In laws and Christmas

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Anonymous wrote:How many gifts is reasonable for your child to receive for Christmas? How many gifts should come from Grandparents? My DH wants to keep coming up with gift ideas to send to his mom, while I think Christmas should be for fewer gifts and then more throughout the year, and should really be about being with family. It feels like they are buying stuff just to buy it, and it's more about how much money is spent and the quantity of the gifts. DH and I have been fighting about it a lot since I'm the one who picks the gifts off the floor in a few weeks and puts them in a bin to collect dust. I think it's also ridiculous DH cares more about giving his mother a lengthy list than listening to his wife's wishes over an important holiday. Thoughts?

I think this has nothing to do with in laws or with Christmas.

It's about you and your husband finding ways to compromise. Relationships 101.

This, OP sounds like it's her way or the highway. Why do kids need gifts throughout the year? That doesn't make sense either. This should be DH and Christmas and not making the in-laws the enemy here when the parents aren't on the same page with what the holidays are supposed to be about in their own house.

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12/02/2022 18:55

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Anonymous wrote:For a few years I felt that the gifts were overboard. So I started buying less myself for my kids and just sending suggestions of what I would buy to grandparents. They really want to get gifts so we don’t try and stop them. I end up not buying much in terms of gifts for Christmas and birthdays. I buy what my children need throughout the year and we feel very fortunate to be able to do so. I don’t care who gets “credit” for gifts and it’s kept down the quantity to a reasonable amount.

this is what we have done too.

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12/02/2022 22:49

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Is this some sort of boomer grandparents trend?

Did boomers grandparents buy such excessive gifts? My mom was born in the 30s, her mom (my grandma) in the 10s, and all we got at xmas from grandma was a delicious box of Swiss Colony cheese and sausage as an household gift.

Ask them if their own grandparents gave this many gifts?