Jealous of people with reproductive luck

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We all know what the problem is: too many women wait too long to have kids, and then they have trouble. It’s not natural.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

Yes, I mean kids don't really need a father. Women can get pregnant before finding a partner. Is that what you meant?

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

I have never struggled with TTC. I had my first when I was 26. I don’t get people like you.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

Yes, I mean kids don't really need a father. Women can get pregnant before finding a partner. Is that what you meant?

Her problem wasn't that she couldn't find a partner. She wasn't looking/was partying. Which is true in every case I personally know of, for women who didn't start trying until it was obviously too late to get pregnant easily. That's my personal experience. Maybe you are especially ugly so it was harder for you, but for my friends, it wasn't a lack of options, it was a lack of timely interest in settling down.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

I have never struggled with TTC. I had my first when I was 26. I don’t get people like you.

People who don't want to watch women struggle because they believed having kids after 35 would be easy and found out they were wrong? Seems pretty easy to "get" to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

Yes, I mean kids don't really need a father. Women can get pregnant before finding a partner. Is that what you meant?

Her problem wasn't that she couldn't find a partner. She wasn't looking/was partying. Which is true in every case I personally know of, for women who didn't start trying until it was obviously too late to get pregnant easily. That's my personal experience. Maybe you are especially ugly so it was harder for you, but for my friends, it wasn't a lack of options, it was a lack of timely interest in settling down.

Seems like you just have a crappy friend whom you judge. Any friends of mine who married later were thoughtful about who they wanted to be the father of their kids.
Just sperm donation isn't enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

It's good, you'll hopefully still look good when you get divorced. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

Maybe if we talked bluntly about the fact that you're more likely to be unlucky if you start trying after 35, instead of calling it rude to take note of that fact, fewer women would back themselves into this corner.

Oh please. Women know. My friends who didn’t find their husbands until their early 30s were certainly worried about it. But you know what sucks more? Settling down with some absolute dud and getting forever tied to him because you had his kid. So we really shouldn’t be encouraging that either.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant naturally and had vaginal births, but am struggling with lingering pelvic floor issues, which really sucks, and a child with special needs.

I get where you’re coming from and it’s a natural feeling that you should acknowledge and process. But I guarantee you are lucky in other ways people are jealous of. We’re all on our own journey like a PP said.

Agreed. I am unable to have children biologically and miscarried many times. But I don’t regret it for an instant, as my adopted child is the light of my life.

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Anonymous wrote:We all know what the problem is: too many women wait too long to have kids, and then they have trouble. It’s not natural.

Sigh, I wish men wanted to get married at 22. By the time I found my dh at 27, it was apparently already too late for me to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

NP. I couldn't disagree more. I knew I wanted to be done having babies by my 35th birthday. I made life choices, including significant financial and career sacrifices, to make that happen. I see other women delaying childbearing until their late 30s because they want to invest in their careers and pursue things like travel. That's wonderful for them, but they're willingly taking a gamble with their fertility.

[Anonymous]

I am a teacher and a lot of the parents at my school had babies quite young, struggle a lot, and don’t seem too lucky to me.

[Anonymous]

I’m with you OP. We started trying at 29 which isn’t particularly young but it’s definitely not old. When we ended up at a fertility clinic my doctor commented several times that we were young. We did end up pregnant from IUI and now trying for number two it looks like we are probably going to end up circling back to IUI. I just cannot help be grumpy that some people can just freaking have sex and get pregnant!

[Anonymous]

I am definitely one of those people folks would be ‘jealous’ of.

Got accidentally pregnant at 38 after one instance not even in my fertile window yet (few days before)…think the sperm hung out for 4-5 days. Husband also 38.

We are fairly healthy, but it’s really fascinated me bc I have SUPER DUPER short periods (seriously, they last 2 days) and many people (including my obgyn) told me it could be a sign of reduced fertility bc my lining might be inadequate. Well…guess not…. And My periods were extremely regular so I did think I was ovulating. But my periods were short for literally 6 years before getting pregnant and I never in my life tried to get pregnant. Tried to avoid it the whole time and then had 1 slip up where we didn’t use protection…

Really goes to show how it can be v hard to predict in advance how this will go for any person.