Does anyone else have a snobby family member?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

Well, good for her though for class jumping. How did she do it?

You don’t read. She married someone with money. How is that impressive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes but no one is actually rich. They just have uppity attitudes.

I loathe being the only one at the table who rents, doesn't have a cleaning person, doesn't drive a luxury car, and hearing about all of their comments on those things. And we make about $400K!

Renting on a $400k income is absolutely your choice. As is not having a cleaning person.

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We’re aristocrats. It comes with the castle and title.

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Anonymous wrote:All of them? They're all "new money" and are constantly judging and trying to show how they're better than everyone else. It's just this huge pissing contest of grown women. They only seem to talk to brag or one-up others around them.

Same. Both my brothers in law have a literal kissing contest every holiday it is so so irritating.

“a literal kissing contest”? That’s not snobby, that’s very strange.

I think the person meant "pissing" contest

[Anonymous]

Snobbery isn't always about money.
My mini cat is a snob. She only likes my husband and dismisses me daily like I'm some food only people. She won't even let me touch her.

My brother and his wife think they are Mr. and Mrs. Pope. I don't miss them at all.
I am so loving living away from drama.

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My MIL, BIL and his wife. They are insufferable.

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I think I am the snobby one in my husband's family. My sister in law once left us outside in the heat with two small children without offering us a drink or having anything to eat--we were supposed to have dinner. We left and they think we are gauche. I think she has zero manners.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I am the snobby one in my husband's family. My sister in law once left us outside in the heat with two small children without offering us a drink or having anything to eat--we were supposed to have dinner. We left and they think we are gauche. I think she has zero manners.

What does “left you out in the heat” mean?

[Anonymous]

My middle-aged sil is. Waspy and white as the wind driven snow. She always thinks shes classier and better than everyone else even though she isntand her snobby attitude is off putting and gauche. She's racist too and a littleflashy with designer stuff. Financially she is not in good shape but she looks richer than us. Even though our networth is considerable, we arent flashy and drive older cars, live under means and save lots for future and soon to be early retirement.Fortunately she lives far away and we only see her once in a while. Some examples...

We were on the metro going into dc to visit the Nat. Gallery. As we got closer to the city, more black people started boarding the train. She started giving them the side eye and commenting loudly about the marginal people and subpar people around. I was horrified. No one said anything but I saw a black lady look at her with slight annoyance and mild confusion.

She boasts to people in mixed company about her young adult daughter dating a young man who makes "big money". It's in such poor taste. Since she doesn't get a reaction always, she repeats her tacky statements in case we didn't hear.

She openly looks down on people how don't wear designer this that.

She mocks people and gives the side eye if they have tattoos. After all only low class people have tattoos. Even a couple of her smart, educated niece and nephew who have some ink.

She's only friends with white people and frequently calls herself a good Christian woman.

She's a challenging person to be around and is also a hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

Eye of the camel etc. etc.

[Anonymous]

Lol Eye of the needle quote (camel too).

[Anonymous]

I am snobby but not about money exactly. I went to small town America and am very judgmental and snobby about how the people there spend time. In this case, they were smoking dope/drinking and driving. They have doughy faces and wear thick sweatshirts with pictures of American flags on them. They drink terrible beer—Michelob.

OTOH, my boomer mom holds her wine from the cite de rhone or wherever and asks if we have considered electric cars yet as though I just go buy a car whenever. A car is not in our budget. She also raves about the cleaning lady and I have never had one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

Well, good for her though for class jumping. How did she do it?

Married her college sweetheart who is now an i banker. They’re both new money.

And you’re jealousy gets older by the day. Stop it, honestly! Why are you giving her so much of your energy? You are sitting around spending Thanksgiving grousing about her rather than enjoying yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

And I think it’s hysterical that she gives you not one thought but you spend so much time thinking about her—and time is more valuable than money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of them? They're all "new money" and are constantly judging and trying to show how they're better than everyone else. It's just this huge pissing contest of grown women. They only seem to talk to brag or one-up others around them.

Same. Both my brothers in law have a literal kissing contest every holiday it is so so irritating.

“a literal kissing contest”? That’s not snobby, that’s very strange.

^^pissing contest