Happy affair stories

[Anonymous]

When I was 33 I had a married “friend” who I’d fool around with. She was 49, I think she was feeling old and unattractive and I helped her with that. We had a lot of fun together then went our separate ways.

[Anonymous]

You can also open up the marriage. But marriage is a two way street. Both people should be able to make their own decisions with all the information in front of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 33 I had a married “friend” who I’d fool around with. She was 49, I think she was feeling old and unattractive and I helped her with that. We had a lot of fun together then went our separate ways.

That is gross. I would not be sharing that.

[Anonymous]

Communicate with your spouse that cheated and see how they may feel about you guys having a monogamish relationship. Neither one of you are getting any from each other....this way you can keep your "daily" life for the kids and have your needs met outside of your primary relationship. Better than cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a dead bedroom situation and am dying! Any good or positive affair stories?
I’ve got enough of the negative, it’s deterred me for years. I’m hanging on by a thread.

Since you are in a dead bedroom, totally different rules apply. Just declare the marriage open. This is not an affair, this is a lifestyle choice (similar to how "sexless" is a lifestyle choice).
You are free to make this decision unilaterally, just as your spouse unilaterally decided to be sexless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone is going to pay for it, might not be you, might be your AP, maybe their kids, maybe her husband kills your dog, maybe she gets you fired from work, maybe the AP sends an email to all your Facebook friends… the possibilities for disaster are nearly endless.

But maybe you find just the right person with exactly as much to lose as you and you both carry on for years giving each other the love, intimacy and affection that you long for.

Lemme know how it goes!

This is a chance to dust off that liberal arts or middle/high school exploration of point of view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was 33 I had a married “friend” who I’d fool around with. She was 49, I think she was feeling old and unattractive and I helped her with that. We had a lot of fun together then went our separate ways.

That is gross. I would not be sharing that.

Hey OP wanted positive stories, there you go!
I guess you were rooting for a shutout lol.
It was great, so hot, no regrets.

[Anonymous]

Ruined my life for someone that ultimately meant nothing. Move on. Make a decision, not this.

[Anonymous]

Mine was happy. She was in a near sexless marriage with a depressed husband who was rude to her. My wife was also totally disinterested - we were 3 years sexless. We helped each other through a rough patch. Several years of occasional meet-ups. Safe. She divorced, I am still married. We haven't hooked up in four years. We still keep in loose touch as friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can also open up the marriage. But marriage is a two way street. Both people should be able to make their own decisions with all the information in front of them.

Just get a divorce. We tried the ENM thing and it was a total mess and we're almost certainly getting a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine was happy. She was in a near sexless marriage with a depressed husband who was rude to her. My wife was also totally disinterested - we were 3 years sexless. We helped each other through a rough patch. Several years of occasional meet-ups. Safe. She divorced, I am still married. We haven't hooked up in four years. We still keep in loose touch as friends.

Does your wife know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can also open up the marriage. But marriage is a two way street. Both people should be able to make their own decisions with all the information in front of them.

Just get a divorce. We tried the ENM thing and it was a total mess and we're almost certainly getting a divorce.

It's usually a mess if one partner disregards the other, breaks the common ground rules, cheats (even though being open), and then lies about cheating. Oh wait. That happens in non-ENM relationships as well. It sounds like you guys were trying ENM to save a relationship, which made the eventual decision easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a dead bedroom situation and am dying! Any good or positive affair stories?
I’ve got enough of the negative, it’s deterred me for years. I’m hanging on by a thread.

Since you are in a dead bedroom, totally different rules apply. Just declare the marriage open. This is not an affair, this is a lifestyle choice (similar to how "sexless" is a lifestyle choice).
You are free to make this decision unilaterally, just as your spouse unilaterally decided to be sexless.

You again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone is going to pay for it, might not be you, might be your AP, maybe their kids, maybe her husband kills your dog, maybe she gets you fired from work, maybe the AP sends an email to all your Facebook friends… the possibilities for disaster are nearly endless.

But maybe you find just the right person with exactly as much to lose as you and you both carry on for years giving each other the love, intimacy and affection that you long for.

Lemme know how it goes!

This is a chance to dust off that liberal arts or middle/high school exploration of point of view.

Could you explain PP?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been having an affair for the past 8 or so months and I’m very happy! He makes me feel alive again! Only time will tell how this ends, but for now this has been a very good thing.