Jonah Hill

[Anonymous]

Okay he’s a weirdo but he laid it all out there in those texts. She could have just said your rules or boundaries are crazy, I’m out.

[Anonymous]

One thing I think people in this thread are glossing over is that social media engagement is effectively her job/a major part of her job. Following his rules would be akin to asking her to quit her job and become financially dependent on him after only a few months of dating. Which is creepy and weird.

I still think she should never have released these, but his “boundaries” (not boundaries at all, rules for her life) were not reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One thing I think people in this thread are glossing over is that social media engagement is effectively her job/a major part of her job. Following his rules would be akin to asking her to quit her job and become financially dependent on him after only a few months of dating. Which is creepy and weird.

I still think she should never have released these, but his “boundaries” (not boundaries at all, rules for her life) were not reasonable.

This is where I’m at, too.

She kinda sucks.

He sucks more, though. His insecurity is so unattractive. High value LA chicks are going to see those texts and steer clear of him - the juice ain’t worth the squeeze.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One thing I think people in this thread are glossing over is that social media engagement is effectively her job/a major part of her job. Following his rules would be akin to asking her to quit her job and become financially dependent on him after only a few months of dating. Which is creepy and weird.

I still think she should never have released these, but his “boundaries” (not boundaries at all, rules for her life) were not reasonable.

This is where I’m at, too.

She kinda sucks.

He sucks more, though. His insecurity is so unattractive. High value LA chicks are going to see those texts and steer clear of him - the juice ain’t worth the squeeze.

Doubtful, their looks are an hourglass and the sands are running out.

[Anonymous]

That there are two women on the planet who said yes to this guy is astounding in itself.

[Anonymous]

The texts are SO cringe and misplaced. I am embarrassed for him. But from what I saw it was not what I would call abusive and I’m not sure why she claims to be so scarred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One thing I think people in this thread are glossing over is that social media engagement is effectively her job/a major part of her job. Following his rules would be akin to asking her to quit her job and become financially dependent on him after only a few months of dating. Which is creepy and weird.

I still think she should never have released these, but his “boundaries” (not boundaries at all, rules for her life) were not reasonable.

So that means that you shouldn't date Jonah Hill. But he isn't wrong for laying out what he wants in a mate. It's really not that unusual for a rich man to want his spouse to quit her work and be available for him full-time, and many women are happy with that lifestyle. Not my jam, but also not my role to criticize other people's choices.

[Anonymous]

And not to talk to other men. Sure, totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m admittedly a Jonah Hill fan, but I seriously don’t get it.

Everything I read was basically just a calm and respectful statement of his “boundaries” in a relationship. Not something I personally would be cool with, but this idea that it was somehow “abusive” is crazy. The ex was free to decide any time if they were a good match or not.

We routinely defend women for having preferences—whether it’s wealth, height, certain type of career, liking or not liking certain hobbies or activities, drinker or non-drinker, etc. And if some MRA incel gets mad about that (surely because he doesn’t fit the criteria), he’s rightly condemned. Women don’t have to give a guy a chance if he’s a short, fat, unemployed pothead who plays video games all day.

JH doesn’t want a girlfriend who poses publicly in bikinis, or frolics in the ocean with other guys. So what? I suspect there are many people, men and women, who would feel uncomfortable with that in their partner.

+1

He did nothing wrong. I doesn’t matter if we agree with his boundaries. He clearly knew what they were, and likewise stated them clearly. Good for him for knowing what he wants.

[Anonymous]

He's creepy and controlling and deeply screwed up. Just because he was polite in the texts doesn't make him a nice guy - he was trying to impose absurd, unreasonable constraints on a romantic partner. That is by definition abusive. How screwed up would you have to be to get involved with someone whose job involves wearing a bathing suit and then chastise that person for wearing a bathing suit? And his girlfriends aren't permitted to talk to men? Ayatollah Jonah is a jerk.

[Anonymous]

I think the whole text story would tell a fuller picture. He refers to "boundaryless inappropriate friendships with men", "friendships with women who are in unstable places and from your wild, recent past beyond getting a lunch or coffee or something respectful", and a couple other comments where he refers to her lack of awareness in social siutations and she says she isn't socially intelligent etc.

She has very selectively chosen texts from him and curated her own to tell the story she wants to tell. I know nothing about him, don't think I have ever seen a movie of his, and only vaguely know of him but if this is the worst texts she has from their relationship, then I am team Jonah

[Anonymous]

I have no doubt he is an insecure control freak, but this sort of kvetching for attention/cash prizes really diminishes the real abuse women suffer at the hands of men. Not the feminist move she thinks it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's creepy and controlling and deeply screwed up. Just because he was polite in the texts doesn't make him a nice guy - he was trying to impose absurd, unreasonable constraints on a romantic partner. That is by definition abusive. How screwed up would you have to be to get involved with someone whose job involves wearing a bathing suit and then chastise that person for wearing a bathing suit? And his girlfriends aren't permitted to talk to men? Ayatollah Jonah is a jerk.

Got it. You don’t know what abusive means.

Keep trivializing it, though. Those who have been Actually Abused love seeing the term rendered absolutely meaningless by infantile women who love playing victim because someone said something (allegedly) mean or unpleasant in a text message.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the people in here saying good for him for knowing his boundaries when two of these boundaries were that she wasn’t allowed to surf with men and wasn’t even allowed to do more than say “hello” to men that weren’t on a list he preapproved. That is not just a boundary, that is deep, deep unhealthy need for total control over your partner. How is that a normal boundary???????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m admittedly a Jonah Hill fan, but I seriously don’t get it.

Everything I read was basically just a calm and respectful statement of his “boundaries” in a relationship. Not something I personally would be cool with, but this idea that it was somehow “abusive” is crazy. The ex was free to decide any time if they were a good match or not.

We routinely defend women for having preferences—whether it’s wealth, height, certain type of career, liking or not liking certain hobbies or activities, drinker or non-drinker, etc. And if some MRA incel gets mad about that (surely because he doesn’t fit the criteria), he’s rightly condemned. Women don’t have to give a guy a chance if he’s a short, fat, unemployed pothead who plays video games all day.

JH doesn’t want a girlfriend who poses publicly in bikinis, or frolics in the ocean with other guys. So what? I suspect there are many people, men and women, who would feel uncomfortable with that in their partner.

You don’t see why these are super creepy texts? Very weird.