Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?

[Anonymous]

Do you want kids? Have you frozen your eggs?

[Anonymous]

I WS your age when I panicked and settled for someone who turned out to be abusive. It ruined my life. If I could do it again I would try harder to meet other people at that age and be more open to dating older men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your weight, number of kids you have (if any) & their ages, your financial prospects and how good or bad your coparenting relationship is with ex-H. All of that will affect your dating life.

You literally cannot read. And WTH about weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you hot? That's the only thing men care about. Almost anything else can be handwaved away. Age, number of kids, job, education level -- NONE of that matters if you are hot.

Obviously looks matter to some extent, but ask yourself: how "hot" are the happily partnered women (and men) you know? How about the unhappily partnered? The single ones? My guess is that there's a huge variety of "hotness" (ugh) among all three groups.

[Anonymous]

I’m late 30s married with kids and I imagine it’s fabulous!!!

Sorry about the divorce but don’t be so pessimistic about the future.

Of course, in dating you’ll have to separate the wheat from the chaff. Coming out of a marriage, I’m sure now more than ever you know what you want and what you don’t want so vetting may be easier.

Not having kids will make the process so much easier. You’re free! Live your best life.

[Anonymous]

I would think it’s easier, less complicated and less expensive than dating in your late 30s *with* kids.

If you want kids and are willing to be a single parent, freeze your eggs or freeze embryos with a donor (or do both) as a backup plan.

Try to be positive OP. Having children in a bad marriage does not do anybody any favors.

[Anonymous]

I know several women who meet and married men when they were in their late 30s/early 40s. Their husbands are all fantastic - kind, devoted men who happen to be very financially successful. They’ve all had kids through IVF now. Go to therapy to get your head on straight and figure out who you are, then put yourself out there and have fun. You’ll be fine. Being thin and good looking helps, of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your weight, number of kids you have (if any) & their ages, your financial prospects and how good or bad your coparenting relationship is with ex-H. All of that will affect your dating life.

The title of the thread says “childless”.

[Anonymous]

Process the devastating divorce first, even if it takes years. You could meet the perfect partner, but if you are not in a good place, it won’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Freeze embryos using the highest quality donor sperm.

And then be picky! Men are plentiful, and you’ve already done the responsible thing for your children by selecting young healthy brilliant genes for them, so now you do the responsible thing *for you* and choose carefully and wisely.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who met her now husband at 39. She’s now 42 and they have an almost one year old. Her husband is a couple years younger.

[Anonymous]

The grass is always greener, OP. Having kids is overrated. Enjoy YOUR best life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you hot? That's the only thing men care about. Almost anything else can be handwaved away. Age, number of kids, job, education level -- NONE of that matters if you are hot.

Thank you Lauren Sanchez

[Anonymous]

I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd that after a devastating divorce you’d want to pursue dating right away.

I also find it odd if you’re a woman who has been married and you would actually marry again.

I wanted to get married in my 20s. I’m now happily married but the allure of marriage has faded. I do not think it’s appealing and it makes me sad how many women in their 20s and 30s want to get married!

I’m assuming op is still hoping to have children, hence the urgency