest. Then they’ll feed them dinner, put them to bed, and likely clean up the kitchen while I am able to rest. If you want to be able to enjoy your grand kids, focus on your own health, and if you’re lucky, you might still get what you want. |
Anonymous
Their loss. |
Anonymous
You should stylize it Yung G-ma |
Anonymous
| I won't be having any grandchildren, and that was a tough reality to accept. |