Making a shortlist of potential spouses I would approve for my child - just for fun!

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Anonymous wrote:This is insane. Maybe your daughter will be gay. Maybe your daughter won't want to get married. Maybe her values in men will be different than hers.

Also if your child is less than a year then these friends' kids are probably four years old and younger - you have NO WAY of knowing which will turn out to have a heroin addiction, gambling addiction, anger management issues, become a cheater, be so spoiled by their parents that they contribute nothing, etc.

It's a lot weirder to look at a sweet 4yo and think "oh he might turn out to be a heroin addict" than to have little daydreams about a happy future for these little kids ahead.

Guess I'm just a realist.

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Not all thoughts should be shared on the internet even anonymously. This is one of them.

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OP here- damn you people are rude. Lucky I don’t actually live in DC and have to deal with you in person!

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Anonymous wrote:People uninterested in prospective spouses of their children are the weird ones, historically speaking.

Sure, when they are older and you can actually assess them based on personality and future potential. At age 0-3 what are you going to assess them on - their parents’ looks and money?

Well, that, and also if they have sufficient armies to join with me to ensure that our grandchild will sit on the throne of France.

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Anonymous wrote:I get that this is just for fun, but I would keep that to myself.

+1. Sounds Duggar-ish.

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It didn't work out too well for Catherine de Bourgh.

Kidding aside, I don't think there's any harm in it, OP!

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have a LOT of friends, family friends and people we know from church who have young kids. We have a nine month old baby girl and sometimes I find myself contemplating which one of our friends sons I would approve of her marrying- just for fun! I swear I won’t be one of those moms pressuring their daughter to get married and give them grandkids.
Is it just me or does anyone else do this?!

No, that is just weird and degenerate.

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I've done this, although of course I say nothing out loud. It's mostly that everyone's cute at that age and it would be fun to have my friends as in-laws. But as the kids grow up, the "pool" shrinks down dramatically -- a lot of those adorable babies are pretty annoying at 7+, LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:That is creepy but it checks out since you are an active church-goer.

Are you also from the South/flyover?

Okay just stop. I am an atheist, POC from the northeast, totally do this for my two boys (1yo and 3yo), they are adorable wit their Little friends.

Some things are sweet and harmless. You sound joyless and also intolerant.

Yes thus intolerant ugly slur against Christians has GOT to stop!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- damn you people are rude. Lucky I don’t actually live in DC and have to deal with you in person!

Sorry OP. When there is near-consensus on a thread… you know the problem is you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. Maybe your daughter will be gay. Maybe your daughter won't want to get married. Maybe her values in men will be different than hers.

Also if your child is less than a year then these friends' kids are probably four years old and younger - you have NO WAY of knowing which will turn out to have a heroin addiction, gambling addiction, anger management issues, become a cheater, be so spoiled by their parents that they contribute nothing, etc.

It's a lot weirder to look at a sweet 4yo and think "oh he might turn out to be a heroin addict" than to have little daydreams about a happy future for these little kids ahead.

This made me lol!

+1 Me too!

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Harmless

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- damn you people are rude. Lucky I don’t actually live in DC and have to deal with you in person!

Yeah we figured that you didn’t live here pretty quickly.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- damn you people are rude. Lucky I don’t actually live in DC and have to deal with you in person!

I agree! How weird some folks here are...anyhow OP, I used to do the same, in a fun/lighthearted way. I have one young dc still but 2 of my dc are adults and married. One met their spouse at college (in another state, and spouse is from yet another state) and one married their high school sweetheart! So you just never really know how it turns out

I will say-we are involved in church, and the 'church kids' tend to not date or marry each other-they tend to regard the kids they came up with more like siblings! They remain friends but marry others. At least, this is how it happens in our particular type of church, maybe some more traditional ones might be different.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- damn you people are rude. Lucky I don’t actually live in DC and have to deal with you in person!

Sorry OP. When there is near-consensus on a thread… you know the problem is you.

NP here-there isn't actually a 'problem' here...if this is what you feel is the problem on DCUM today, that may be an issue you may need to reflect on.