Is it really racist to wonder what color the baby's skin might be?

[Anonymous]

Chris rock rarely jokes that black is beautiful, normally darker toned celebrities are the butt of dark skinned people jokes with a negative nuance.

[Anonymous]

not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not racist to wonder about it, but it IS racist to think that certain shades/features are preferable or better.

Is it? In a world where dark skin is discriminated against, it is so horrible to hope your child is lighter skinned?

I never thought about it in context of skin color, but I did think about it in context of being gay. I would love and accept and support my child no matter what, but even I know it's harder to be gay in this world. Nobody wants it put more and more burdens on their kid in an already difficult world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

Blame it on your history, and get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The quarter black is the most hard to know combo. I am half black and my sister is also half black (obviously) and I look black and she looks mixed. Very common. But she married a white guy and her kids literally look white EXCEPT for the last one who looks mixed/skewing to 75 percent black. I married a black guy and all my kids look black (as most 75 percent do, think Obamas kids) but my husbands brother married a white girl and their kids look whiter than my sisters white kids. Anyway, mixed genes are a grab bag but when you are down to a quarter it’s the biggest “what if” in my experience. And everyone, and I mean everyone, is wondering about it and I think it’s natural. I disagree that loving your kids blue eyes or “promoting” them is racist, everyone looks for qualities they have in their kids and usually feel some special way about them? I think it’s natural. The worst part of being mixed is looking too white or too black because you can’t make anyone happy. I hope it’s something this next generation doesn’t deal with as much since interracial marriage is now common across all socioeconomic groups.

I married an Egyptian and his family's complexions are all over the place. A very light-skinned couple can have a darker skinned baby who looks more like Hoda Kotb for example. He has blond cousins, and a sibling and other cousins with green and blue eyes. One looks like that actor Simon Baker. And he has an uncle who looks like Mike Tyson. I just always assumed this was America's future as we all just marry and procreate with people we love rather than people we are forced to marry. At least I hope so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

That’s not always true. I’m dark hair and skinned (purposefully not saying race) and all of us wondered what the babies would look like. It’s normal. I didn’t get offended by my MIL wondering if they would have my husband’s light blond hair and blue eyes. It would be odd if she didn’t wonder or bring out his baby photos around the time of my first pregnancy. It turns out mine had my complexion and look so much like me. But there are plenty of kids in the extended family with light hair and with light eyes and look more like the spouse. You never know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

That’s not always true. I’m dark hair and skinned (purposefully not saying race) and all of us wondered what the babies would look like. It’s normal. I didn’t get offended by my MIL wondering if they would have my husband’s light blond hair and blue eyes. It would be odd if she didn’t wonder or bring out his baby photos around the time of my first pregnancy. It turns out mine had my complexion and look so much like me. But there are plenty of kids in the extended family with light hair and with light eyes and look more like the spouse. You never know.

But PP said white people can't do it, so that's that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

That’s not always true. I’m dark hair and skinned (purposefully not saying race) and all of us wondered what the babies would look like. It’s normal. I didn’t get offended by my MIL wondering if they would have my husband’s light blond hair and blue eyes. It would be odd if she didn’t wonder or bring out his baby photos around the time of my first pregnancy. It turns out mine had my complexion and look so much like me. But there are plenty of kids in the extended family with light hair and with light eyes and look more like the spouse. You never know.

But PP said white people can't do it, so that's that.

I also said get over it, so you might want to try that, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

That’s not always true. I’m dark hair and skinned (purposefully not saying race) and all of us wondered what the babies would look like. It’s normal. I didn’t get offended by my MIL wondering if they would have my husband’s light blond hair and blue eyes. It would be odd if she didn’t wonder or bring out his baby photos around the time of my first pregnancy. It turns out mine had my complexion and look so much like me. But there are plenty of kids in the extended family with light hair and with light eyes and look more like the spouse. You never know.

But PP said white people can't do it, so that's that.

I also said get over it, so you might want to try that, too.

So spicy. Yes, queen. I'll get right on it. Any other commands your grace?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not racist to wonder about it, but it IS racist to think that certain shades/features are preferable or better.

But H&M never claimed anyone said that part.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

Some Indians are obsessed with skin color.

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My MIL and I are both of Indian descent. One of my twins is darker skinned than the other and the whole time she was visiting post partum, she was giving me tips on how I could lighten his skin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:not racist. Mixed family here and we wondered.

BUT, if the (already confirmed) racist side is expressing that sentiment, yes it's racist.

So basically only white people can't do it?

There are some things that certain groups of people can’t do because of their history of bigotry and otherism against Black people.

Do you also want to be able to say the N-word?

You people are ridiculous.

So, yes. Thank you. Just say it plainly.

White people, if your relative marries someone of a different race, do not speculate about what the child will look like at all. Ever.

That’s not always true. I’m dark hair and skinned (purposefully not saying race) and all of us wondered what the babies would look like. It’s normal. I didn’t get offended by my MIL wondering if they would have my husband’s light blond hair and blue eyes. It would be odd if she didn’t wonder or bring out his baby photos around the time of my first pregnancy. It turns out mine had my complexion and look so much like me. But there are plenty of kids in the extended family with light hair and with light eyes and look more like the spouse. You never know.

But PP said white people can't do it, so that's that.

I also said get over it, so you might want to try that, too.

So spicy. Yes, queen. I'll get right on it. Any other commands your grace?

Nope. I’m good.