Vent: cheating ruined our friendship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why you would have gotten involved and told him to tell his wife. That's on you. These are the consequences. It is what it is.

I’m actually a little shocked by the number of people who would keep this a secret from their friends. As someone who has been cheated on I was furious when I found out “friends” had inklings or knew of bad behavior but chose not to tell me. That almost hurt more than the cheating.

-op

+1. It was devastating when I found out that friends knew about the cheating and didn't say anything to me. It made me feel doubly betrayed.

[Anonymous]

OP this guy is a creep.

Alcohol.

Weed.

Strippers.

A female friend that he just has to do all his confessions to, because no one else gets him, and then complain about his wife's controllingness to.

You do realize he's an immature ass, right?

[Anonymous]

That's a bummer, OP. It's not easy finding friends and

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing really scandalous, just a vent. I was good friends with a couple, met them at the same time. As our kids grew I ended up talking to the wife less. Her husband and I are both super extroverts (the wife and I would joke about how we sometimes just needed her husband to stfu). He at some point ended up cheating on his wife and told me. I told him he had 24 hours to tell her before I did.

Well he told her and since then she won’t let him talk to any women, including me. They were both good friends and now I barely talk to either. He’s not at all my type (I know what some of you are thinking) but I liked talking to him because he was like a big brother to me and would give good parenting advice.

Anyway, not looking for advice just venting because this annoyed me today.

Whether he's your type or not is not relevant. The issue here is that her husband had very poor boundaries with one woman, and it is now hard for his wife to trust him with other women. Even him disclosing his cheating to you demonstrates an inappropriate boundary with a woman - he should have told his wife and not you.

This.