Dad (70s) communicating with younger (30s) woman- what is her motive?

[Anonymous]

I don’t have to read your post to answer.
$$$$$$$$$$

[Anonymous]

OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

Also, "she" (it's likely a dude) may be pumping him for information so he can get scammed other ways. My mom just lost thousands of dollars because she thought my brother was calling her with an emergency and needed money. She refuses to tell me the details but I think they said they were in jail and she fell for it because my brother has gotten a DUI before. She's a little deaf and the "connection was poor" so she totally fell for it. Figured it out later that day when my real brother happened to call about something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

Also, "she" (it's likely a dude) may be pumping him for information so he can get scammed other ways. My mom just lost thousands of dollars because she thought my brother was calling her with an emergency and needed money. She refuses to tell me the details but I think they said they were in jail and she fell for it because my brother has gotten a DUI before. She's a little deaf and the "connection was poor" so she totally fell for it. Figured it out later that day when my real brother happened to call about something else.

They really are clever with this. I’ve heard of this particular scam before and I feel so bad for the victims. In OPs fathers case it doesn’t sound like she will ask for money outright, more like they want to get access to information and/or his devices

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a woman in the US. It’s a man part of a scam network overseas. He is catfishing your dad. If your dad hasn’t yet sent this person money, he soon will.

"She" will send him nudes soon. Then he will send her his nudes. Then she will have him by the short hair. OR, she will send some malicious virus and take over his account and clear out his bank account. Make him watch "CatFish" as well as "Scammers" takedown on Youtube.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

Also, "she" (it's likely a dude) may be pumping him for information so he can get scammed other ways. My mom just lost thousands of dollars because she thought my brother was calling her with an emergency and needed money. She refuses to tell me the details but I think they said they were in jail and she fell for it because my brother has gotten a DUI before. She's a little deaf and the "connection was poor" so she totally fell for it. Figured it out later that day when my real brother happened to call about something else.

They really are clever with this. I’ve heard of this particular scam before and I feel so bad for the victims. In OPs fathers case it doesn’t sound like she will ask for money outright, more like they want to get access to information and/or his devices

Yeah, my mom was super embarrassed. She is a retired pediatrician and very bright. She also quickly identified a scam when someone called her and said "Grandma? It's me!" and she knew right away it wasn't any of her grandkids. I don't know if the scammer knew my brother's history or just got lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

Also, "she" (it's likely a dude) may be pumping him for information so he can get scammed other ways. My mom just lost thousands of dollars because she thought my brother was calling her with an emergency and needed money. She refuses to tell me the details but I think they said they were in jail and she fell for it because my brother has gotten a DUI before. She's a little deaf and the "connection was poor" so she totally fell for it. Figured it out later that day when my real brother happened to call about something else.

Did your mom file a police report?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

Also, "she" (it's likely a dude) may be pumping him for information so he can get scammed other ways. My mom just lost thousands of dollars because she thought my brother was calling her with an emergency and needed money. She refuses to tell me the details but I think they said they were in jail and she fell for it because my brother has gotten a DUI before. She's a little deaf and the "connection was poor" so she totally fell for it. Figured it out later that day when my real brother happened to call about something else.

They really are clever with this. I’ve heard of this particular scam before and I feel so bad for the victims. In OPs fathers case it doesn’t sound like she will ask for money outright, more like they want to get access to information and/or his devices

OP here. Yeah, this is what I’m afraid of. That she or whoever is slowly gaining tidbits of information that can be used to steal an identity or just build a relationship and then oh no, there is an emergency and she needs money. I also found the social media profiles of this person and of course they were recently created and the pictures are sketchy and taken from different places around the world.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend was in a similar situation, she found a program to see ip and sure enough the mysterious boyfriend was sending messages not from the West Coast but from Nigeria!!!

Op here. Yeah 100% the phone number is something she or whoever it is probably bought online. I figured out how to do it in about 5 minutes. I have every reason to believe it’s sketchy. I am tempted to message the person myself through a spoofed number to see what would happen.

first thing should be telling your dad to don't do anything

I told him to block the number immediately. He says he is going to “confront her”. I assume once too many questions get asked she will stop, but I will keep asking him to make sure she isn’t persisting.

tell him the person is most likely a guy

[Anonymous]

It never ceases to surprise me that mature men actually think that women half their age could possibly be remotely interested in them in a sexual or romantic way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It never ceases to surprise me that mature men actually think that women half their age could possibly be remotely interested in them in a sexual or romantic way.

don't say that until you are in their shoes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just asking for money. "She" may be sending links to infect his computer with a virus so she can access his online banking herself. He needs to stop responding and you need to help him check his computer and change all his passwords.

Also, "she" (it's likely a dude) may be pumping him for information so he can get scammed other ways. My mom just lost thousands of dollars because she thought my brother was calling her with an emergency and needed money. She refuses to tell me the details but I think they said they were in jail and she fell for it because my brother has gotten a DUI before. She's a little deaf and the "connection was poor" so she totally fell for it. Figured it out later that day when my real brother happened to call about something else.

Did your mom file a police report?

Yes. And an FBI report. She was extra mad because the guy called back after she had talked to my brother. She cursed him out and then later regretted that she didn't play along and try to set up a sting or something. I reassured her that it was unlikely that she could have done anything to help catch him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend was in a similar situation, she found a program to see ip and sure enough the mysterious boyfriend was sending messages not from the West Coast but from Nigeria!!!

Op here. Yeah 100% the phone number is something she or whoever it is probably bought online. I figured out how to do it in about 5 minutes. I have every reason to believe it’s sketchy. I am tempted to message the person myself through a spoofed number to see what would happen.

first thing should be telling your dad to don't do anything

I told him to block the number immediately. He says he is going to “confront her”. I assume once too many questions get asked she will stop, but I will keep asking him to make sure she isn’t persisting.

tell him the person is most likely a guy

My dad said they have video chatted a couple times- which means there is a woman, and she speaks English, but it really seems like not much else is true. He is not convinced that she doesn’t have innocent motives. I’m asking him to stop contact, and if he doesn’t I guess there isn’t much I can do. But I will check in with him to see if she has ever asked for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a scam, like all the "military officers" and "surgeons" who contact middle aged female me on social media.

Lol I’ve gotten two of these. Always military. Block. Creeps

[Anonymous]

OP here. Apparently she has suggested they meet in the city that she “lives” in- in the northeast corridor. I told my dad no way in hell is he doing that. What the heck? What’s the scam here- is it to have him pay for something to get his info? Would it be some sort of a set up? I was very clear to him that i am pretty confident this person does not even live in the US and anything is a ploy or scam for money.