my son recently got dumped by his GF. What would you say to him?

[Anonymous]

My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

I would dump someone over this.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't frame it in terms of revenge. His next relationship will hopefully be with someone who is a better fit for him, and that person deserves better than to be "payback" to his ex.

I would tell him that her priorities are out of whack and she did him a favor by getting out of his life.

[Anonymous]

That’s not why she dumped him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I saying the right thing here?

No, you are showing zero sympathy. Revenge? Plenty of fish in the sea? You sound cold.

[Anonymous]

If you're not a troll, no, it's not the right thing to say he should take "revenge."

"You're so disappointed. I understand. I'm here if you want to talk. I love you." Done.

[Anonymous]

That can't be the real reason. Perhaps it's his inability to live within his means that bothers her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't frame it in terms of revenge. His next relationship will hopefully be with someone who is a better fit for him, and that person deserves better than to be "payback" to his ex.

I would tell him that her priorities are out of whack and she did him a favor by getting out of his life.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

I would dump someone over this.

Good, they would be way better off. You aren't smart enough to understand that OP's son is not spending 40 or more percent of his take home pay on rent. If OP's son is saving some or all of his rent money, he is building wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

I would dump someone over this.

Good, they would be way better off. You aren't smart enough to understand that OP's son is not spending 40 or more percent of his take home pay on rent. If OP's son is saving some or all of his rent money, he is building wealth.

More money than sense. Time to learn how to live like an independent adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

I would dump someone over this.

Good, they would be way better off. You aren't smart enough to understand that OP's son is not spending 40 or more percent of his take home pay on rent. If OP's son is saving some or all of his rent money, he is building wealth.

Why not never move out at all, then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My twenty five years old son got dumped by his GF after two years in a relationship two weeks ago and he was devastated, still is. She dumped him because he is not making enough money. He is currently living in a condo owned by DH and I and driving a 2015 Prius. He has a good paying job at Amazon AWS making about 140k/yr.

He is very depressed at the moment. As his mother, I told him that the best revenge is to get a better GF than the previous one. There are so many fish in the ocean, you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. That's her loss.

Am I saying the right thing here?

I would dump someone over this.

Good, they would be way better off. You aren't smart enough to understand that OP's son is not spending 40 or more percent of his take home pay on rent. If OP's son is saving some or all of his rent money, he is building wealth.

Maybe she thinks he is spoiled and wants someone who stands on his own feet. I cannot imagine any of my 25 year old exes crying to their moms about it.

[Anonymous]

He's 25, he needs to stand on his own two feet and not cry to mommy about a breakup. Any guy making over 100k at age 25 has girlfriend options, especially outside of DC proper.

[Anonymous]

I remember dumping my boyfriend around the same age; I was making significantly less than he was, paying student loans, and working quite a lot. He was living with mom and dad and complaining they were making him pay his own phone bill, at age 25. I couldn't take it anymore and started dating a guy who wasn't dependent on his parents.