What are the chances if you are 35 and single you’ll end up married?

[Anonymous]

If you are in an urban area, I'd say pretty high. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I met my second husband at 35.
I’ve known people to marry (and remarry) at many older ages than that!

[Anonymous]

I agree with all what was said about not sitting around.

There are lots of men, including single, at sports bars during games. Why not try to meet people there.

[Anonymous]

Odds are higher if you broaden your horizons.
Not lower your standards, but broaden your horizons. You don’t have to date loser incels who don’t shower. But consider divorcees, people of different races/ethnicities/religious backgrounds/national origins/whatever, people who are blue collar, men under 5’10, men who don’t share all your hobbies and interests. A good partner doesn’t have to check all the boxes, he needs to be kind and loyal and make you happy.

From my experience, the dating apps are loaded with introverted Asian men who work in tech.

[Anonymous]

Read the Lori Gotleib book!

You can find someone and get married, but don't act like a 25yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Odds are higher if you broaden your horizons.
Not lower your standards, but broaden your horizons. You don’t have to date loser incels who don’t shower. But consider divorcees, people of different races/ethnicities/religious backgrounds/national origins/whatever, people who are blue collar, men under 5’10, men who don’t share all your hobbies and interests. A good partner doesn’t have to check all the boxes, he needs to be kind and loyal and make you happy.

From my experience, the dating apps are loaded with introverted Asian men who work in tech.

I (white woman) married an introverted Asian tech guy after meeting him organically in person at work. I won’t say things are perfect but he is beyond a doubt the best possible dad I could have picked out for my kids. He never stops thinking about what the kids need and how he can give them a better life. So many of my friends would only consider tall white guys and are stuck with giant man babies who check all the boxes on paper but are worthless at the daily grind of raising a family. Something to consider!

[Anonymous]

Didn’t date from 33-38 due to stress and illness. Started OLD at 38 and met DH(39). We got married at 40/41. We did go through infertility treatments. (Which I think would’ve happened in my mid 30’s because my period was bonkers)
Ended up using DE, but DS is amazing and absolutely perfect for us.

And, I’m the only friend who married after 34 to be in a happy marriage. I will take going through infertility treatments over having an unhappy marriage or divorce.

[Anonymous]

I was single and married at 37 (with a child from a previous relationship). It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was single and married at 37 (with a child from a previous relationship). It happens.

Oh, also went on to have a baby with DH. I got pregnant vert quickly, conceived on honeymoon. We have a beautiful baby girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Odds are higher if you broaden your horizons.
Not lower your standards, but broaden your horizons. You don’t have to date loser incels who don’t shower. But consider divorcees, people of different races/ethnicities/religious backgrounds/national origins/whatever, people who are blue collar, men under 5’10, men who don’t share all your hobbies and interests. A good partner doesn’t have to check all the boxes, he needs to be kind and loyal and make you happy.

From my experience, the dating apps are loaded with introverted Asian men who work in tech.

LOL.... I guess I am guilty because I am one of those "Asian tech" guys.  I was a founder of a startup and it was acquired by another company.  I pocketed around 25M after the acquisition.  I played tennis for an Ivy league school and am a very good musician.  I didn't get married until I turned 37 years old to a wonderful & beautiful 28 blonde hair blue eye woman.  I am introverted by nature because I don't want to brag about my accomplishments but I can give most of you a very good beating on the tennis court or in a jamming session with my guitar.  My number goal in life is to make my wife and kids, we have two, happy and to provide for them, bar none. 

It was funny that when I started dating my wife, she met me at the park where I played in the final of a high level USTA tennis tournament and I beat my opponent so badly that the match lasted less than an hour.  She told me on our first date that she didn't picture as an athlete.  It turned out that my wife enjoys running marathons, both of us signed up for the Marine Corp Marathon before we knew each other.  We ran that marathon and finished it in less than four hours.  I could have finished the marathon in less than 3 1/2 hours but I wanted to finish along with her.  She was extremely happy that I did.  After the marathon, we went to dinner and to a bar for a drink after that.  That place had a stage where people could go up there and show their musical talent.  I went up and play "tears in heaven" on the guitar.  After that date, she was completely sold on me, LOL....

