Is it normal to make fun of other people’s children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a mean girl clique unaware of their own tackiness and poor behavior.

+1

They’re the bullies who are “outraged” that everything is labeled “bullying” now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All who are pretending to have done so are fibbers.

I’m guessing you meant that everyone saying they have not trash talked other people’s kids are lying. This says a lot about you.

I remember before I even had kids, a colleague of mine said something rude about a mutual friend’s parenting/kid. I thought it was out of line but didn’t say anything because I didn’t have kids and felt like “well maybe if I had kids I’d get it.”

Nope. Now that I have kids I’m MORE bothered, not less. Especially because I learned later that the child in question is ASD. I have nothing but empathy for both a child dealing with ASD and a parent working to guide that child. My own kid has early signs of ADHD. You know people are judging your kid, and also judging your parenting. But that doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I also think it’s extra bad that these people are gossiping about friends and friends’ kids. That makes it much worse IMO. I’d never make fun of a friend’s child or parenting. If I had negative opinions, I’d discuss it with my DH in private. But I would never make a joke like that to mutual friends. It’s immature and potentially quite cruel, if it ever got back to them.

So way down in you dissertation you admitted that you talk about other’s kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop being mosey and butting into other people’s private conversations, you won’t have any friends left if you become the speech police. This is America they can diss kids if they want, you can also leave if you don’t want to hear it. Quit your whining

Is this a Russian bot? "This is America" where you are free to be an a-hole with no one complaining? No. You can be an a-hole, but people will stop being your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All who are pretending to have done so are fibbers.

I’m guessing you meant that everyone saying they have not trash talked other people’s kids are lying. This says a lot about you.

I remember before I even had kids, a colleague of mine said something rude about a mutual friend’s parenting/kid. I thought it was out of line but didn’t say anything because I didn’t have kids and felt like “well maybe if I had kids I’d get it.”

Nope. Now that I have kids I’m MORE bothered, not less. Especially because I learned later that the child in question is ASD. I have nothing but empathy for both a child dealing with ASD and a parent working to guide that child. My own kid has early signs of ADHD. You know people are judging your kid, and also judging your parenting. But that doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I also think it’s extra bad that these people are gossiping about friends and friends’ kids. That makes it much worse IMO. I’d never make fun of a friend’s child or parenting. If I had negative opinions, I’d discuss it with my DH in private. But I would never make a joke like that to mutual friends. It’s immature and potentially quite cruel, if it ever got back to them.

So way down in you dissertation you admitted that you talk about other’s kids.

It’s always funny to me when people on here complain about having to read 3-4 paragraphs. “Your post took my 40-60 seconds to read” is not the sick burn you think it is.

Anyway, confiding in your spouse about a friend’s kid or parenting is not at all the same as trash talking your friends’ kids to other friends. If that distinction is hard for you, I guess not even a “dissertation” can help you.

[Anonymous]

C'mon OP, you know this is not normal. Stay away from that group, you don't want to be associated with them.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I talk privately about other parents because they do insane things like send their sick kids to school during Covid. We never talk about the kids though.

[Anonymous]

I find adults trash talking/making fun of small children to be the lowliest form of cruel.

The one exception is if the child has some major behavioral issues. A lot of moms in our preschool have discussed a child that is truly a terror and how our children try to avoid her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All who are pretending to have done so are fibbers.

I’m guessing you meant that everyone saying they have not trash talked other people’s kids are lying. This says a lot about you.

I remember before I even had kids, a colleague of mine said something rude about a mutual friend’s parenting/kid. I thought it was out of line but didn’t say anything because I didn’t have kids and felt like “well maybe if I had kids I’d get it.”

Nope. Now that I have kids I’m MORE bothered, not less. Especially because I learned later that the child in question is ASD. I have nothing but empathy for both a child dealing with ASD and a parent working to guide that child. My own kid has early signs of ADHD. You know people are judging your kid, and also judging your parenting. But that doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I also think it’s extra bad that these people are gossiping about friends and friends’ kids. That makes it much worse IMO. I’d never make fun of a friend’s child or parenting. If I had negative opinions, I’d discuss it with my DH in private. But I would never make a joke like that to mutual friends. It’s immature and potentially quite cruel, if it ever got back to them.

So way down in you dissertation you admitted that you talk about other’s kids.

It’s always funny to me when people on here complain about having to read 3-4 paragraphs. “Your post took my 40-60 seconds to read” is not the sick burn you think it is.

Anyway, confiding in your spouse about a friend’s kid or parenting is not at all the same as trash talking your friends’ kids to other friends. If that distinction is hard for you, I guess not even a “dissertation” can help you.

Only you can talk about other’s kids and you get to decide to whom. Got it. That’s for not posting another dissertation. By the way, if you’re so righteous as you hypocritically claim to be, why are attempting to “sick burn.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All who are pretending to have done so are fibbers.

I’m guessing you meant that everyone saying they have not trash talked other people’s kids are lying. This says a lot about you.

I remember before I even had kids, a colleague of mine said something rude about a mutual friend’s parenting/kid. I thought it was out of line but didn’t say anything because I didn’t have kids and felt like “well maybe if I had kids I’d get it.”

Nope. Now that I have kids I’m MORE bothered, not less. Especially because I learned later that the child in question is ASD. I have nothing but empathy for both a child dealing with ASD and a parent working to guide that child. My own kid has early signs of ADHD. You know people are judging your kid, and also judging your parenting. But that doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I also think it’s extra bad that these people are gossiping about friends and friends’ kids. That makes it much worse IMO. I’d never make fun of a friend’s child or parenting. If I had negative opinions, I’d discuss it with my DH in private. But I would never make a joke like that to mutual friends. It’s immature and potentially quite cruel, if it ever got back to them.

