Dad (70s) communicating with younger (30s) woman- what is her motive?

[Anonymous]

Easy solution - have him send a link to an interesting article with this technology: https://iplogger.org/

He'll she where "she" is although lots of these scammers use VPN software.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Apparently she has suggested they meet in the city that she “lives” in- in the northeast corridor. I told my dad no way in hell is he doing that. What the heck? What’s the scam here- is it to have him pay for something to get his info? Would it be some sort of a set up? I was very clear to him that i am pretty confident this person does not even live in the US and anything is a ploy or scam for money.

Why is he still communicating with this person?

[Anonymous]

I was 50 and dating a 68 yo I met online. It was sincere and worked out for about nine months until I decided the age difference is too great and I don’t want to be old and alone after taking care of him.

[Anonymous]

Most likely, "she" will tell him she needs money for some reason and convince him to wire transfer it and/or buy gift cards and give her the numbers online.

Or, she will send him a link that gives her access to his computer and then ask him to sign on to banking/investment sites so she can capture the password.

He needs to stop engaging with her immediately. And you need to find out why he's so lonely this would work on him.

- Signed daughter whose mother sent $50K to a woman in China to settle an "Amazon mistake" (I've posted about this many times)

[Anonymous]

It’s time to put his money in a trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Apparently she has suggested they meet in the city that she “lives” in- in the northeast corridor. I told my dad no way in hell is he doing that. What the heck? What’s the scam here- is it to have him pay for something to get his info? Would it be some sort of a set up? I was very clear to him that i am pretty confident this person does not even live in the US and anything is a ploy or scam for money.

Why is he still communicating with this person?

I have NO idea. In the off chance that (which is obviously 0%) that there is a reasonable explanation for every weird thing or inconsistency.

[Anonymous]

She will eventually tell him she needs money for something, possibly have an "emergency" when they are supposed to meet up and ask for him to send her money so she can get there.

He needs to stop communicating with her.

[Anonymous]

And get you on his accounts so you can stop any money transfers before too much is lost, if he is falling for this and refuses to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a scam, like all the "military officers" and "surgeons" who contact middle aged female me on social media.

Lol I’ve gotten two of these. Always military. Block. Creeps

Yep. Weird AF.

[Anonymous]

I was talking to an older man who had this happen with a fake younger woman. He thought she was interested in him, she sent some fake edited photos. After several weeks, she got “robbed” and asked for money. He didn’t send it, but I was shocked that he thought this was a real person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Apparently she has suggested they meet in the city that she “lives” in- in the northeast corridor. I told my dad no way in hell is he doing that. What the heck? What’s the scam here- is it to have him pay for something to get his info? Would it be some sort of a set up? I was very clear to him that i am pretty confident this person does not even live in the US and anything is a ploy or scam for money.

Why is he still communicating with this person?

Because OP hasn’t taken 30 seconds to block the number for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She will eventually tell him she needs money for something, possibly have an "emergency" when they are supposed to meet up and ask for him to send her money so she can get there.

He needs to stop communicating with her.

This is EXACTLY what I told him would happen. i’m going to his house tomorrow to have a discussion with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She will eventually tell him she needs money for something, possibly have an "emergency" when they are supposed to meet up and ask for him to send her money so she can get there.

He needs to stop communicating with her.

This is EXACTLY what I told him would happen. i’m going to his house tomorrow to have a discussion with him.

And by discussion you mean sitting there with him as he deletes all threads and blocks all contact info and the app where this started. It’s no guarantee that he won’t connect with her, but it’s a start.

[Anonymous]

Honestly OP if this has been going on for a while, he’s already sending money. They don’t work for free. He just won’t tell you about it. You’re in a really tough spot. I don’t know what the right thing to do is, but you can assume he’s already sent money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She will eventually tell him she needs money for something, possibly have an "emergency" when they are supposed to meet up and ask for him to send her money so she can get there.

He needs to stop communicating with her.

This is EXACTLY what I told him would happen. i’m going to his house tomorrow to have a discussion with him.

And by discussion you mean sitting there with him as he deletes all threads and blocks all contact info and the app where this started. It’s no guarantee that he won’t connect with her, but it’s a start.

Yep- I’m not sure where the contact started but she has been communicating with him through the Telegram app even though she has an iPhone- ding ding ding there is another red flag. It’s one of those things like why wouldn’t she use iMessage, FaceTime? Yes I will be asking him to delete the app too.