Jealous of people with reproductive luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The risk of unplanned pregnancy in an increasingly hostile abortion landscape is terrifying for these women.

As is the risk of miscarriage for those of us with infertility with recurrent pregnancy loss. It's not a competition or a zero sum game.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

[Anonymous]

My tone-deaf friend called herself a fertility goddess in response to my story of struggles. We all are blessed one way or another. I was a milk machine (although I never shared this fact so as not to hurt anyone).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s especially hard when the lucky one is related to you

Perhaps your jealousy is your problem.

[Anonymous]

I get annoyed at the ladies who feel the need to declare "we weren't even trying" or "it was our first month of trying!" when telling people they are pregnant.

My sister did this. She loves to brag on her fertility to me despite knowing that I've suffered many devastating late losses.

But, she's married to an alcoholic and is drowning in debt. I'll celebrate her wins with her even though it makes me break inside.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

I started at 26 too. Became pregnant at 36. No clear cause for the infertility. That's life too.

A friend got married at 39 and had a child at 41 with her loving DH. Should she have had a child by herself earlier or settled for one of her previous boyfriends? I think she is more the norm on this forum than someone who has found their spouse by 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My tone-deaf friend called herself a fertility goddess in response to my story of struggles. We all are blessed one way or another. I was a milk machine (although I never shared this fact so as not to hurt anyone).

This. I got pregnant on my first try with both kids in my mid/late 30's, but I never made enough milk, never lost the weight from either pregnancy, suffer from tremendous parenting anxiety, and have had all kinds of random health issues pop up now in my 40's. I was so thankful I conceived easily, but I have had a rough go of a lot of other things. Good luck, OP. I hope things work out for you one way or another.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My tone-deaf friend called herself a fertility goddess in response to my story of struggles. We all are blessed one way or another. I was a milk machine (although I never shared this fact so as not to hurt anyone).

This. I got pregnant on my first try with both kids in my mid/late 30's, but I never made enough milk, never lost the weight from either pregnancy, suffer from tremendous parenting anxiety, and have had all kinds of random health issues pop up now in my 40's. I was so thankful I conceived easily, but I have had a rough go of a lot of other things. Good luck, OP. I hope things work out for you one way or another.

You know many infertility cases do not end in success, right? I’m sure there are many women who would gladly take your “rough go” for the chance to be a mother.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

Meh. Started are 26 too, had a miscarriage then first with iui, second with iui, another miscarriage and now trying ivf for more!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

Good for you for being in a position where starting a family made sense at age 26. Did you pick your parents, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course it’s normal to be jealous of this! It’s normal AND appropriate.

You can’t let it eat you up, but it would be insane to not feel it.

I agree with this, and TTC is not my struggle (I just saw it on the recent posts page). OP your feelings are valid.

[Anonymous]

I will take my fertility problems over some mother's problems. But it is easy for me to say because I ended up with two successful pregnancies.

I have a friend who got pregnant back to back soon after getting married. She has a child with severe autism.

I try not to be jealous of others because I usually don't want their problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The risk of unplanned pregnancy in an increasingly hostile abortion landscape is terrifying for these women.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.

+1 it’s no guarantee but it’s a lot easier to be “lucky” younger.

I have a friend who keeps telling me how “lucky” I was. She just started trying at 38. Okay…

That’s such a rude way to respond, even in your own head. One way or another you have something she desires but has no control over, so yes you are lucky.

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant naturally and had vaginal births, but am struggling with lingering pelvic floor issues, which really sucks, and a child with special needs.

I get where you’re coming from and it’s a natural feeling that you should acknowledge and process. But I guarantee you are lucky in other ways people are jealous of. We’re all on our own journey like a PP said.