Teacher made each kid state their pronouns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another anxious, uptight parent could easily write a post about how your version made their kid feel uncomfortable like their pronouns should be obvious and announcing them would be weird.

We’re all adjusting to new language norms about gender. Teach your kid that the important thing is acting in good faith to make people feel respected and affirmed.

If it wasn’t this it would definitely be something else about the first day of school. Your reaction is a problem. You need to teach your kid to reflect on how they felt and what, if anything, she wants to do differently next time. Fussing over what the teacher should have done slightly differently in your opinion isn’t the right approach.

There’s no good faith in forcing a child to say something (or make them feel they’re being forced or will be ostracized or called out for not speaking) about themselves they don’t want to say. You can state pronouns if you want all day long and majority of people could care less, but forcing that on others, especially children, goes against the Constitution like PP said and just basic common sense for reasons like OP shared. You need to realize you cannot force your speech on others. Clearly OPs daughter did not feel respected in this situation, in the situation you may have felt differently, but her feelings are no less important than yours. Everyone should always have a right to speak or not to speak and to choose for themselves what is said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child is gender Nonconforming and would feel uncomfortable answering this question in front of a group because they are unsure at this point.

its not just parents of cis gendered kids that would have a concern about this.

Yeah, I don't love mandatory pronoun announcements for just this reason. Not everyone is sure, or wants to say, or has decided to come out. Better would just be to make it optional, or just otherwise foster an environment where a kid feels comfortable telling a teacher to use certain pronouns, instead of putting kids on the spot.

[Anonymous]

Schools have no business doing any of this. If this happened, I would pull my kids out of the school.

[Anonymous]

Until we know what age we're talking about, we have no idea how to deal. If this is early elementary, I'd blow my lid for sure. Personally, I'd prefer to have my kid just say, "decline".

[Anonymous]

I’d have a teacher principal meeting set up already with my lawyer present. This is unconstitutional!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How awful. I hate the forced outings and gender identification that these policies cause. I can’t see how teachers don’t realize that they are hurting the very kids they are supposedly helping by doing this. It’s basically just about the teacher egos, not about truly helping kids.

+1. This is all virtue signaling by the teacher who's being so aggressive about showing how "progressive" and "inclusive" they are that they can't be bothered to actually think for a minute about what it genuinely means to be kind and considerate. The PP who said this approach is harmful to people who are gender questioning is spot on.

Yes, it basically forces gender questioning kids to either deny that they are questioning or out themselves. It is cruel and I can’t believe people actually support this as a policy.

Spare me your feigned concern for gender questioning kids. People are going to us pronouns to refer to them either way, so this is a chance for them to share the pronouns they would be most comfortable having their classmates use to refer to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d have a teacher principal meeting set up already with my lawyer present. This is unconstitutional!

LOL, this is so dumb.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it’s over reach. And I have a they them kid.

[Anonymous]

Forced compliance to the current cultural orthodoxy. Dissidents will be punished.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schools have no business doing any of this. If this happened, I would pull my kids out of the school.

Get ready to start looking at private schools, or homeschooling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How awful. I hate the forced outings and gender identification that these policies cause. I can’t see how teachers don’t realize that they are hurting the very kids they are supposedly helping by doing this. It’s basically just about the teacher egos, not about truly helping kids.

+1. This is all virtue signaling by the teacher who's being so aggressive about showing how "progressive" and "inclusive" they are that they can't be bothered to actually think for a minute about what it genuinely means to be kind and considerate. The PP who said this approach is harmful to people who are gender questioning is spot on.

Yes, it basically forces gender questioning kids to either deny that they are questioning or out themselves. It is cruel and I can’t believe people actually support this as a policy.

Spare me your feigned concern for gender questioning kids. People are going to us pronouns to refer to them either way, so this is a chance for them to share the pronouns they would be most comfortable having their classmates use to refer to them.

There is a far cry between a kid establishing their pronouns in trusted circles and a forced outing by a teacher. You are so cruel.

[Anonymous]

My parents from day 1 of school told me to always be respectful but that I never have to answer any questions, and if a teacher tells me I can’t do something I need like go to the bathroom that I should just go if I really need to and they will be down at the school the next day to talk to the principal if teacher gives me a hard time. I suggest you have this conversation with your daughter and teach her some respectful ways not to answer and tell her she can go to the office and call you if necessary. Kids should always know that teachers have authority over them but only to the point that it doesn’t interfere with their own autonomy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d have a teacher principal meeting set up already with my lawyer present. This is unconstitutional!

LOL, this is so dumb.

NP, It’s also correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah it’s over reach. And I have a they them kid.

So you’re cool if people misgender your kid all year?

[Anonymous]

I have already told my child to say “isn’t it obvious?” And just let the school call me. I am prepared to fight this battle. It is fine if the teacher says “if anyone wants to state their pronouns, please stand up and let the class know what pronouns by which you would like to be addressed.” But to make my child state their pronouns is just bending to this overly sensitive societal pressure.