my son recently got dumped by his GF. What would you say to him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a girl dumps him over just money, she’s not worth the trouble. Materialistic women don’t make good wives.

It’s likely, she didn’t dump him over money. It could be just what she told him. Or it could be what he’s telling you, as his over sympathetic mother. He’s could have been told the real reason and is just telling you what would make your blood boil.

This is life. For whatever the reason, they are just not a good fit. 2 years at that age is nothing. Just be Glad they found out before marriage or having a child together. It could be views as mature that they broke up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a girl dumps him over just money, she’s not worth the trouble. Materialistic women don’t make good wives.

It’s likely, she didn’t dump him over money. It could be just what she told him. Or it could be what he’s telling you, as his over sympathetic mother. He’s could have been told the real reason and is just telling you what would make your blood boil.

This is life. For whatever the reason, they are just not a good fit. 2 years at that age is nothing. Just be Glad they found out before marriage or having a child together. It could be views as mature that they broke up.

Yeah, the son's going to be an unreliable narrator.

My tip with breakups is always be kind and sympathetic but avoid badmouthing the ex. Because I've been in a situation where a friend broke up with her boyfriend and I went "good, I always thought he was a creepy loser" then whoops a week later they're back together and now you're the bad guy.

Kind, sympathetic, don't badmouth the ex.

[Anonymous]

You’ve posted a lot of specific and personal info here
Age
Sex
Marital status
Car make and model and year
Living arrangements- condo
Company name & department

I call troll or clueless internet user

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s not why she dumped him.

+100. There is no way he is going to tell dad and mom that she was an angel and he got cocky and treated her like dirt. I met one of my college friend's stepmom and dad late in life to find out he lied and told them I was a heartbreaker who thought I wasn't good enough for him. He never asked me out and even friendzoned and mistreated me for no reason. But he was scared his parents were going to find out what an @$$ he turned into in at UVa, so he preemtively played the victim card (which both his parents saw through after meeting me). Stop coddling and make him take responsibility. Call his ex and get her side of the story and offer to buy her dinner if she helps you get CONSTRUCTIVE feedback on what girl would put up with DS and what he could do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s not why she dumped him.

+100. There is no way he is going to tell dad and mom that she was an angel and he got cocky and treated her like dirt. I met one of my college friend's stepmom and dad late in life to find out he lied and told them I was a heartbreaker who thought he wasn't good enough for me. He never asked me out and even friendzoned and mistreated me for no reason. But he was scared his parents were going to find out what an @$$ he turned into in at UVa, so he preemtively played the victim card (which both his parents saw through after meeting me). Stop coddling and make him take responsibility. Call his ex and get her side of the story and offer to buy her dinner if she helps you get CONSTRUCTIVE feedback on what girl would put up with DS and what he could do better.

*he*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s not why she dumped him.

It could be. There's a whole movement of young women about the girlfriends age focused on dating men with money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s not why she dumped him.

It could be. There's a whole movement of young women about the girlfriends age focused on dating men with money

There could be girls out there like this --for sure in the web-order bride circuit. But DS's emotions are that of a guy that f---ed up. The sadness OP describes that you talk enough to your dad about aren't of wishing you made more than $140K at 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

No, you aren't saying the right thing. Revenge isn't apropos -he got dumped not robbed. Stop looking for better, but rather the right fit for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It doesn’t matter if sea is overpopulated with the fish, he loved one fish for two years and wanted her.

This is the best, deepest, most thoughtful advice I've read on this site. There are a lot of jellyfish in the sea, but one pufferfish in your fishtank you developed that was compatible with your quirks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

I would dump someone over this.

Then you are a pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s not why she dumped him.

It could be. There's a whole movement of young women about the girlfriends age focused on dating men with money

??? He has money, and she still dumped him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a girl dumps him over just money, she’s not worth the trouble. Materialistic women don’t make good wives.

It’s likely, she didn’t dump him over money. It could be just what she told him. Or it could be what he’s telling you, as his over sympathetic mother. He’s could have been told the real reason and is just telling you what would make your blood boil.

This is life. For whatever the reason, they are just not a good fit. 2 years at that age is nothing. Just be Glad they found out before marriage or having a child together. It could be views as mature that they broke up.

+1

[Anonymous]

That’s what your son told you the ex said. But we’re you there? No? Then you don’t really know the reason for the breakup. Son could be not telling you everything (and he’s a grownup, so he doesn’t have to tell you everything about his relationships). You are merely a bystander to this, and you need to back the heck up.

[Anonymous]

The only thing your son needs to do is loose that Prius.

25. Get anything but that. He can get a hybrid Honda or whatever. But an old man Prius. No. No no.