"Girl things" for boys - nail polish on a toddler boy

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the “my son loves nail polish” threads. WTF.

What's with all the people so crazed over a 3yo who wants to have painted toes like mommy? Who cares? It's nail polish. It's fun.

After having kids, I see that some things really are taught. My older son loved pink (AND trucks, trains, cars) when he was 2-3. Now he's older, and he has clearly been told by someone (not me) that pink is only for girls, because he has told me so and has stopped wanting pink. Now my second son is 3 and loves pink.

Serious question, would you let your son wear lipstick? Why not? It's fun right!

Would I let a 3yo of any gender wear lipstick? Nope.

I don't make rules for my kids based on their genders. I buy them things they love, and support them in whatever version of themselves they want to be.

I just don't understand the difference between lipstick and nail polish.

They have non-toxic vegan polishes that are literally edible for toddlers, boomer.

[Anonymous]

I am 43 years old and I remember my mom painting my toenails and my friend Jake. We loved it. I now have twin boys aged 4 and one loves to have his toenails painted and the other one has absolutely no interest.

It’s ridiculous to think this is something new.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the “my son loves nail polish” threads. WTF.

What's with all the people so crazed over a 3yo who wants to have painted toes like mommy? Who cares? It's nail polish. It's fun.

After having kids, I see that some things really are taught. My older son loved pink (AND trucks, trains, cars) when he was 2-3. Now he's older, and he has clearly been told by someone (not me) that pink is only for girls, because he has told me so and has stopped wanting pink. Now my second son is 3 and loves pink.

Serious question, would you let your son wear lipstick? Why not? It's fun right!

Would I let a 3yo of any gender wear lipstick? Nope.

I don't make rules for my kids based on their genders. I buy them things they love, and support them in whatever version of themselves they want to be.

I just don't understand the difference between lipstick and nail polish.

They have non-toxic vegan polishes that are literally edible for toddlers, boomer.

I'm 35 and I think makeup on kids is some gross toddlers and tiaras bs. You do you though.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the “my son loves nail polish” threads. WTF.

What's with all the people so crazed over a 3yo who wants to have painted toes like mommy? Who cares? It's nail polish. It's fun.

After having kids, I see that some things really are taught. My older son loved pink (AND trucks, trains, cars) when he was 2-3. Now he's older, and he has clearly been told by someone (not me) that pink is only for girls, because he has told me so and has stopped wanting pink. Now my second son is 3 and loves pink.

Serious question, would you let your son wear lipstick? Why not? It's fun right!

Would I let a 3yo of any gender wear lipstick? Nope.

I don't make rules for my kids based on their genders. I buy them things they love, and support them in whatever version of themselves they want to be.

I just don't understand the difference between lipstick and nail polish.

Nail polish is more fun! More colors, more glitter, more fancy designs. 10 nails to paint - make patterns, choose a seasonal theme, so much more to play around with when painting your nails.

OP - I agree that it's surprising that people would still comment on preschool boys painting their nails. This is an age for playing. I wouldn't completely ignore this with your son because you want him to be able to stand up for his own ideas in the future and not be dissuaded from an interest just due to peer pressure. At least let him know that nail painting isn't just for girls anymore. You can google image search for boys with painted nails and find plenty of examples. I teach high school and there's usually one or two boys per class with painted nails occasionally. They tend to either use black or white, or blue/green/purple colors.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the “my son loves nail polish” threads. WTF.

What's with all the people so crazed over a 3yo who wants to have painted toes like mommy? Who cares? It's nail polish. It's fun.

After having kids, I see that some things really are taught. My older son loved pink (AND trucks, trains, cars) when he was 2-3. Now he's older, and he has clearly been told by someone (not me) that pink is only for girls, because he has told me so and has stopped wanting pink. Now my second son is 3 and loves pink.

Serious question, would you let your son wear lipstick? Why not? It's fun right!

Would I let a 3yo of any gender wear lipstick? Nope.

I don't make rules for my kids based on their genders. I buy them things they love, and support them in whatever version of themselves they want to be.

I just don't understand the difference between lipstick and nail polish.

They have non-toxic vegan polishes that are literally edible for toddlers, boomer.

I'm 35 and I think makeup on kids is some gross toddlers and tiaras bs. You do you though.

Lol we are the same age then- I promise you try harder than me in real life. Do you wear any makeup? Because I don’t, have flawless skin, and get confused for a high schooler often.

That being said, my kid likes nail polish. So she will wear it. And I’ll tell yours that it sucks that you’re a stick in the mud when she asks about it at a play date.

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My son is 18 now - when he was three he liked to get his toe nails done if his older sister had hers. He preferred green like the Hulk. No one ever said anything to him even at the pool we went to at the time run by the Knights of Columbus. Telling him no would have been teaching him not just that nail polish wasn't for him but that as a male he has to conform to rigid nonsensical rules. Why should I have done that when I wouldn't tell my DD she couldn't wear surfer swim trunks with a rash guard when she went through that phase at 7. Now my son has no desire to wear nail polish. I would have been upset if my nanny had decided to tell him he couldn't do something his parents had permitted.

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Anonymous wrote:It actually is a fact that pink is *traditionally* not much used by boys, 13:48 Although it is now fairly common for some men to wear pink shirt and tie.

