Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you hot? That's the only thing men care about. Almost anything else can be handwaved away. Age, number of kids, job, education level -- NONE of that matters if you are hot.

This is gospel. Alway true and will always be true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

I’m assuming op is still hoping to have children, hence the urgency

OP do not rush into having children. Donor sperm is the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

Wow you are so judgmental. Why wouldn’t OP want to get married after a bad experience? Maybe she wants and deserves a better one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on your weight, number of kids you have (if any) & their ages, your financial prospects and how good or bad your coparenting relationship is with ex-H. All of that will affect your dating life.

You literally cannot read. And WTH about weight.

Come on. Of course weight matters. I’d say it’s one of the most important factors.

[Anonymous]

Man here. I have plenty of single male friends in this age bracket. Like another poster said, look good (watch your weight), and I'd add don't be high maintenance, and you'll have no issues finding a man if that's what you want. Men don't have this long list of traits they need in a woman, nor are they ready to reject if one item on the list isn't met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your weight, number of kids you have (if any) & their ages, your financial prospects and how good or bad your coparenting relationship is with ex-H. All of that will affect your dating life.

You literally cannot read. And WTH about weight.

NP. No, the pp is correct. Weight has a huge impact on her dating prospects. Men won’t expect perfection but if she is anything other than height-weight proportionate, it’s going to limit the interest somewhat.

[Anonymous]

#1 question is — what is your BMI? If > 25.1, then work to lower it. Really.

#2 question is — all of the following — Do you have a cat - or more than one cat? Do you have a condo? Do you have significant student debt? Do you have an STI? Do you think of yourself as type A? Do you have an inflexible list of income or political or age or height or other requirements for your potential partner?

[Anonymous]

Why are cats and condos deal breakers?

I am serious.

Yet she us supposed to be open to a MAGA???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

Sounds like your second marriage isn't going well 😳

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#1 question is — what is your BMI? If > 25.1, then work to lower it. Really.

#2 question is — all of the following — Do you have a cat - or more than one cat? Do you have a condo? Do you have significant student debt? Do you have an STI? Do you think of yourself as type A? Do you have an inflexible list of income or political or age or height or other requirements for your potential partner?

This. Be informed and care. But zealotry…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

What a strange thing to make you sad. You sound like a freak of nature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think it’s easier, less complicated and less expensive than dating in your late 30s *with* kids.

If you want kids and are willing to be a single parent, freeze your eggs or freeze embryos with a donor (or do both) as a backup plan.

Try to be positive OP. Having children in a bad marriage does not do anybody any favors.

Please carefully review success statistics (i.e. women who go on to have a live birth with a frozen unfertilized egg that was harvested at your age) before wasting your money on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

I’m assuming op is still hoping to have children, hence the urgency

My friend got divorced and dating with a broken heart in her late thirties. She ended up getting a boob job and met a newly divorced guy on tinder. They got married and ended up divorced. I think they both weren’t ready and the only thing they both had in common was being newly divorced.

My friend is now 45 and has accepted her childfree single life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I have plenty of single male friends in this age bracket. Like another poster said, look good (watch your weight), and I'd add don't be high maintenance, and you'll have no issues finding a man if that's what you want. Men don't have this long list of traits they need in a woman, nor are they ready to reject if one item on the list isn't met.

Yup. I'm a guy in my early 40s. She has lots of options if she's in shape and has a positive personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I have plenty of single male friends in this age bracket. Like another poster said, look good (watch your weight), and I'd add don't be high maintenance, and you'll have no issues finding a man if that's what you want. Men don't have this long list of traits they need in a woman, nor are they ready to reject if one item on the list isn't met.

Very true. That is why dating for women is much easier at any age.