SIngle Mother and her toddler just moved in with me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:some of you people are really ignorant and stupid. there's nothing creepy about the situation. i am helping out a friend, and I'm starting to care about her as more than a friend, simple as that! Jesus Christ.

IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING HELPFUL TO CONTRIBUTE THEN KEEP YOUR BULLSHIT OPINIONS TO YOURSELF! it blows my mind how stupid and ignorant so many people are. THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX OR AND INSTANT FAMILY! God people are stupid!! this is a desperate girl who had nothing, she cry's on my shoulder when she has her moments, texts me all day long, always wants to know what I'm doing and when I'm coming home. wants to have dinner with me every night, wants to watch tv with me, and about 6 of her girlfriends come to see her a few times a week. they all know me well.

we never dated before, i didnt start to have feelings for her until after she moved in. i dont hit on her, i dont make comments, i leave the room if she's breast feeding, she's giving me mixed signals I'm quietly trying to deal with my new feelings for her. and I'm not asking her for anything, I'm not giving her ultimatums. this is not about sex!. i want something real with this girl if there is an option.

also, if she wants nothing but a friendship then thats fine. i am just trying to understand what she might want. i enjoy her company, her kid is great. she's just giving me mixed signals.

she's getting a jog
her kid will be in day care
she will start paying rent in a month or so. she came to me with nothing.

very strange dude. why not just get a girlfriend without a kid?

why didnt i think of that, ill just go to my local target and grab a fresh new untainted girlfriend off the shelf.... you can help who you catch feeling for

[Anonymous]

For god sakes OP, it is “you’re”, not “your”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give it time. Take things slowly until she warms up to you. Did you guys use to date?

no we didnt, she was young and free before, i was only concerned about getting rent on time then

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need therapy. She is in a bad situation, and you are trying to take advantage of her vulnerability to make her your girlfriend.

Stop.

Give her space to heal, and when she's ready to move out on her own, let her.

she is free to do what she wants, I'm not getting in her way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For god sakes OP, it is “you’re”, not “your”.

who cares, what are you the grammar police

[Anonymous]

i knew this was a bad idea..

i really can deal with all the stupid comments, most of you are not really paying attention to what I'm saying and clearly we have a ton of ignorant people on here. I'm out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. After reading OP’s replies with the excessive use of all caps and repeatedly calling people stupid, I’m pretty sure his friend has just found herself with another abusive man.

oh yeah, you got me all figured Einstein. welcome to butt hurt America, dont open your mouth unless you know what your talking about, do you need your emotional support animal and some healing time after reading this

I don’t know what I’m talking about? Dude I posted the reply that you yourself said “this is helpful”. Because I actually WAS your friend at one point. So yea, I can see an abusive man a mile away, and you’re one of them. Normal men do not react the way you do with “butt hurt America” and “your [sic] stupid” and “do you need your emotional support animal”. Normal men, when they ask for insight, listen to it without throwing a tantrum even if they don’t agree. Abusive men hurl insults.

But go ahead and call me stupid again. I got out of the cycle of abuse and am now in a very happy marriage. I’m someone you should be listening to.

[Anonymous]

She has said she is not interested. You have to go by what she says and ignore any "mixed signals." Otherwise, you will seem like a creep

[Anonymous]

Oh, this (all of it, the thread, the situation, everything) is going to end very well.

[Anonymous]

You are a sucker.

[Anonymous]

Op, do you live in Dundalk and work a blue collar job? No college degree? Your lady friend will maybe soon get a job waiting tables or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need therapy. She is in a bad situation, and you are trying to take advantage of her vulnerability to make her your girlfriend.

Stop.

Give her space to heal, and when she's ready to move out on her own, let her.

THIS. She needs help, not a creeper who wants to manipulate the situation for sex and an Instant Family.

your stupid

You’re illiterate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:some of you people are really ignorant and stupid. there's nothing creepy about the situation. i am helping out a friend, and I'm starting to care about her as more than a friend, simple as that! Jesus Christ.

IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING HELPFUL TO CONTRIBUTE THEN KEEP YOUR BULLSHIT OPINIONS TO YOURSELF! it blows my mind how stupid and ignorant so many people are. THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX OR AND INSTANT FAMILY! God people are stupid!! this is a desperate girl who had nothing, she cry's on my shoulder when she has her moments, texts me all day long, always wants to know what I'm doing and when I'm coming home. wants to have dinner with me every night, wants to watch tv with me, and about 6 of her girlfriends come to see her a few times a week. they all know me well.

we never dated before, i didnt start to have feelings for her until after she moved in. i dont hit on her, i dont make comments, i leave the room if she's breast feeding, she's giving me mixed signals I'm quietly trying to deal with my new feelings for her. and I'm not asking her for anything, I'm not giving her ultimatums. this is not about sex!. i want something real with this girl if there is an option.

also, if she wants nothing but a friendship then thats fine. i am just trying to understand what she might want. i enjoy her company, her kid is great. she's just giving me mixed signals.

she's getting a jog
her kid will be in day care
she will start paying rent in a month or so. she came to me with nothing.

Yet she's living with you instead of any of them. Seems like she was looking for a dumb guy to string along and take care of her, and she sure found one.

[Anonymous]

Wait until she is back on her feet, completely independent, and has a job and a place of her own. Then ask her on a date.

[Anonymous]

OP wrote: IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING HELPFUL TO CONTRIBUTE THEN KEEP YOUR BULLSHIT OPINIONS TO YOURSELF! it blows my mind how stupid and ignorant so many people are. THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX OR AND INSTANT FAMILY! God people are stupid!!

and also OP wrote:i am playing the daddy her kid needs and i am playing caregiver. which i am happy to do, she is a good girl. but i want more. the woman and family i always wanted is in my face and i cant have it. i can only pretend

Hmmmmm.