Do not dismiss Asian men who work in tech.  Many of them have a lot of talents besides tech. Last but not least, many of them have money too.  Most of them know how to treat women, unlike most typical white guys.  YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Single at 35 and beginning process of finding sperm donor. Met now DH thru a friend, married at 36, 3 kids (fortunate not to have fertility issues), and 19 yrs later still happily married. Live your life assuming you won’t find anyone - do not let lack of partner hold you back from buying house, taking fab vacations, having children if those are things you want to do. Then if you do find someone it’s icing on the cake - not the cake itself. (Poor analogy -no coffee yet)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In 2011, 31.9% of women age 30-34 were never married. Five years later, when those women were age 35-39, 21.2% of women age 35-44 were never married. This is from table 1 in
https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2021/demo/p70-167.html

So it seems that most people who are single at 35 don't get married by 44, but there are a lot of factors that affect which people do get married and which don't.

It means also that roughly 1/3 of these women got married by age 44 which is pretty good indicator. Maybe half of them didn't really look to marry and only those who actively dated found a match. We don't know that.

I think it’s a good indicator too, especially since there are absolutely women more comfortable cohabitating or being single than being married in that 2/3 group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Odds are higher if you broaden your horizons.
Not lower your standards, but broaden your horizons. You don’t have to date loser incels who don’t shower. But consider divorcees, people of different races/ethnicities/religious backgrounds/national origins/whatever, people who are blue collar, men under 5’10, men who don’t share all your hobbies and interests. A good partner doesn’t have to check all the boxes, he needs to be kind and loyal and make you happy.

From my experience, the dating apps are loaded with introverted Asian men who work in tech.

LOL.... I guess I am guilty because I am one of those "Asian tech" guys.  I was a founder of a startup and it was acquired by another company.  I pocketed around 25M after the acquisition.  I played tennis for an Ivy league school and am a very good musician.  I didn't get married until I turned 37 years old to a wonderful & beautiful 28 blonde hair blue eye woman.  I am introverted by nature because I don't want to brag about my accomplishments but I can give most of you a very good beating on the tennis court or in a jamming session with my guitar.  My number goal in life is to make my wife and kids, we have two, happy and to provide for them, bar none. 

It was funny that when I started dating my wife, she met me at the park where I played in the final of a high level USTA tennis tournament and I beat my opponent so badly that the match lasted less than an hour.  She told me on our first date that she didn't picture as an athlete.  It turned out that my wife enjoys running marathons, both of us signed up for the Marine Corp Marathon before we knew each other.  We ran that marathon and finished it in less than four hours.  I could have finished the marathon in less than 3 1/2 hours but I wanted to finish along with her.  She was extremely happy that I did.  After the marathon, we went to dinner and to a bar for a drink after that.  That place had a stage where people could go up there and show their musical talent.  I went up and play "tears in heaven" on the guitar.  After that date, she was completely sold on me, LOL....

Do not dismiss Asian men who work in tech.  Many of them have a lot of talents besides tech. Last but not least, many of them have money too.  Most of them know how to treat women, unlike most typical white guys.  YMMV.

PP. You sound like quite the catch. My point about “introverted Asian tech” men was intended to be positive. Not saying “ugh all I can find are Asian tech nerds!” but that it seems that they are overlooked, given the high ratio of 30s Asian men working for AWS and Microsoft and the like I have found on the dating apps. I’m currently in a relationship with a South Asian tech guy who is rather introverted. The point being that single white women overlook potential great matches by sticking with tall, white, bro-y men.

[Anonymous]

This being DCUM the answers are:

Of course you’ll get married if you want to. You’re a beautiful, talented, successful woman and he’ll be 6’ tall, making high six figures, and allow you to stay home or work as you decide. And you’ll have as many kids as you want

Why would you get married? All these man babies are out there. Haven’t you seen the statistics about how much happier single women are? Enjoy your life is the fun aunt that travels the world and enjoys their nieces and nephews.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP that it may be a good idea to to treat dating like a hobby and go on a couple dates per week. That requires a large amount of time and energy, but dating is a numbers game. Also, don't overlook guys where the chemistry may have to build over the first, second, or even third date. As long as it eventually gets there, it counts.