So way down in you dissertation you admitted that you talk about other’s kids.

It’s always funny to me when people on here complain about having to read 3-4 paragraphs. “Your post took my 40-60 seconds to read” is not the sick burn you think it is.

Anyway, confiding in your spouse about a friend’s kid or parenting is not at all the same as trash talking your friends’ kids to other friends. If that distinction is hard for you, I guess not even a “dissertation” can help you.

Isn’t trash talking still trash talking whether it’s with a friend or spouse? Pot calling kettle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All who are pretending to have done so are fibbers.

I’m guessing you meant that everyone saying they have not trash talked other people’s kids are lying. This says a lot about you.

I remember before I even had kids, a colleague of mine said something rude about a mutual friend’s parenting/kid. I thought it was out of line but didn’t say anything because I didn’t have kids and felt like “well maybe if I had kids I’d get it.”

Nope. Now that I have kids I’m MORE bothered, not less. Especially because I learned later that the child in question is ASD. I have nothing but empathy for both a child dealing with ASD and a parent working to guide that child. My own kid has early signs of ADHD. You know people are judging your kid, and also judging your parenting. But that doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I also think it’s extra bad that these people are gossiping about friends and friends’ kids. That makes it much worse IMO. I’d never make fun of a friend’s child or parenting. If I had negative opinions, I’d discuss it with my DH in private. But I would never make a joke like that to mutual friends. It’s immature and potentially quite cruel, if it ever got back to them.

So way down in you dissertation you admitted that you talk about other’s kids.

It’s always funny to me when people on here complain about having to read 3-4 paragraphs. “Your post took my 40-60 seconds to read” is not the sick burn you think it is.

Anyway, confiding in your spouse about a friend’s kid or parenting is not at all the same as trash talking your friends’ kids to other friends. If that distinction is hard for you, I guess not even a “dissertation” can help you.

Isn’t trash talking still trash talking whether it’s with a friend or spouse? Pot calling kettle.

No, talking to your spouse about how you don't like a little kid or you judged a friend's parenting isn't "trash talking". Talking about it socially definitely is. If this distinction is confusing to you, I'm glad we're not friends.

One of the main functions of marriage is to have a confidant for things that are not appropriate to discuss elsewhere. I also complain about my parents to my spouse, and it actually helps me have more empathy and kindness towards my parents to have that outlet. I wouldn't complain about them to their friends though -- that would be tacky af.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All who are pretending to have done so are fibbers.

I’m guessing you meant that everyone saying they have not trash talked other people’s kids are lying. This says a lot about you.

I remember before I even had kids, a colleague of mine said something rude about a mutual friend’s parenting/kid. I thought it was out of line but didn’t say anything because I didn’t have kids and felt like “well maybe if I had kids I’d get it.”

Nope. Now that I have kids I’m MORE bothered, not less. Especially because I learned later that the child in question is ASD. I have nothing but empathy for both a child dealing with ASD and a parent working to guide that child. My own kid has early signs of ADHD. You know people are judging your kid, and also judging your parenting. But that doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I also think it’s extra bad that these people are gossiping about friends and friends’ kids. That makes it much worse IMO. I’d never make fun of a friend’s child or parenting. If I had negative opinions, I’d discuss it with my DH in private. But I would never make a joke like that to mutual friends. It’s immature and potentially quite cruel, if it ever got back to them.

So way down in you dissertation you admitted that you talk about other’s kids.

It’s always funny to me when people on here complain about having to read 3-4 paragraphs. “Your post took my 40-60 seconds to read” is not the sick burn you think it is.

Anyway, confiding in your spouse about a friend’s kid or parenting is not at all the same as trash talking your friends’ kids to other friends. If that distinction is hard for you, I guess not even a “dissertation” can help you.

Only you can talk about other’s kids and you get to decide to whom. Got it. That’s for not posting another dissertation. By the way, if you’re so righteous as you hypocritically claim to be, why are attempting to “sick burn.”

Your reading comprehension skills are poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop being mosey and butting into other people’s private conversations, you won’t have any friends left if you become the speech police. This is America they can diss kids if they want, you can also leave if you don’t want to hear it. Quit your whining

You know that post on the site about "tell me the ways you are trashy"? You and those moms belong there.

This is such low class behavior that I would say something and would definitely avoid these creepy women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most often it’s the making fun of the kids who are redshirted. It’s obvious with some as they are quite big in contrast to their classmates
They carry burden of being thought of as not too bright.

You really need therapy. You can not let go of this red shirting obsession you have. It is clear who is not too bright.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a mean girl clique unaware of their own tackiness and poor behavior.

+1

They’re the bullies who are “outraged” that everything is labeled “bullying” now.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was sitting in a group setting the other day with some people I know. A large topic of discussion was other people’s children. They were making fun of these people they know and their toddler and baby. How they weren’t smart like their parents. How neither of the kids were lookers. How the mother didn’t know how to dress the kids and their outfits were tacky.

I was horrified and protested. I said it’s not nice to speak ill of other people’s children. They told me to lighten up and it’s just for fun.

No, it is not all right but you took a big chance of getting best up my butting in and Correcting them. It is not all right to make fun of anyone, well politicians are fair game but only for their arrogance and stupidity. Frankly, I cannot imagine anything more despicable than making fun of any child.