What would you do if your nest won’t empty?

Anonymous
I don't see the problem. This would make me happy, as long as the reason wasn't because the child couldn't get a job and support themselves.
Anonymous
I know a family with three adult children home all the time making messes. Kid #1 is 25 and has a baby and works sparingly, kid #2 is 21 and in college but on a break for medical reasons and kid #3 will be 18 in July and barely attends HS (senior year). Yikes
Anonymous
Charge rent, starting at age X. And, while not market rate rent, it needs to be enough to make them think. You can save the rent to give them when they leave to help them get started, but they have to learn to start paying their own bills so they can mature.
Anonymous
TIKTOK it making popular to live at home till your over 40 years old. saw so many Tiktok video's about this..
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I am over my 23 y.o. son. He has managed to fail at everything since graduating high school including college. He compulsively lies and was required to enroll in community college in addition to holding a job and paying nominal rent ($150 a month that I am saving in an account). When I asked him the status of the supposed "late starting" spring courses, he lied again about accelerated courses starting in June. I told him hell no, he must enroll now or get out. I am so over him.

I feel trapped with a perpetual 14 y.o. I keep hoping he finds a gf but know that no young woman in her right mind would deal with his immaturity.


I hate to break it to you, but a lot of men are still like this at 43 and even older. I'm a single straight woman in my forties and part of the reason why I'm single is because a large percentage of single men my age are living with their parents (and not because they're caring for them) and being supported by them.


No, a lot of men are not like this. Women cannot complain when they are parenting them.


Women will always find a reason to blame someone else for their inadequacies. Trust me, I know. Lol.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:TIKTOK it making popular to live at home till your over 40 years old. saw so many Tiktok video's about this..


My child does not have that option—we moved to the Berkshires when they started HS.
Anonymous
Our friends who were having this issue sold the family home once the youngest was in college, put everything in storage, and traveled for over a year. They then moved into a townhome and let the kids know they were welcome to visit but can't live with them anymore. From an outsiders perspective, it was well played!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Our friends who were having this issue sold the family home once the youngest was in college, put everything in storage, and traveled for over a year. They then moved into a townhome and let the kids know they were welcome to visit but can't live with them anymore. From an outsiders perspective, it was well played!


I’d tell my parents to F*** off. They’d be extra pleased I’m sure at the grandkids they’d never be allowed to meet.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our friends who were having this issue sold the family home once the youngest was in college, put everything in storage, and traveled for over a year. They then moved into a townhome and let the kids know they were welcome to visit but can't live with them anymore. From an outsiders perspective, it was well played!


I’d tell my parents to F*** off. They’d be extra pleased I’m sure at the grandkids they’d never be allowed to meet.


So your love is conditional on your parents financially supporting you as an adult? And to stick it to your parents, you'd cutoff your kids from a relationship with their grandparents? This is super unhealthy. My parents didn't do anything for me financially after paying for my education and I still love them. And I try to tell them how grateful I am for everything they've done for me as often as possible, certainly every mother's day, father's day and birthday. And I love the relationship they have with my kids. I'm happy they are happy. You know?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:TIKTOK it making popular to live at home till your over 40 years old. saw so many Tiktok video's about this..


My child does not have that option—we moved to the Berkshires when they started HS.


To a 1 BR?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:TIKTOK it making popular to live at home till your over 40 years old. saw so many Tiktok video's about this..


My child does not have that option—we moved to the Berkshires when they started HS.


To a 1 BR?


No, but the location is such that there are very few corporate jobs they could commute to from here if they tried to keep living at home.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our friends who were having this issue sold the family home once the youngest was in college, put everything in storage, and traveled for over a year. They then moved into a townhome and let the kids know they were welcome to visit but can't live with them anymore. From an outsiders perspective, it was well played!


I’d tell my parents to F*** off. They’d be extra pleased I’m sure at the grandkids they’d never be allowed to meet.


So your love is conditional on your parents financially supporting you as an adult? And to stick it to your parents, you'd cutoff your kids from a relationship with their grandparents? This is super unhealthy. My parents didn't do anything for me financially after paying for my education and I still love them. And I try to tell them how grateful I am for everything they've done for me as often as possible, certainly every mother's day, father's day and birthday. And I love the relationship they have with my kids. I'm happy they are happy. You know?


If you would allow your child to be homeless rather than take them in, then you are a horrible parent.

American families are broken for a reason.


You got it backwards. Some kids are slackers for a reason—because they’re enabled by parents who think like you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:TIKTOK it making popular to live at home till your over 40 years old. saw so many Tiktok video's about this..


My child does not have that option—we moved to the Berkshires when they started HS.


To a 1 BR?


No, but the location is such that there are very few corporate jobs they could commute to from here if they tried to keep living at home.


A failure to launch DC would not be deterred by the dearth of corporate jobs.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our friends who were having this issue sold the family home once the youngest was in college, put everything in storage, and traveled for over a year. They then moved into a townhome and let the kids know they were welcome to visit but can't live with them anymore. From an outsiders perspective, it was well played!


I’d tell my parents to F*** off. They’d be extra pleased I’m sure at the grandkids they’d never be allowed to meet.


So your love is conditional on your parents financially supporting you as an adult? And to stick it to your parents, you'd cutoff your kids from a relationship with their grandparents? This is super unhealthy. My parents didn't do anything for me financially after paying for my education and I still love them. And I try to tell them how grateful I am for everything they've done for me as often as possible, certainly every mother's day, father's day and birthday. And I love the relationship they have with my kids. I'm happy they are happy. You know?


If you would allow your child to be homeless rather than take them in, then you are a horrible parent.

American families are broken for a reason.


You got it backwards. Some kids are slackers for a reason—because they’re enabled by parents who think like you.


+1. Was going to post something like this.
Anonymous
Options for my kids were/are 1) military 2) college 3) get a job.

We are paying for option 2 so there is no reason not to move out of the house at 18. It’s the expectation.

Yes, life gets in the way and our plan may have to get reevaluated, but I don’t want my kids living with us anymore. Time to fly the nest!

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