Who do men who make 5 figures marry?

[Anonymous]

This is the most out of touch thread I've read in a while on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine not to care about money.
I am not like that but others are. Every one is different. You shouldn’t judge.

Not judging.

Just trying to understand the mindset of those types of women.

I'm the first PP. We're normal.
FTR, kids are grown and in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:by definition, half of all women marry men at or below the median. That's kind of how distributions work, genius

Not true, because not all women marry.

Marriage (even though it’s only a courthouse trip away, save special circumstances like SSDI or IBR eligibility) is becoming a rich person institution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine not to care about money.
I am not like that but others are. Every one is different. You shouldn’t judge.

Not judging.

Just trying to understand the mindset of those types of women.

The mindset? “I’m in love with that guy and I want to spend my life growing old with him.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Yale Law grad nephew just started working with an NGO for $51K. His GF is an year older, already working with a big law firm and making $250K with large bonus and great benefits, they are marrying next month. She has her own money, could care less about his income.

Report back to us in five to ten years when they have a couple of young demanding kids that she carried, birthed and nursed all while managing a grueling big law career that she had to keep up with to support the family.

I'm a high level exec and my husband is a teacher. Our kids are in college. What do you want to know?

The women I know in your dynamic are usually resentful. It’s great if you’re not

[Anonymous]

I'm a teacher married to a man who is also a teacher. I married him because he's awesome. He is utterly and completely devoted to me and our children. He is an amazing teacher who loves his students. He takes care of his aging parents. He does at least half the work around the house and in our lives. He is hands down the kindest person I've ever met.

We have two children and yes, we've had our share of hard times, financial and otherwise. But we've never gone hungry, never had to live in a homeless shelter. Not that there's anything wrong with that, I'm just saying, we have always had every single thing we need. We have some of what we want. I honestly think that choosing a mate based on income is foolish. Marriage and life is not about money. It's about acceptance and kindness. And of course, there are people with 6 figure incomes who are also kind and loving and have good marriages. But this obsession with money and status is turn off. I want my life and my marriage to be about more than nice vacations and brand name schools for our kids. Our lives need to mean more than that. Loving each other, loving other people and serving others are what we are about.

[Anonymous]

Settle?? Girl, bye. I know PLENTY people who make 5 figure salaries whose happiness would run circles around yo shallow ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:




This is the most out of touch thread I've read in a while on DCUM.

Nah, the one where half the posters are telling the OP, who is half of a dual teacher couple with a low-mid 100k HHI, that they can't afford kids is even worse.

[Anonymous]

OP, you’ve been passed over, huh?

[Anonymous]

My husband makes 60k and I make 95. I'm really eager to hit six figures myself, but he's chosen repeatedly to pursue his dream job, and at least he has a decent amount of flexibility and short commute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Settle?? Girl, bye. I know PLENTY people who make 5 figure salaries whose happiness would run circles around yo shallow ass.

+1 Choosing a life partner based on his earning potential generally doesn’t equate to a happy life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’ve been passed over, huh?

OP here, I make 85k which I think is a pretty comfortable salary for 1 person. Yeah it’s pretty annoying seeing women in this area with the 6 figures requirement. It seems ridiculous how this forum looks down on people who make 1XX,000 a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’ve been passed over, huh?

OP here, I make 85k which I think is a pretty comfortable salary for 1 person. Yeah it’s pretty annoying seeing women in this area with the 6 figures requirement. It seems ridiculous how this forum looks down on people who make 1XX,000 a year.

I wouldn’t turn you down just because of that (I make less) but are living in DC or somewhere VHCOL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a teacher married to a man who is also a teacher. I married him because he's awesome. He is utterly and completely devoted to me and our children. He is an amazing teacher who loves his students. He takes care of his aging parents. He does at least half the work around the house and in our lives. He is hands down the kindest person I've ever met.

We have two children and yes, we've had our share of hard times, financial and otherwise. But we've never gone hungry, never had to live in a homeless shelter. Not that there's anything wrong with that, I'm just saying, we have always had every single thing we need. We have some of what we want. I honestly think that choosing a mate based on income is foolish. Marriage and life is not about money. It's about acceptance and kindness. And of course, there are people with 6 figure incomes who are also kind and loving and have good marriages. But this obsession with money and status is turn off. I want my life and my marriage to be about more than nice vacations and brand name schools for our kids. Our lives need to mean more than that. Loving each other, loving other people and serving others are what we are about.

Bravo. Thank you both for all you do for the next generations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’ve been passed over, huh?

OP here, I make 85k which I think is a pretty comfortable salary for 1 person. Yeah it’s pretty annoying seeing women in this area with the 6 figures requirement. It seems ridiculous how this forum looks down on people who make 1XX,000 a year.

OP, think of it as a good filtering mechanism. Do you really want someone who is with you for the money?