What would you do if your nest won’t empty?

[Anonymous]

That wouldn’t totally alienate your kids?

[Anonymous]

It would depend on the reason.

[Anonymous]

Change locks. Move to studio. Wake up early and vacuum.

[Anonymous]

Need more info? I’d the bird trying to fly and struggling? Or just outright refusing?

[Anonymous]

Charge rent.

[Anonymous]

Is it a child that could move out but doesn’t want to? Downsize.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you’ll be downsizing in 6 months. Move.

[Anonymous]

I’d be happy to host my kids as long as they are taking steps to work and save. If those things are not happening then some deadlines might be needed.

[Anonymous]

Empty it. You need to move out by (30 days from now). That's it. No offer for them to stay paying rent or anything.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the reason. But my friend gave her son enough money for first, last, and deposit on an apartment and kicked him out.

[Anonymous]

Its A-OK with me. In fact, it is my dream scenario. We end up buying a bigger house together in an expensive neighborhood with all the bells and whistles and we all can live in a joint multi-generational family.

Obviouly, my expectation is - they are saving money, doing a job, getting more certification, living a life of moderation, doing their part in running the house, do not have addiction issues, are taking care of their health, are a good spouse and parents, priortizing the education of their children, willing to pitch in money for outsourcing chores.

[Anonymous]

More details needed. How old is your adult child/children? Do they have a job? Do they have their own car that they pay for or some reliable form of transportation that they pay for themselves? Do they have health issues--physical health or mental health? Do they have their own health insurance or are they still on yours? What's your relationship with them like--are they respectful and responsible and do they help out around the house, do you get along with them?

My answer would depend on your answers to all of the above. If my adult child was just out of college recently and youngish--mid 20s-- working a steady job and was helpful around the house and we got along well, I'd be happy for them to stay for a few years until they are more ready to be out on their own. If my adult child had health issues that they needed help with and I doubted how well they'd take care of themselves if living alone, I'd want them to stay for their health/safety. If my adult child had been in an abusive relationship or similar bad situation that they were trying to escape by living at home, I'd want them to stay. But in other scenarios I may not want them to stay.

[Anonymous]

An example of adult ripe to move out is the non-working, not in school, video game addict that got a gift visa card from parents for bday and wrote text telling them would have preferred cash as the card is too much an inconvenience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An example of adult ripe to move out is the non-working, not in school, video game addict that got a gift visa card from parents for bday and wrote text telling them would have preferred cash as the card is too much an inconvenience.

My kids hate cash; they prefer Venmo or a check they can deposit with a picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be happy to host my kids as long as they are taking steps to work and save. If those things are not happening then some deadlines might be needed.

This, their room is always theirs. As long as they are working and saving for a house/retirement of their own, they can live with us till marriage.