Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
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Anonymous
I love sweaters. If my DH got me a cashmere sweater for Valentine's Day 1) I'd be shocked 2) I'd be stroking myself all the time |
Anonymous
Do guys love getting sweaters though? |
Anonymous
| OP - was it cashmere? |
Anonymous
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The fact that he did not get you something is not in itself an issue. DH and I have never done valentines presents. I don't think we ever discussed no-presents when we started dating 25 years ago. We were both just those kinds of people. He's a practically perfect man, even today. Lack of presents is, in my situation, a total non issue. I agree with the other poster that "gift language of love" is garbage. Like, how can someone be biologically wired to need someone to buy them BodyWorks scented hand lotion?
That said, if you expressly agreed to presents before valentines day, then yes it seems like this is a problem. But I'm not convinced you agreed to presents. What was the conversation? You said that valentines day was important to you and that you expected him to "do something for it" and then he took you to dinner? You said valentines was important to you so you planned to get him a gift? There are lots of conversations that could have been had where he didn't expressly say he was getting you a gift, but that's what you wanted to hear. But if you both said "yes, we agree we will exchange gifts" and he showed up empty handed, then yes, that's disappointing. I'd also want to hear what he said after you got him a gift and he was empty handed. |
Anonymous
Hey now, this is a non-explicit forum. Keep it PG. |
Anonymous
No, because it's important to you. I will say, though, that I think it's pretty stupid to feel so strongly about "celebrating" a Hallmark holiday. Even dumber to expect you'll feel that way in the coming decades. |
Anonymous
| What color was the sweater? Red? |
Anonymous
| OP here. He is the person that imitated the gift conversation. He said we could exchange gifts if it was important to me. I said it was. He then asked for some gift ideas and gave me his. The sweater was something he listed so I bought it. When I gave it to him he said thanks, but gave me nothing. |
Anonymous
| *initiated |
Anonymous
Sorry, sorry. Don't spend any time thinking about how and where I'm stroking myself. |
Anonymous
OP, if this is really what happened then why are you even here asking about it? This guy is a next level jerk and very probably a narcissist- dump him and move on. Love is a choice so you can most definitely choose not to love him and in a few months your brain and body will be over him and you will undoubtedly meet someone better for you in short order. This guy’s manipulative and callous behavior puts him squarely into bad guy territory - don’t marry it. |
Anonymous
Does he respect things that are important to you otherwise, even if they're not important to him? |
Anonymous
| I’m curious as to what was on your list… |
Anonymous
| Hey so whatever happened to dinner and roses for Valentine’s Day? |
Anonymous
Although, I absolutely do not think it’s problematic that he did not get you a Valentines gift just because it was Valentine’s Day, because you had discussed it in advanced and agreed to exchange this is a bit strange to put it mildly. |