Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just checking the sense of the Senate here, but do we think it would have been okay if the text has been more along the lines of “I’m sorry but I don’t think it works for me to date someone who parties the way you do and is so flirty/open with her body. Obviously you’re entitled to live your life how you want, but this is not the right fit for me.” And then she would have the option of saying “no wait, I’m over the partying and all that. What I really want is a sedate life in the suburbs.” Or say “okay. Thanks for letting me know sooner rather than later. If you need a surfer type for your nexr movie,LMK.”
No - she's a professional surfer. You don't date someone who is a professional surfer then basically say that she's a big old slut for wearing bathing suits.
I think you can say: I think you're amazing but it turns out I'm too insecure to be with someone who works in a male dominated field like you do, and I am going to work on this with my therapist, but I don't want to saddle you with this while I do. I can feel myself turning controlling here and I don't think that's good for either of us.