Why do so many women love dysfunction & chaos?

[Anonymous]

Why are so many men self-centered and openly adjust their balls without washing hands. Maybe they watch too many reality sports.

Hey, I’m fat! But I’m sexist too so I watch men’s sports I could never play and shit on female interests as part of my training.

Hilarious. Because office politics is exactly drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many men self-centered and openly adjust their balls without washing hands. Maybe they watch too many reality sports.

Hey, I’m fat! But I’m sexist too so I watch men’s sports I could never play and shit on female interests as part of my training.

Hilarious. Because office politics is exactly drama.

This post is all over the place. Seems like you’re upset at someone/something else but projecting it onto me.

[Anonymous]

What kind of baggage are you unloading? I might be empathetic and talk you through some things because yes, women *can be* naturally more empathetic but it would turn me off romantically and sexually. But I wouldn’t be unkind about it.

Women who are actually attracted to this baggage have baggage of their own or grew up in a chaotic environment so the dysfunction is familiar to them and doesn’t scare them off. They don’t run from the red flags.

[Anonymous]

I’m finding the correlation to not wanting to eat ribs on a date rather odd. You’re overthinking it.

[Anonymous]

Women like it when men are open and emotionally vulnerable.

It’s similar to how men like women who are open and enthusiastic in bed.

[Anonymous]

People, including women, will increase their “listening cues” (like eye contact, leaning in, making small verbal responses) when you are talking about anything bad that is happening to you to communicate their sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

They don’t?
I have seen quite a few men on this board say that they are looking for a younger woman who grew up with an absent father and has “daddy issues.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

They don’t?
I have seen quite a few men on this board say that they are looking for a younger woman who grew up with an absent father and has “daddy issues.”

1. I haven’t.
2. They’re looking for pretty women who want to have sex.

[Anonymous]

My best friend is like this. When my life is going well, we have very little to talk about, but the minute there's an issue - right now, it's how my husband's family is caring for his seriously ill father - she's animated and right up in there with advice, commiseration, etc. I've tried talking to her about current events, our jobs, but she has no hobbies and all of our kids are late teens or grown, and there's simply not much she's interested in. The thriving on dysfunction is something I didn't fully realize about her when we were younger.

No surprise, most of my close friends are men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

They don’t?
I have seen quite a few men on this board say that they are looking for a younger woman who grew up with an absent father and has “daddy issues.”

1. I haven’t.
2. They’re looking for pretty women who want to have sex.

I know plenty of men who are very tepid and dull who are with dramatic women. I think they like the drama the wife brings while they remain more stoic. It seems to work for them. To each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

They don’t?
I have seen quite a few men on this board say that they are looking for a younger woman who grew up with an absent father and has “daddy issues.”
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1. I haven’t.
2. They’re looking for pretty women who want to have sex.

Wait. Are you saying that some women are looking for damaged men who want to have emotionally vulnerable conversations, and some men are looking for damaged women who will be open and vulnerable in bed?
Like, what men are looking for in bed correlates to what women are looking for in emotional connection? That is BRAND NEW INFORMATION! You should write a book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

They don’t?
I have seen quite a few men on this board say that they are looking for a younger woman who grew up with an absent father and has “daddy issues.”

1. I haven’t.
2. They’re looking for pretty women who want to have sex.

I know plenty of men who are very tepid and dull who are with dramatic women. I think they like the drama the wife brings while they remain more stoic. It seems to work for them. To each their own.

No, we enjoy the sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

They don’t?
I have seen quite a few men on this board say that they are looking for a younger woman who grew up with an absent father and has “daddy issues.”

1. I haven’t.
2. They’re looking for pretty women who want to have sex.

I know plenty of men who are very tepid and dull who are with dramatic women. I think they like the drama the wife brings while they remain more stoic. It seems to work for them. To each their own.

No, we enjoy the sex.

You are so pathetic. This is the most important relationship of your life other than (maybe) the relationship you have with your parents. This person has access to all of your finances and will bear and help raise your children, and you can’t think of any reason you might choose this person other than the sex?

That is so sad. No wonder men don’t have any friends.

[Anonymous]

The same reason men that are attracted to messed up women: dysfunctional childhood. Normal and stable makes them feel unloved. If raised in an alcoholic, emotionally neglectful, or violent or screaming, unstable household, the person equates lots of drama to love. They feel neglected and unstable unless there is a lot of drama going on in their relationships. These are the people that will go out and have affairs in stable, happy marriages, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same reason men that are attracted to messed up women: dysfunctional childhood. Normal and stable makes them feel unloved. If raised in an alcoholic, emotionally neglectful, or violent or screaming, unstable household, the person equates lots of drama to love. They feel neglected and unstable unless there is a lot of drama going on in their relationships. These are the people that will go out and have affairs in stable, happy marriages, etc.

+1 they need a lot of external validation.

Many suffer from 'histrionic personality disorder' stemming from childhood.