If you are giving away furniture, who pays for moving bill?

[Anonymous]

Has your husband talked to his brother, the receiver of furniture? I'd confirm the movers weren't paid, don't just take their word for it.

[Anonymous]

this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

[Anonymous]

It feels like there is still missing information. Are the movers an actual moving company that operates full time as a business or just a friend with a truck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels like there is still missing information. Are the movers an actual moving company that operates full time as a business or just a friend with a truck?

Its implied that the mover is a friend with a truck. Seems like everyone in this story is super cheap and no one wants to admit it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

This is true. But I still feel like things weren’t clarified somehow before the furniture was moved. Or that we’re missing some information.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

This is true. But I still feel like things weren’t clarified somehow before the furniture was moved. Or that we’re missing some information.

The only missing information is that I said it was a friend and not BIL.

I didn’t want to make the post about family dynamics, which it of course is. Any friend would think he would pay for the moving costs. Because it is BIL, he assumed DH would take care of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

This is true. But I still feel like things weren’t clarified somehow before the furniture was moved. Or that we’re missing some information.

The only missing information is that I said it was a friend and not BIL.

I didn’t want to make the post about family dynamics, which it of course is. Any friend would think he would pay for the moving costs. Because it is BIL, he assumed DH would take care of it.

If your husband had clarified this before the furniture was moved, there would be no “assumptions”.

[Anonymous]

Don't do anything about it. Frankly the movers shouldn't have contacted you- let them handle it with your friend. If he gets sued for nonpayment it's on him

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

This is true. But I still feel like things weren’t clarified somehow before the furniture was moved. Or that we’re missing some information.

The only missing information is that I said it was a friend and not BIL.

I didn’t want to make the post about family dynamics, which it of course is. Any friend would think he would pay for the moving costs. Because it is BIL, he assumed DH would take care of it.

If your husband had clarified this before the furniture was moved, there would be no “assumptions”.

Dh told BIL to hire movers.

BIL is just used to DH paying for everything. BIL never pays for anything. That is more outings and meals though. I know DH once bought BIL a couch as a graduation or birthday present. Maybe BIL thought it was the same thing but it really isn’t the same thing at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

This is true. But I still feel like things weren’t clarified somehow before the furniture was moved. Or that we’re missing some information.

The only missing information is that I said it was a friend and not BIL.

I didn’t want to make the post about family dynamics, which it of course is. Any friend would think he would pay for the moving costs. Because it is BIL, he assumed DH would take care of it.

If your husband had clarified this before the furniture was moved, there would be no “assumptions”.

Dh told BIL to hire movers.

BIL is just used to DH paying for everything. BIL never pays for anything. That is more outings and meals though. I know DH once bought BIL a couch as a graduation or birthday present. Maybe BIL thought it was the same thing but it really isn’t the same thing at all.

If your husband has been enabling his brother for years, it’s exactly the same thing. Sounds like your husband needs to change that dynamic ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Knowing that your BIL doesn’t pay for stuff, maybe DH shouldn’t have given BIL information on what mover to use. If he had let BIL figure it out - BIL would’ve had to pay the movers. Your husband needs to insist BIL pay at this point. But I’m guessing he won’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is ridiculous. what person getting free furniture thinks the giver is going to pay to move it to their location. NOBODY, that's who! the mover needs to try to collect from the person who hired them. if that was you , pay them, if it was the BIL, then tell him he needs to pay them. even if you can afford it better then he can, i wouldn't let him get away with this BS.

This is true. But I still feel like things weren’t clarified somehow before the furniture was moved. Or that we’re missing some information.

The only missing information is that I said it was a friend and not BIL.

I didn’t want to make the post about family dynamics, which it of course is. Any friend would think he would pay for the moving costs. Because it is BIL, he assumed DH would take care of it.

If your husband had clarified this before the furniture was moved, there would be no “assumptions”.

Dh told BIL to hire movers.

BIL is just used to DH paying for everything. BIL never pays for anything. That is more outings and meals though. I know DH once bought BIL a couch as a graduation or birthday present. Maybe BIL thought it was the same thing but it really isn’t the same thing at all.

Sounds like a bigger issue. Next time have goodwill pick it up

[Anonymous]

Friend pays. You told them to hire a mover. They hired a mover. Mover should’ve gotten payment info from the friend before doing the job. Why is the mover talking to you about this? You need to tell the friend, “Hey! I hope you’re enjoying the furniture. The mover contacted me and said you haven’t paid them yet. Can you square that with them? Here’s the contact info in case you lost it.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should’ve discussed this before the furniture was moved. For example — we will happily give you the furniture for free if you pay to move it. Were there no discussions?

I was not part of the discussion. My husband asked his brother if he wanted the furniture. He said yes. BIL wanted to get a Uhaul and wanted DH and other mutual friends to help him move at 7am on a Saturday. Dh said no. Other mutual friends also said no. DH told BIL to get movers and gave him our mover’s contact info. Furniture got delivered and BIL said we would be paying the bill. I was actually not part of any of the discussions.

How did BIL set it up without giving credit card info.

This piece of the story makes no sense, unless the “mover” isn’t really a mover but just a guy with a truck who helps people out for cash under the table.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should’ve discussed this before the furniture was moved. For example — we will happily give you the furniture for free if you pay to move it. Were there no discussions?

I was not part of the discussion. My husband asked his brother if he wanted the furniture. He said yes. BIL wanted to get a Uhaul and wanted DH and other mutual friends to help him move at 7am on a Saturday. Dh said no. Other mutual friends also said no. DH told BIL to get movers and gave him our mover’s contact info. Furniture got delivered and BIL said we would be paying the bill. I was actually not part of any of the discussions.

How did BIL set it up without giving credit card info.

This piece of the story makes no sense, unless the “mover” isn’t really a mover but just a guy with a truck who helps people out for cash under the table.

Yeah, would a real mover let you keep the furniture without payment? Not in my experience. Clearly the receiver should pay in most circumstances, but it sounds like DH and BIL have a dynamic where DH pays. Is BIL younger and poorer? So if DH always pays for everything, I can see how BIL assumed if the arrangement wasn't made explicit "I have a friend who can move the furniture, if you are willing to pay him."