Does anyone else have a snobby family member?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of them? They're all "new money" and are constantly judging and trying to show how they're better than everyone else. It's just this huge pissing contest of grown women. They only seem to talk to brag or one-up others around them.

Same. Both my brothers in law have a literal kissing contest every holiday it is so so irritating.

“a literal kissing contest”? That’s not snobby, that’s very strange.

I think the person meant "pissing" contest

That's also very strange

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

If she doesn’t talk to you, how is she letting you know of her superior knowledge?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the snobby one in my family. I’m somewhat appalled by the stupidity and small-town closedmindedness and provincialism of my family. I try to hide it, but I do t think I succeed.

I’m also the snobby one. My family is better than my husband’s brother’s family in almost every way. We have it figured out and they are suffering. They’re like “oh we’re keeping it real and you guys are out of touch” but I know they’re jealous. They can only put up with us for about 5 days- actually they can’t keep up with our lifestyle and after a few days they get hostile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the snobby one in my family. I’m somewhat appalled by the stupidity and small-town closedmindedness and provincialism of my family. I try to hide it, but I do t think I succeed.

+1 Some family members clearly lack critical thinking skills.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

Well, good for her though for class jumping. How did she do it?

You don’t read. She married someone with money. How is that impressive?

She’s got beauty, brains, talent, a charming personality, or all of the above to marry up. That’s impressive. -NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

I don't respect women who are nasty people and have a resume like a blank sheet of paper.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

My mother is obsessed with the few family members who live in mansions. She once declined a holiday invite with us because she said "No I will be spending time with the classy side of the family." One of our kids has special needs and the other has medical issues so we spend money on that, not a home to impress. We also don't do private schools, etc, like the mansion folks. We invited her to be polite, but the comment was funny, so her and rude. The sad thing is she calls those relatives and practically invites herself.

Also, does your mom drop friends she thought was fancy when things no longer look good on paper....like word gets out the rich husband may have been fired by the board or they get a divorce?

Favorite topics for my mother are: how people decorate their mansions, luxury trips to Europe, who got fat, who may have had work done and who lost weight. So much depth! With age she becomes more and more of a characature of herself. Like she doesn't even try to pretend to be a decent person with decent values anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the snobby one in my family. I’m somewhat appalled by the stupidity and small-town closedmindedness and provincialism of my family. I try to hide it, but I do t think I succeed.

I’m also the snobby one. My family is better than my husband’s brother’s family in almost every way. We have it figured out and they are suffering. They’re like “oh we’re keeping it real and you guys are out of touch” but I know they’re jealous. They can only put up with us for about 5 days- actually they can’t keep up with our lifestyle and after a few days they get hostile.

Same here. We are clearly more successful in every way (money, house, job title, sports, kids’ accomplishments). However, my MIL talks nonstop about how proud she is of the siblings’ success and never want to hear how we’re doing.

[Anonymous]

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

This comment makes you sound as deluded and snobby as you claim others to be. The way you characterize your SIL is vicious. Does she know how much you loathe them?

[Anonymous]

Yes. My sister is a horrible name dropper, references brands, stores, jewelry, bags, and cosmetic treatments. Ugh. I hate it. I don’t know what to say! She’s charming so people listen and laugh and nod in agreement. Honestly I just go along with it; it’s easier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

My mother is obsessed with the few family members who live in mansions. She once declined a holiday invite with us because she said "No I will be spending time with the classy side of the family." One of our kids has special needs and the other has medical issues so we spend money on that, not a home to impress. We also don't do private schools, etc, like the mansion folks. We invited her to be polite, but the comment was funny, so her and rude. The sad thing is she calls those relatives and practically invites herself.

Also, does your mom drop friends she thought was fancy when things no longer look good on paper....like word gets out the rich husband may have been fired by the board or they get a divorce?

Favorite topics for my mother are: how people decorate their mansions, luxury trips to Europe, who got fat, who may have had work done and who lost weight. So much depth! With age she becomes more and more of a characature of herself. Like she doesn't even try to pretend to be a decent person with decent values anymore.

*caricature

[Anonymous]

Let her sit by herself. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

I empathize with you, OP! My SIL (married to DH’s v successful brother) is the exact same way and we’re also UMC. She’s just awful and rude. And incredibly boring to spend time with.
I used to get so stressed out when seeing her, but then my in-laws confessed that she’s also awful to them, and we’re all able to commiserate a bit. DH’s brother is a nice guy. I now feel kinda sorry for her because it’s definitely a personality defect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

Your choices are so much better than hers, OP! Thank goodness you are not snobby and judgmental like she is! /s.

Hey its SIL!

[Anonymous]

My elderly, widowed mom. She grew up in low key UMC but her parents quietly re-invested a second generation inheritance. By the time my grandparents died, they had over a million (circa 1999).

My mom inherited and reinvested and is basically loaded. However, her latest pronouncement is that she will no longer give any money to her church because there’s too much focus upon helping “poor people” who, she contends are scamming and or unable to properly manage their money as “she has always done.” She’s so narcissistic that even the most basic Judeo-Christian values no longer apply to her.

Horrible and hurtful to hear, especially since once sibling is in social services and a board member of a local food outreach program. I have been volunteering for charities since I was a teenager to include food pantries.

She is also outrageously cheap. Complains about the rate her service technicians charge, even how expensive her decorator was. On and on and on.