Does anyone else have a snobby family member?

[Anonymous]

My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

[Anonymous]

All of them? They're all "new money" and are constantly judging and trying to show how they're better than everyone else. It's just this huge pissing contest of grown women. They only seem to talk to brag or one-up others around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of them? They're all "new money" and are constantly judging and trying to show how they're better than everyone else. It's just this huge pissing contest of grown women. They only seem to talk to brag or one-up others around them.

Same. Both my brothers in law have a literal kissing contest every holiday it is so so irritating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

Well, good for her though for class jumping. How did she do it?

[Anonymous]

My whole family is snobby and judgy. They pretend to be down to earth but take away their multimillion dollar houses and their kids private schools and they would not be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is insufferable. She grew up LMC to MC and was a striver. She married rich and suddenly looks down on her family and my husband. My DH and I are solidly UMC but do not have the kind of money her husband does. Suddenly thinks she knows more than us and has a condescending attitude. She doesn’t talk to us and sits by herself.

I find it odd.

Well, good for her though for class jumping. How did she do it?

Married her college sweetheart who is now an i banker. They’re both new money.

[Anonymous]

OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

[Anonymous]

Sure. I have an aunt whose husband invested in a condo in a ski-in-ski-out condo before the ski mountain was even open. It’s one of the best regarded resorts in NA and the condo is worth $$$$ now. They have it very nicely decorated. She refers to it as their “country home” and their apartment in the city, which they rent, as their “pied a terre”. Most of their friends assume they are much wealthier than reality, and she goes along with the assumption. They need to work for a living but some of their friends assume they work in hobby jobs.

[Anonymous]

No, but I have DCUM 🥰

Love you snobby broads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of them? They're all "new money" and are constantly judging and trying to show how they're better than everyone else. It's just this huge pissing contest of grown women. They only seem to talk to brag or one-up others around them.

Same. Both my brothers in law have a literal kissing contest every holiday it is so so irritating.

“a literal kissing contest”? That’s not snobby, that’s very strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure. I have an aunt whose husband invested in a condo in a ski-in-ski-out condo before the ski mountain was even open. It’s one of the best regarded resorts in NA and the condo is worth $$$$ now. They have it very nicely decorated. She refers to it as their “country home” and their apartment in the city, which they rent, as their “pied a terre”. Most of their friends assume they are much wealthier than reality, and she goes along with the assumption. They need to work for a living but some of their friends assume they work in hobby jobs.

Pied a terre in Denver? Pied a terre in Salt Lake City? Sacramento? Burlington? I’m dying to know! I wish I could meet her in real life to hear this out loud.

[Anonymous]

I’m the snobby one in my family. I’m somewhat appalled by the stupidity and small-town closedmindedness and provincialism of my family. I try to hide it, but I do t think I succeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG yes. My mother is the worst. She grew up middle to lower middle class and married up with my dad's career. She is so judgmental and snobby! She is obsessed with keeping up appearances and is just classless with the snooty things she says to people she deems "less than" her. My husband and I do fine, live below our means and save and invest and just because our jobs don't scream "I'm rich" she looks down on us and her own grandchildren. She is OBSESSED with money and status and does not value things like good character, basic decency, kindness and even ethics! She briefly had a friend who was old money, but that woman was too classy, down to earth and normal to tolerate my mother's nonsense for too long.

OP here. My SIL is exactly the same. She values the gilded and the shiny. She is impressed by jon titles and fancy clothes. My DH and I make good money but are less flashy. We spend on travel, good quality things, and enrichment activities such as education and museums.

She is the most rude and tacky person I know but it’s hysterical that she is deluded enough to think she is better than others.

Your choices are so much better than hers, OP! Thank goodness you are not snobby and judgmental like she is! /s.

[Anonymous]

Yes but no one is actually rich. They just have uppity attitudes.

I loathe being the only one at the table who rents, doesn't have a cleaning person, doesn't drive a luxury car, and hearing about all of their comments on those things. And we make about $400K!