Coaching your five year old to say: “Pink is my favorite color and I’m a boy” is creepy of you, like you have a creepy personal agenda that you’re hiding.

+1 these "look how progressive I am!" parents are pretty sus. who is the intended audience for this performance?

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the “my son loves nail polish” threads. WTF.

What's with all the people so crazed over a 3yo who wants to have painted toes like mommy? Who cares? It's nail polish. It's fun.

After having kids, I see that some things really are taught. My older son loved pink (AND trucks, trains, cars) when he was 2-3. Now he's older, and he has clearly been told by someone (not me) that pink is only for girls, because he has told me so and has stopped wanting pink. Now my second son is 3 and loves pink.

Serious question, would you let your son wear lipstick? Why not? It's fun right!

Would I let a 3yo of any gender wear lipstick? Nope.

I don't make rules for my kids based on their genders. I buy them things they love, and support them in whatever version of themselves they want to be.

I just don't understand the difference between lipstick and nail polish.

They have non-toxic vegan polishes that are literally edible for toddlers, boomer.

I'm 35 and I think makeup on kids is some gross toddlers and tiaras bs. You do you though.

Lol we are the same age then- I promise you try harder than me in real life. Do you wear any makeup? Because I don’t, have flawless skin, and get confused for a high schooler often.

That being said, my kid likes nail polish. So she will wear it. And I’ll tell yours that it sucks that you’re a stick in the mud when she asks about it at a play date.

this is the most try-hard post in the thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the “my son loves nail polish” threads. WTF.

What's with all the people so crazed over a 3yo who wants to have painted toes like mommy? Who cares? It's nail polish. It's fun.

After having kids, I see that some things really are taught. My older son loved pink (AND trucks, trains, cars) when he was 2-3. Now he's older, and he has clearly been told by someone (not me) that pink is only for girls, because he has told me so and has stopped wanting pink. Now my second son is 3 and loves pink.

Serious question, would you let your son wear lipstick? Why not? It's fun right!

Would I let a 3yo of any gender wear lipstick? Nope.

I don't make rules for my kids based on their genders. I buy them things they love, and support them in whatever version of themselves they want to be.

I just don't understand the difference between lipstick and nail polish.

Once it dries, nail polish doesn't smear or stain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 43 years old and I remember my mom painting my toenails and my friend Jake. We loved it. I now have twin boys aged 4 and one loves to have his toenails painted and the other one has absolutely no interest.

It’s ridiculous to think this is something new.

This. Clutch pearls elsehwere.

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OP, I can’t believe you didn’t say something to the childcare provider. You sent the kid to school with nail polish on. So the provider had to know you were ok with it. They were completely in the wrong here.

Where does your child get childcare? The 1950s?

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Woke signaling aside -- which this is by the way, conscious or not -- this always ends poorly.

You say you can't believe someone would give a three year old a hard time about something as silly as nail polish.

I say I can't believe a parent would set their child up for bullying or embarrassment over something as silly as nail polish.

I wear nail polish sometimes and my young two sons ask about it. I respond, "Nail polish is for girls. Are y'all ready for your snack?" Case closed.

I agree their interest in it is purely innocent, but because I love and care about them, I wouldn't open them up to ridicule.

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Anonymous wrote:Woke signaling aside -- which this is by the way, conscious or not -- this always ends poorly.

You say you can't believe someone would give a three year old a hard time about something as silly as nail polish.

I say I can't believe a parent would set their child up for bullying or embarrassment over something as silly as nail polish.

I wear nail polish sometimes and my young two sons ask about it. I respond, "Nail polish is for girls. Are y'all ready for your snack?" Case closed.

I agree their interest in it is purely innocent, but because I love and care about them, I wouldn't open them up to ridicule.

So, you're raising kids to be the bullies, and you think OP is the bad parent?

You do know that in the end, the bullies are the ones who end up miserable? You don't love your kids enough to prevent that. That's really sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Woke signaling aside -- which this is by the way, conscious or not -- this always ends poorly.

You say you can't believe someone would give a three year old a hard time about something as silly as nail polish.

I say I can't believe a parent would set their child up for bullying or embarrassment over something as silly as nail polish.

I wear nail polish sometimes and my young two sons ask about it. I respond, "Nail polish is for girls. Are y'all ready for your snack?" Case closed.

I agree their interest in it is purely innocent, but because I love and care about them, I wouldn't open them up to ridicule.

So, you're raising kids to be the bullies, and you think OP is the bad parent?

You do know that in the end, the bullies are the ones who end up miserable? You don't love your kids enough to prevent that. That's really sad.

Not at all. I would never encourage them to make comments about someone else. In fact, my son actually came home saying that one of his buddies had painted nails. I said, "Oh gotcha! It sounds like that in his family boys paint their nails sometimes. In our family, just the girls paint nails. You ready to go get in the car?"

There are realities to life, and biological and cultural differences between boys and girls. I'm sorry you are fighting that every step of the way, and overcomplicating simple concepts for your very young children as a result. You don't love YOUR kids enough, it sounds like.

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Nail polish is for people that WANT to wear nail polish. As are makeup, dresses, pants, cargo shorts, skirts, glittery things, and whatever else. As long as no one is forcing anyone to do it one way or the other there’s no need to worry about it.