Not sure how to respond to DD

[Anonymous]

I suggest the book Growing Up Brave: Expert Strategies for Helping Your Child Overcome Fear, Stress, and Anxiety
Book by Donna B. Pincus. The child led one on one strategy really helped my anxious child.

[Anonymous]

Not popular DCUM advice but honestly don't feed into her drama and your husband shouldn't either.

Your 4 year old is old enough to start learning about lying and having consequences . It's good for both your kids to know that lying on each other isn't okay.he didn't tattle he lied

Most of the time I would not get involved in the who is first stuff.

You handled the tub thing just fine and if she wanted to pout about the consequences oh well. Her choice. You have to learn not to take her pouting and tantrums personally.
You can try a quick reset such as " Larla, let's get out of the tub now and go pick some hairbands to brush your hair out" or whatever.
You may also try having them alternate who gets out first. If your son cares .If not let her go first. It also helps to set expectations like " I'm going to start draining the water, once all the water is out. Well put toys away and get dried off . What books would you like to read tonight? "
You can have them alternate rooms for story reading or prebed snuggle in a common area
But when you set a boundary with her your husband needs to back you up.

You can also talk with her after the fact about what she was feeling and how things can be done differently in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She might be experiencing a gender-identity crisis.

Have you tried discussing gender with your child?

WTF

It's a Right Wing troll posting this on multiple threads for attention. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

My 6 year old daughter has had a huge increase in meltdowns in the past two weeks. No changes at home or school. But all of a sudden she just has a very hard time handling disappointment. Am really hoping it is just a phase.

So no recommendations, just solidarity.

[Anonymous]

Have you been monitoring her screen time and what she is viewing? Do you know who her friends are at school? How are her teachers treating her? I also agree that she needs to be taking a bath without her siblings. This should end at three years of age and you need to start talking to her about modesty and protecting her body. There is a lot of physical and emotional abuse going on with our children and it is our job to protect them and know what is going on at all times with them. Not to alarm you just stay aware. Maybe something happened without your knowledge. I would start diving deeper and look into that. Praying for answers.

[Anonymous]

Sounds exactly like my 5.5 year old. So much drama and crying. She has a littler sister and a lot of it is triggered by sibling competition for attention. We just try to give each girl 1 on 1 time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should’ve punished your son for the false accusation. This is serious because the next one could be more realistic.

Also, telling your kids to “not tattle” is a huge problem because they might learn to keep important information from you. Bullying, asshole/negligent teachers, CRIMES… Regularly, they should be able to count on you to discipline the “bad kids” or teach them how to defend themselves.

This is important. He's not even tattling on her. He's lying about what she's doing. Don't let him do that.

[Anonymous]

Hmm sounds like she’s adjusting to baby and is expressing it by being jealous of her brother. Is she the middle child or eldest? Either way perhaps some one on one time with her is warranted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm sounds like she’s adjusting to baby and is expressing it by being jealous of her brother. Is she the middle child or eldest? Either way perhaps some one on one time with her is warranted.

Also want to add that a strict bed time and consistent meal times are always helpful in case you are not doing that already. You will get through this OP! Adjusting to a new baby is difficult!