What are the chances if you are 35 and single you’ll end up married?

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At 35, I was tired of being single so I joined OKCupid. I met my husband after 2 or 3 weeks. We’ve been together almost 6 years and are about to have our 3rd kid. My friend is about the same age as I am and is about to marry her second husband.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP that it may be a good idea to to treat dating like a hobby and go on a couple dates per week. That requires a large amount of time and energy, but dating is a numbers game. Also, don't overlook guys where the chemistry may have to build over the first, second, or even third date. As long as it eventually gets there, it counts.

I agree with this but at the same time this is the hard part. Sometimes I need time to build real chemistry and figure out compatibility, but lots of times men won’t wait that long. They need to feel a spark and have great sex at least within the first few weeks or else they assume you’re not interested and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:In 2011, 31.9% of women age 30-34 were never married. Five years later, when those women were age 35-39, 21.2% of women age 35-44 were never married. This is from table 1 in
https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2021/demo/p70-167.html

So it seems that most people who are single at 35 don't get married by 44, but there are a lot of factors that affect which people do get married and which don't.

Thanks for posting real data. So 2/3 of women at age 35 don't end up getting married basically. The OP's chances are 1 in 3.

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I didn’t get married until 36.

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Your chances increase the more time you spend on this message board. Time well spent.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to share stories? Never married, single 35. Haven’t had a serious boyfriend in years. What are the chances of marriage or kids?

Not very good? Not that there's anything wrong with that.

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An acquaintance was never married in her mid 30s and met a man in the same situation. They were married a year later and she got pregnant on their honeymoon. 25 years later they seem happy. It can happen fast

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I met my husband at 35 (two months before turning 36), married at 37.

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I met my husband at 34, living together a few weeks later, engaged then married at 37. Went through IF but had a healthy baby at 41. I’m white and my husband is Asian. I did not settle. He’s my perfect match in every way. I do wish we had met 10 years earlier but we were literally on different continents. He was in the military and deployed after 9 11.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In 2011, 31.9% of women age 30-34 were never married. Five years later, when those women were age 35-39, 21.2% of women age 35-44 were never married. This is from table 1 in
https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2021/demo/p70-167.html

So it seems that most people who are single at 35 don't get married by 44, but there are a lot of factors that affect which people do get married and which don't.

Thanks for posting real data. So 2/3 of women at age 35 don't end up getting married basically. The OP's chances are 1 in 3.

That assumes all women want marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:In 2011, 31.9% of women age 30-34 were never married. Five years later, when those women were age 35-39, 21.2% of women age 35-44 were never married. This is from table 1 in
https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2021/demo/p70-167.html

most [women] who are single at 35 don't get married by 44.

Note that 7.4% of women never got married (by 55+), and probably didn't want to. So, only 24.5% of women age 30-34 were never married, but probably eventually married. By 2016, 10.7% more were married. So, almost half (44% = 10.7/24.5) of the never-married women who eventually married were married within 5 years. For white women, the number is 49%, very close to one half.

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Anonymous wrote:Go for the rich young divorcees who want another family.

They don't want another family. They want sex with younger women and are often willing to deal with more kids to get it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have had a couple friends in this situation who really wanted to be married and have kids.

You date like it's a part-time job. At least 1-2 first dates per week. You are systematic. You are clear what you are looking for and you are smart about having serious conversations regularly early on to weed out men who aren't interested in marriage or family.

In the era of online dating it is entirely possible to meet someone and get married in late 30s and have kids.

This! Did this at 37, married by 38. It’s a numbers game - you have to date a LOT. Literally like it’s a second job. And, you will go on a lot of crappy dates to get to a good one.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In 2011, 31.9% of women age 30-34 were never married. Five years later, when those women were age 35-39, 21.2% of women age 35-44 were never married. This is from table 1 in
https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2021/demo/p70-167.html

So it seems that most people who are single at 35 don't get married by 44, but there are a lot of factors that affect which people do get married and which don't.

Thanks for posting real data. So 2/3 of women at age 35 don't end up getting married basically. The OP's chances are 1 in 3.

Those stats don’t factor choice into the equation. Surely a certain percentage of the women who did not get married did not want to get married. Meaning women who choose to remain single, not because they couldn’t find someone. So someone like the OP, who is motivated to get married, would have higher chances than one in three