If you had the money, would you raise your kids in NYC?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would say yes except whe I was in college and early twenties and law school….I literally never liked any of my peers who grew up in NYC. None of them. They just weren’t nice. They were kinda haughty and full of themselves in a too cool for school way and weren’t friendly. I would not want my kids to be like that.

Oh my goodness, same. There was a girl from NYC who lived in my hall freshman year. I remember she went to Chapin. She literally would not even speak to her non rich friends. Would pretend she didn't see you when you said hi to her in the all. Didn't participate in any dorm events. It was bizarre.

She sounds horrible, but that's Chapin. Most new yorkers dont go to private school, let alone such an elite one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are and we love it. One kid, private school, big brownstone, and the city at our feet. Crazy expensive but worth it if you can swing it.

This is my life in DC. Big row home with plenty of outdoor space, one kid, private school, quiet neighborhood. You couldn’t pay me to live in New York.

Curious, but why? If you're acknowledging similar vibes, what is it that you object to specifically about NY but not DC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all you no's, just curious: Why? The crime? The hustle? Having to walk everywhere and not just be able to jump in your car? The expense? All or none of the above?

Too crowded. And I need my garden.

[Anonymous]

The answer would have been yes for so long but I think it might be shifting. After I turned 40 I just started to crave nature more and more, I'm not sure if weekends and vacations and walks in the park would cut it for me. Even DC, where nature is pretty accessible, sometimes feels too urban for me these days.

The museums and restaurants and theater and dance might still be enough to sway me though. With a place upstate.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather raise them there without money, but money and kids anywhere is a fairly toxic combo.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I went to college with from NYC was a coke head who lost their virginity at 13. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are and we love it. One kid, private school, big brownstone, and the city at our feet. Crazy expensive but worth it if you can swing it.

This is my life in DC. Big row home with plenty of outdoor space, one kid, private school, quiet neighborhood. You couldn’t pay me to live in New York.

Curious, but why? If you're acknowledging similar vibes, what is it that you object to specifically about NY but not DC?

The buildings are so tall. It makes me claustrophobic. I have hated New York City since I was a little kid because of this.

[Anonymous]

NYC is gigantic. Everyone here is talking about Manhattan. There is a lot more to NYC than Chapin and skyscrapers!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say yes except whe I was in college and early twenties and law school….I literally never liked any of my peers who grew up in NYC. None of them. They just weren’t nice. They were kinda haughty and full of themselves in a too cool for school way and weren’t friendly. I would not want my kids to be like that.

Oh my goodness, same. There was a girl from NYC who lived in my hall freshman year. I remember she went to Chapin. She literally would not even speak to her non rich friends. Would pretend she didn't see you when you said hi to her in the all. Didn't participate in any dorm events. It was bizarre.

She sounds horrible, but that's Chapin. Most new yorkers dont go to private school, let alone such an elite one.

First poster here. Maybe, but the NYCers I know have run the gamut. Chapin types, public schools like Sty and Bronx School of Science and Hunter College, kids from Washington Heights who went to public schools there, Prep for Prep. They just….aren’t nice.

Ok actually I can think of one Prep for Prep kid who went to a rural boarding school who was nice. But I think she spent a lot of her childhood in Puerto Rico.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say yes except whe I was in college and early twenties and law school….I literally never liked any of my peers who grew up in NYC. None of them. They just weren’t nice. They were kinda haughty and full of themselves in a too cool for school way and weren’t friendly. I would not want my kids to be like that.

Oh my goodness, same. There was a girl from NYC who lived in my hall freshman year. I remember she went to Chapin. She literally would not even speak to her non rich friends. Would pretend she didn't see you when you said hi to her in the all. Didn't participate in any dorm events. It was bizarre.

She sounds horrible, but that's Chapin. Most new yorkers dont go to private school, let alone such an elite one.

First poster here. Maybe, but the NYCers I know have run the gamut. Chapin types, public schools like Sty and Bronx School of Science and Hunter College, kids from Washington Heights who went to public schools there, Prep for Prep. They just….aren’t nice.

Ok actually I can think of one Prep for Prep kid who went to a rural boarding school who was nice. But I think she spent a lot of her childhood in Puerto Rico.

Interesting. As someone who went to a NY state college, I found the NYC kids (mostly high caliber public school grads) to be really solid and genuine. They worked hard, didn't come from tons of wealth, saw great value in education. A lot were first generation Americans. I grew up in the northern suburbs of NYC and there was a lot more snobbishness and shows of wealth (and drug use) among my peers there than from NYC.

[Anonymous]

No. NYC is my personal hell. I don’t even like to go there for the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I went to college with from NYC was a coke head who lost their virginity at 13. No thanks.

Did you have only two friends? They wasn’t my experience at all. The NYC kids I knew were generally more resilient and driven than their suburban counterparts. I had friends who travelled 90 min each way to get to the elite magnet schools they tested into and for them college with its mix of students from high schools of varying quality was a cakewalk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say yes except whe I was in college and early twenties and law school….I literally never liked any of my peers who grew up in NYC. None of them. They just weren’t nice. They were kinda haughty and full of themselves in a too cool for school way and weren’t friendly. I would not want my kids to be like that.

Oh my goodness, same. There was a girl from NYC who lived in my hall freshman year. I remember she went to Chapin. She literally would not even speak to her non rich friends. Would pretend she didn't see you when you said hi to her in the all. Didn't participate in any dorm events. It was bizarre.

She sounds horrible, but that's Chapin. Most new yorkers dont go to private school, let alone such an elite one.

First poster here. Maybe, but the NYCers I know have run the gamut. Chapin types, public schools like Sty and Bronx School of Science and Hunter College, kids from Washington Heights who went to public schools there, Prep for Prep. They just….aren’t nice.

Ok actually I can think of one Prep for Prep kid who went to a rural boarding school who was nice. But I think she spent a lot of her childhood in Puerto Rico.

We are just different kind of nice. Low tolerance for BS and all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are and we love it. One kid, private school, big brownstone, and the city at our feet. Crazy expensive but worth it if you can swing it.

This is my life in DC. Big row home with plenty of outdoor space, one kid, private school, quiet neighborhood. You couldn’t pay me to live in New York.

Curious, but why? If you're acknowledging similar vibes, what is it that you object to specifically about NY but not DC?

Dp. New York is much bigger and louder. DC is manageable

[Anonymous]

No, I'm a west coast lover at heart.