Not likely to be grandparents until 70

[Anonymous]

If it makes you feel better, OP, my kids know and spend time with a great-grandfather in his 90’s. You can be a blessing in their lives in your 70s and beyond.

[Anonymous]

My older son will be 40 and younger on will be 33 when I turn 70.
I don't even want to be grandma, but I'm planning to be active and involved if it happens. I'm also planning on getting a younger, more in shape partner who can help me with the grand-kids while I sit on the bench and micromanage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the plus side, you can plan to retire to be closer to them!

Worst advise ever. What happens when they wind up moving somewhere else? Unless you life WITH them, the vast majority of retirees cannot financially keep up with the costs of frequent moves.

Problem creates its own solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of people in their 70s and even 80s who are happy active grandparents.

My kids' best grandparent has been my FIL who is turning 95 next month. My parents who were 20 years younger were terrible and could not connect.

[Anonymous]

Obviously even comatose grandparents can have some sort of relationship with their grandchildren but my personal preference would be to do a bit more for them if given a chance.

[Anonymous]

Being a younger grandparent is awesome. I love it. Just sayin’

[Anonymous]

My dad was 55 when I was born and he was the most involved, loving and wise parent.

[Anonymous]

That sucks. I’m sorry. Not something you can guilt your kids about (or, to be clear, should ever voice to them) but certainly something that’s valid to be bummed about

[Anonymous]

If my daughter wait as long as I did, I’ll be 82 when I have my first grandchild. 😂

[Anonymous]

Most of DCUM will have older parents when their kids are born, that's what you have chosen by waiting until thirties to have kids, especially if your parents chose that as well.

My parents were 35 and 44 when I was born but I chose to have my kids in my early twenties. I'm almost 70 and I've got three awesome great grandchildren. I wouldn't have done it any differently either looking back.

[Anonymous]

70 is the new 60.

My parents are late 70s and still very active.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My in laws were youngish grandparents (early 50s).

They aren't running around with them at the playground or coaching their soccer teams or doing anything a 70 year old couldn't also do.

rarely, if ever, even for parents
grandparents? haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a younger grandparent is awesome. I love it. Just sayin’

“Just sayin’” what, exactly? That OP really should feel bad about something not in her control? You aren’t very nice.

[Anonymous]

at least you're having some.
None of mine are interested.

[Anonymous]

If my kids wait until their mid 30s, both DH and I will be late 70s or 80 before we have grandkids. Oh well.

I had a grandmother who was 78 when I was born. I was the youngest grandkid. But I actually spent the most time with her, driving her around the last 7 years of her life. She died just after 100. Was she active and involved, no. I think she babysat me one time. But it was still a very valuable relationship to me because she was a fascinating woman.